A friend of mine asked me to consider today what are the non-negotiables in my interactions with other people, be they intimate relationships, professional relationships, activist work, pastimes, etc.
I answered: "1. Respect that I am the definitive expert on my own life. 2. Emotional honesty. 3. Center consent. Everything else I value seems to flow from those three things."
So: What are your non-negotiables?
(Naturally, acknowledging that even "non-negotiables" are sometimes subject to terrible bargaining, and that what seems non-negotiable at one time in your life may change with experience or circumstance. Among about a dozen other additional reasons why I trust none of us will audit each other's responses in this thread.)
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