Rupert Murdoch: Still the Absolute Worst

[Content Note: Racism.]

Last night, conservative media magnate and real-life cartoon villain Rupert Murdoch tweeted this shit in support of Republican presidential candidate Dr. Ben Carson:

screen cap of tweet authored by Murdoch reading: 'Ben and Candy Carson terrific. What about a real black President who can properly address the racial divide?  And much else.'

So, President Obama has been wayyyy too black for conservatives for seven years and now he's not black enough for Rupert Murdoch? Cool.

I think it's super neat when white people who don't believe race is a cultural construct start ranking blackness, without a trace of irony.

Anyway.

It's hard to know what to buy for the billionaire who has everything, but let's all chip in and buy Rupert Murdoch a big bag of STFU. Since he clearly doesn't have one.

image of a sack labeled SHUT UP

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Open Thread

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Hosted by the Isle of Skye.

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Question of the Day

Suggested by Shaker Kathy_A: "What is your favorite traveling memory?"

Obviously, this one.

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Strong Women

[Content Note: Body policing; fat hatred; disablism; misogyny.]

This is a terrific read care of Anne Thériault: "Strong isn't the new skinny."

Anne rightly points out that the use of "strong" as the new aspirational body objective for women is really just a new word to mean the same privileged, fat-hating, disablist shit, and that its use as the new aspirational character objective for female characters is really just the newest way to avoid charges of misogyny while engaging in the same old misogyny.

"Strong" is a problematic trope for women in so many ways—and different ways, depending on the complex identities of the women against whom it's deployed. The Strong Black Woman trope, for example, differs in key ways from the Person with Disabilities Who Overcomes trope, which differs in key ways from Inspirational Fatty trope, etc.

But what every iteration of the "Strong Woman" narrative shares in common is that it is used to "applaud" us (in demeaning, reductive, dehumanizing ways, as all the above links detail) by exploitive people who appropriate evidence of female strength to empower themselves via vicarious triumph, and to "compliment" us by people who want to deflect evidence of harm done to us by citing our allegedly impervious survival capabilities.

Female strength is only something deemed valuable when it can be used by other people at strong women's expense.

Never is that more clear than when a woman actually exhibits strength in her own defense. When she draws boundaries. When she physically harms a man who is trying to harm her. When she engages in self-care. When she categorically refuses to put up with splaining or harassment or catcalling or whatever other horseshit variation of misogyny to which some dude is trying to subject her. When she will not swallow shit, but will ruin the whole goddamn afternoon.

A woman who shows strength to the benefit of no one but herself is not regarded as a strong woman. She is a bitch. She is a cunt. She is uncivil. Her tone is inappropriate. She deserves to be harmed. She deserves to be killed.

She is too sensitive. She is fragile. She can't handle the world. She is weak.

That's how it goes. That's how the Strong Woman becomes the weak bitch, when a woman is strong for herself and for the pleasure of nobody else.

I will say once again: Drawing a line is an act of strength, not weakness.

I used to get upset when I would draw a line, or in some other way show strength on my own behalf, and be called oversensitive, reactionary, hysterical, weak. But that was before I understood how these were (unintentional) acknowledgments of my strength.

Now I just take the compliment and be on my way.

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Quote of the Day

[Content Note: Guns.]

"I never saw a body with bullet holes that was more devastating than taking the right to arm ourselves away."—Republican presidential candidate Dr. Ben Carson, during a Facebook Q&A on Monday.

More devastating to whom, Doctor?

As Shaker Westsidebecca noted in comments, Carson has been on quite a tear with the pro-gun rhetoric in the wake of the UCC shooting, but the above quote is truly gobsmacking to me.

And once more I will note that there is zero legislation, absolutely none, proposing "taking the right to arm ourselves away." Even the most radical gun reform being proposed in Washington does not come close to repealing the Second Amendment. That is hyperbolic and mendacious fearmongering, being peddled by people who are breathtakingly indifferent to victims of gun violence, even as they crow about the "sanctity of life" every time the subject of reproductive rights is mentioned within a ten-mile radius of a microphone.

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The Wednesday Blogaround

This blogaround brought to you by whiskers.

Recommended Reading:

Hari: [Content Note: Racism] Facebooker Posts Slave Jokes About Coworker's 3-Year-Old, Faces Very 2015 Consequences

Chelsea: [CN: Transphobia; gendered body policing; abuse] Military Haircuts

Brittney: [CN: Racism] The Big Father Figure Lie: Race, the Kardashians and the Latest War on Black Moms

TLC: [CN: Transphobia; carcerality] Statement on Ninth Circuit Ruling in Michelle Norsworthy Case

Carolyn: [CN: Misogyny; rape culture] Women: They're Just Like Us! Aaron Sorkin Reveals Approach to Writing Female Characters

Sam: Indigenous Inspiration: 7 Winners of the Indspire Awards in Canada

Trudy: Farewell ❤

I don't think I need to tell the readers of this space how much I like and admire Trudy and value her space, Gradient Lair. I am grateful that she has shared her challenging and exquisite thoughts with us, I am inspired by her firm boundary drawing and insistence on self-care, I am forever appreciative that she consciously made and kept her space safe for fat readers, and I will welcome her back if ever she decides to return. Much love always, Trudz.

Leave your links and recommendations in comments. Self-promotion welcome and encouraged!

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Fu@#ing Hell

[Content Note: Guns.]

Welcome to the Wild West 2.0:

A concealed-carry license holder is now cooperating with police after she opened fire on a shoplifter who was fleeing a Home Depot on Tuesday afternoon, Auburn Hills Police said.

The shooting happened in the store's parking lot at around 2 p.m., when Home Depot security was chasing a shoplifter in his 40s who jumped into a waiting dark SUV, said Lt. Jill McDonnell, an Auburn Hills police spokeswoman.

But when the SUV began to pull away, a 48-year-old woman suddenly began firing shots at the fleeing vehicle. The vehicle escaped – but possibly has a flat tire, McDonnell said.

The woman who fired the shots has a license to carry a firearm and is cooperating with police.

It’s not clear whether the woman would face charges in the incident.

The Home Depot, located on Joslyn, is part of a retail district with hundreds of stores in the area.
So, in a busy parking lot surrounded by a ton of retail shops, in the middle of the afternoon, a woman just opened fire on someone because he shoplifted, which, last I checked, wasn't a crime punishable by death.

This is fucking ridiculous. And the story also notes: "The shooting comes just weeks after a bank customer in Warren opened fire on an armed robber, causing him to collapse from injuries. It's not yet clear whether that man will face charges, either."

I can't imagine that the police actually want this kind of "help." The kind of help that escalates a basic theft case into an active shooter incident, which puts lives at risk and creates more work for police.

And I sure as fuck don't want to be living in a society in which this is considered acceptable. I don't want average people carrying guns around and using them for vigilante justice in the middle of open areas, determining whether it's appropriate to stop what appears to be (and MAY NOT BE) a crime, any crime, with deadly force.

Fuck this. Fuck all of it.

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Two-Minute Nostalgia Sublime

[Content Note: There are some flickery lights in this video.]



Nelson: "(Can't Live Without Your) Love and Affection"

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Daily Dose of Cute

image of Dudley the Greyhound lying on the couch fast asleep with his tongue hanging out
Just a totally typical, tangled leg, lolling tongue, couch disheveling greyhound nap.

As always, please feel welcome and encouraged to share pix of the fuzzy, feathered, or scaled members of your family in comments.

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In the News

Here is some stuff in the news today...

[Content Note: War] It continues: "Russia says it has launched rocket strikes on Islamic State group targets in Syria from warships in the Caspian Sea—about 1,500km (930 miles) away. ...Meanwhile, Syrian ground troops have launched an offensive under Russian air cover, Syrian officials say. Russia denies claims that its week of strikes have mainly hit non-IS targets. ...Russia says it is targeting 'all terrorists,' but at least some of its air strikes have reportedly hit civilians and Western-backed rebels. US Defence Secretary Ash Carter said that coalition forces fighting IS in Syria would not co-operate with Russia. 'We believe Russia has the wrong strategy,' he said. 'They continue to hit targets that are not IS. We believe this is a fundamental mistake.'"

[CN: Flooding; death] An update on South Carolina: "The state faces what will surely be billions of dollars in damages once the waters recede and it attempts to rebuild and replace lost property. President Obama declared a state of emergency in all 46 South Carolina counties on Saturday, which facilitates federal and state response efforts. North Carolina sent 70 members of its National Guard to aid in response efforts. ...The situation in the Palmetto State has somehow only gotten worse since the bulk of the rain hit the state over the weekend. As of Tuesday afternoon, 16 people had died in the floods, the first last week, and tens of thousands lost power. At least 18 dams breached or failed, causing thousands to have to evacuate their homes on short notice before millions of gallons of water burst out of lakes and holding ponds. This makes life even more perilous for a populace told by state officials to stay home and off the roads if their area is safe. Dam breaks will continue to happen even with the sun shining bright because the state received so much rainfall inland that is now gushing downstream into the ocean in a second wave of deadly water." Fucking hell. I'm thinking about you, South Carolinians.

[CN: Transmisogynoir; transphobia violence; death] RIP Kiesha Jenkins, who is "the 20th trans woman reported murdered in the US this year. ...The vast majority of the women killed this year have been transgender women of color." My condolences to her family, friends, and community. I am so sad and so fucking angry about the epidemic of violence in this country against trans women. This is one of those times where my metaphorical teaspoon feels so goddamn inadequate, and I really wish I had a metaphorical dumptruck instead. We desperately need to move the earth faster.

[CN: Homophobia; transphobia] White House Press Secretary Josh Earnest says that the Obama administration is not ready "to endorse the Equality Act, which would expand non-discrimination protections for LGBT people nationwide," because the legislation—which would "amend the Civil Rights Act of 1964 to include protections that ban discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation, gender identity, and sex in the areas of employment, housing, public accommodations, public education, federal funding, credit, and the jury system"—is "still under review by the administration" as there are "significant consequences to this bill going into effect. It has an impact on housing law and a variety of other policies in the federal government, so it's something that's still being carefully reviewed by the administration." Well, hurry up!

[CN: War on agency] This Republican caucus can fuck directly off: "On Saturday, Rep. Marsha Blackburn (R-TN) announced House Republicans will assemble a new select committee to investigate Planned Parenthood... According to Blackburn, the committee's creation is the first part of a three-pronged strategy devised to limit abortion rights in the wake of CMP's fraudulent videos. The committee, to be chaired by Blackburn under the jurisdiction of the Energy and Commerce Committee, plans to push the passage of 'additional pro-life measures' through Congress and 'break the Senate logjam' by crafting a budget reconciliation package with the intent of defunding Planned Parenthood. House Democrats, including House Democratic leader Nancy Pelosi, were swift to condemn the House Republicans' actions, alleging the lawmakers are 'trying to make it easier to shut down the government and harder for millions of women to access the lifesaving health care.'" Goddammit.

[CN: Carcerality; reproductive injustice] This is a must-read piece about Amanda Kimbrough, an Alabama woman who was sentenced to 10 years in prison after her son was delivered stillborn at 25 weeks and she "was prosecuted for the 'chemical endangerment' of her fetus relating to her on-off struggle with drug addiction. The case was pursued so forcefully by the state of Alabama that she was charged with a class A felony—equivalent to murder." Rage. Seethe. Boil.

[CN: Carcerality; war on drugs] In better news: "Roughly 6,000 federal inmates will be released in the coming weeks in an effort to ease prison crowding and lessen harsh penalties for non-violent offenders, US media report. The release is the biggest of its kind in US history, the Washington Post reported. The inmates being released early were all convicted of drug-related charges. An additional 8,500 inmates will be eligible for release starting in November. The US Sentencing Commission unanimously approved the reductions to the jail terms of inmates last year. Up to 46,000 of the nation's about 100,000 drug offenders could qualify for early release under the commission recommendations."

[CN: Rape culture; sexual harassment] Ashley Judd continues to speak out as a survivor and advocate against the rape culture, recounting the time she was groomed and sexually harassed by a studio chief, and how she overcame her feelings of shame and responsibility.

Oh damn! "Hillary Clinton got fed up with her Republican rivals criticizing her record as secretary of state, so she had a solution—send each of them a copy of her book. 'I'm trying to be a good fellow candidate and give them some help,' the Democratic front-runner said during a rally in Iowa. Apparently each GOP candidate (except for Jim Gilmore) received not only a copy of Hard Choices, her 2014 memoir, but also a personalized letter. Clinton, on a bit of a joke spree after her appearance on Saturday Night Live last weekend, got in another jab in Iowa, deadpanning that there are so many candidates on the other side, 'they could have a book club.'" LOL! "Except for Jim Gilmore." LOL!

Oh my heart: "The True Story of the Ugly Duckling." ♥

And finally! Via Shaker AnnaAnastasia, here is just a terrific video of hippos eating watermelons whole. CHOMP! It's basically like when I give Olivia a treat, except on an epic scale, lol.

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See You in Hell!

Did you know the world is going to end today? Well, get ready!

While our planet may have survived September's "blood moon", it will be permanently destroyed on Wednesday, 7 October, a Christian organization has warned.

The eBible Fellowship, an online affiliation headquartered near Philadelphia, has based its prediction of an October obliteration on a previous claim that the world would end on 21 May 2011. While that claim proved to be false, the organization is confident it has the correct date this time.

"According to what the Bible is presenting it does appear that 7 October will be the day that God has spoken of: in which, the world will pass away," said Chris McCann, the leader and founder of the fellowship, an online gathering of Christians headquartered in Philadelphia.

"It'll be gone forever. Annihilated."
OH NOES! The saddest part for me about instant global annihilation is that I'll never get a chance to eat all the Spam I stockpiled in my doomsday prep shelter.

Okay, time to come clean: The reason I am posting this is not because I am sad about the nonexistent Spam in my imaginary bug-out bunker, but because of the following paragraph, which is a real thing in this real Guardian article, and which I love with one million hearts:
Scientists have several theories about when Earth will be destroyed, although none of the data points to this Wednesday. The most widely accepted theory is that the sun, which is already gradually increasing in temperature, will expand and swallow up the planet. Some scientists believe this could happen as soon as 7.6bn years' time.
LOLOLOLOLOLOL foreverrrrrrrrrrrr.

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This Guy Wants to Be President

[Content Note: Guns; violence; anti-choicery.]

Republican Louisiana Governor Bobby Jindal has published quite the rant on his website about the UCC Shooting and who is to blame.

Under the title "We fill Our Culture with Garbage, and We Reap the Result," which is certainly a curious choice for someone running for president and hoping to "reap the result" of our culture-wide choice, he begins: "I'm going to start today by venting, and I will warn you in advance that this is going to be a sermon, but someone needs to speak the truth for a change."

You know when a conservative dude warns you that he's about to bravely engage in some truth-telling, you'd better buckle up and get ready for some hot trash.

Another week, another mass shooting, another press conference by the President lecturing us on the need for gun control, and now Hillary and Obama are in a race to see which of them can be the most extreme in trying to destroy the Second Amendment to the Constitution of the United States. Rinse and repeat.

But there is something missing from this discussion, and it's a glaring omission that everyone knows deep down, but politicians are afraid to talk about.

I'm going to go ahead and talk about it, and I don't care at all if some people don't like it, the truth is important.

What is the root cause of all these evil acts? These people who go into classrooms and churches and murder innocent people? How did we get to this place?

These shootings are a symptom of deep and serious cultural decay in our society.

Let that sink in for a minute.
Okay. Well, I don't need a minute to agree that mass shootings are a symptom of something fucked up in our society. I have the distinct feeling, however, that Governor Jindal and I don't agree on what, exactly, are the fucked up dynamics underwriting mass shootings. It would be pretty extraordinary if a conservative Republican made the case that unregulated gun access, toxic masculinity, white supremacy, and kyriarchal privilege were the hideous stew from which mass shooters emerged.

And, naturally, those are not the things to which Jindal is referring. He blames instead: Violence in pop culture, a disrespect for women and God in "our music," boys who play video video games, abortion, the breakdown of the family (a classic dogwhistle for same-sex marriage), and absentee fathers.

Then, very specifically and personally, he blames Christopher Harper-Mercer's father, who, as you may recall, argued for stricter gun laws.
Now, let's get really politically incorrect here and talk specifically about this horror in Oregon. This killer's father is now lecturing us on the need for gun control and he says he has no idea how or where his son got the guns.

Of course he doesn't know. You know why he doesn't know? Because he is not, and has never been in his son's life. He's a complete failure as a father, he should be embarrassed to even show his face in public. He's the problem here.

He brags that he has never held a gun in his life and that he had no idea that his son had any guns. Why didn't he know? Because he failed to raise his son. He should be ashamed of himself, and he owes us all an apology.

When he was asked what his relationship was with his son, he said he hadn't seen him in a while because he lived with his mother. Case Closed.
Case closed! Well, since Governor Jindal is so interested in the truth, here's a little of it: Lots of people have absentee fathers. Lots of people have fathers who are physically present but emotionally unavailable. Lots of people have fathers who died. Lots of people have two moms. All of those people don't become mass murderers. This is about as thoughtful (that is to say: not at all) as attributing mass shootings exclusively to mental illness, with zero acknowledgement of the fact that most of the people with mental illness don't pick up guns and shoot people.

And here's a little more truth: Harper-Mercer's mother was well into guns. Given the cultural propensity for (erroneously) blaming mothers for all their children's ills, it's pretty neat how suddenly a mother who was into guns and went to the shooting range with her son comes up for no share of the responsibility.

I'm not saying she necessarily should be; just that it's a telling omission from Jindal, who speaks THE TRUTH, except when it comes to addressing that access to and a fascination with actual guns might be more relevant than seeing guns in a video game or a movie.

Jindal concludes:
This mess is not nearly as complicated as we pretend.

It's the old computer axiom – garbage in, garbage out. We fill our culture with garbage, and we reap the result.

If anyone is at all serious about changing any of this, they must address the root problems, and those are cultural decay, the glorification of evil, the devaluation of human life, the breakdown of the family, and specifically the complete abdication of fathers.

Meanwhile, the shallow and simple minded liberals will continue to blame pieces of hardware for the problem, and they will long for the days before firearms were invented.

But the simple truth is, as long as we place no value on human life, as long as we glorify senseless violence and evil, we will get the exact same result.
Lots of blame to go around. Pop culture, lack of religion, abortion, gays, absentee fathers, liberals.

The one person who appears to bear no responsibility whatsoever in Jindal's thesis is Christopher Harper-Mercer.

The party of personal responsibility suddenly decides to take a look at the role culture plays in mass shootings when there is literally nothing else left to let them avoid talking about unregulated access to guns.

And in his determination to assign cultural blame on the other side of the aisle, Governor Jindal has failed entirely to mention that the man who did the shooting bears some responsibility for his actions.

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Cruel and Usual

[Content Note: Self-harm; transphobia.]

It looks the Wisconsin legislature is about to debate a bathroom bill, because of course it is.

I don't see much point in going over the same old arguments. I've yet to see any examples of predators pretending to be trans in order to hurt people in bathrooms. People don't have a right to feel safe in their bigotry. We just need to pee. Etcetera, etcetera.

The timing of this bill is particularly callous. Last week, a sixteen-year-old trans boy in Madison took his own life. He was pretty clear that he didn't want his death to become a cause. I respect that, and since I didn't know him, that's all I'm going to say.

However, I think it's worth noting that a lot of folks in Madison are still mourning. Students, teachers, and community members are redoubling their efforts to make sure that all young people feel welcome in their schools, their neighborhoods, their city. It's an understatement to say that debating trans students' right to use the bathroom feels even more counterproductive than usual.

I'm sure that Representatives Kremer and Nass would say that the timing of their bill is a coincidence. They'll likely plead ignorance. That's the whole problem. They're not interested in our community. They can't be bothered to look into the damning testimony that's come up every other time a legislature has proposed a "bathroom bill." They can't even be arsed to poke their heads out of the Capitol to see what things are like up the street.

They're bullies. They're interested in advancing their own careers at the expensive of other people's well-being. And as usual, they're not even bothering to hide that ugly little fact.

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Hosted by Ben Nevis.

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Question of the Day

Suggested by Shaker DesertRose: "Do you remember the first adult (as in 'not written for kids,' not as in 'sexy') book you read? If so, what was it? How old were you? Have you re-read it in more recent years?"

I'm sure this wasn't actually the first "grown-up" book that I read, but the first one I can remember is Pet Sematary by Stephen King. My mom was a huge Stephen King fan at the time, and I asked her if I could read it, and she said yes, as long as I promised to come talk to her if anything scared or confused me. It was published in 1983, and I think I read it fairly soon after she read it, and she would have read it as soon as she could get her hands on it, so I was probably around 9 or 10.

At the time, watching horror flicks at slumber parties was THE COOLEST THING, so it wasn't even a little weird I was reading horror novels by the time I was a tween. Ah the '80s!

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This Fu@#ing Guy

[Content Note: Guns.]

Your Republican front runner, on why he's changed his mind and now believes assault weapons should be legal:

Donald Trump, on the telephone with CNN Anchor Chris Cuomo, who keeps trying to interrupt Trump but Trump just keeps ignoring him and plowing forward with his rant: —the bad guys are gonna have 'em, Chris! You can say, 'Okay, we're not gonna have 'em,' and you know who's not gonna have the assault weapons? The people—the law-abiding people won't have 'em, but the bad guys won't even look at it. It's like the whole thing with the magazines. You can't put more than seven bullets in a magazine. Now they'll have: You can't put more than two bullets in a magazine. You know, the law-abiding people will listen, and they'll do what they have to do, but the bad guys—the bad guys, you think they're gonna say, 'Oh gee! The law says I'm gonna only put seven bullets in a magazine!'

Cuomo: Well, just because people are gonna break the law doesn't mean that you don't have a law. But you're saying that you're okay with assault weapons as well?

Trump: Well, you have to be, because the bad guys are gonna have 'em anyway! And the answer is yes! And you know a lotta that stuff is used for recreational purposes. They use [sic] for recreational purposes. But you're not gonna have problems with people that are law-abiding people. But what happens when the bad guys have the assault weapons and you don't?!
I mean.

Everything about this is unadulterated horseshit, but nothing is quite so unapologetically foolish as this false dichotomy between "law-abiding people" and "the bad guys." (And don't even get me started on adult human beings talking about "bad guys.") Anyone who legally purchases an assault weapon is a "law-abiding person" until they're not.

That's why every goddamn mass shooting is followed by (quickly fading) news reports about how the guns were all legally purchased.

And, yes, there are crimes in this country committed by people using illegally obtained assault weapons, and none of them (that I recall) are mass shootings, and none of them have been stopped by people (outside law enforcement) who own legally acquired weapons.

The world just doesn't work this way. People who have guns in active shooter situations don't pull them, because they are afraid to be mistaken by law enforcement for the shooter. And people who have guns and try to intervene as heroes sometimes shoot in the head the people they're trying to save.

This idea that more guns will stop gun violence, and that we must keep legal all manner of weaponry because it's the only way to stop the "bad guys" who have illegal weapons (and why must someone with an illegal assault weapon be stopped only with another assault weapon, anyway?), is a fantasy. A ridiculous, dangerous fantasy.

Every single time Donald Trump says anything, I just hear Jerry Orbach as Lenny Briscoe uttering my favorite Law & Order line of all time: "The last time he had an original idea he left it swirling in the bowl."

The glimmering gilded bowl.

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Shaker Gourmet

Whatcha been cooking up in your kitchen lately, Shakers?

Share your favorite recipes, solicit good recipes, share recipes you've recently tried, want to try, are trying to perfect, whatever! Whether they're your own creation, or something you found elsewhere, share away.

Also welcome: Recipes you've seen recently that you'd love to try, but haven't yet!

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Quote of the Day

[Content Note: Racism; white supremacy; erasure.]

"Only a T-shirt, strident and boastful, hip and simple, that cuts right to the chase: We don't see you. We don't see you as rebels, and we don't even see you as slaves."—Rebecca Carroll, in a must-read piece about "Suffragette's publicity campaign and the politics of erasure."

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Two-Minute Nostalgia Sublime



Bros: "When Will I Be Famous?"

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On Women Being Expected to "Tame" Men

[Content Note: Toxic masculinity.]

I tweeted a few thoughts about toxic masculinity and the idea that women are expected to "tame" (straight) men. For those who aren't on Twitter, and to open a place for further discussion, here are those tweets.

screen cap of a tweet authored by me reading: ''He didn't have a girlfriend' isn't why he was a resentful violent shit. Being a resentful violent shit is why he didn't have a girlfriend.'
screen cap of a tweet authored by me reading: 'Women are expected to 'tame' men, but we're loathed & abused for drawing boundaries, i.e. communicating how we want to be treated.'
screen cap of a tweet authored by me reading: 'If a woman suggests some patriarchal behaviour be set off limits, she's despised. Yet we're tasked with 'taming' men.'
screen cap of a tweet authored by me reading: 'To criticize toxic masculinity is to be deemed a 'man-hater,' to try to convince us to care for men and gently 'civilize' them.'
screen cap of a tweet authored by me reading: 'What 'taming' men really amounts to is indulging them & personally sucking up their abuse so it isn't directed at other people.'

I can't put this any more plainly: Women were not put on the planet to "tame" men. But it's the people who believe that we are who most aggressively push back on attempts by women to challenge the toxic masculinity that harms us.

They don't really want women to "tame" men. They want women to submit to men, and they want to blame women for men's violence.

[Related Reading: You Don't Own Women; You're Not Entitled to Women's Affection.]

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