Three Good Reads

[Content Note: Misogyny; racism.]

1. Andrea Grimes: "White Women: Let's Get Our Shit Together."

Among voters, 94 percent of Black women, 90 percent of Black men, 61 percent of Latinas, and 49 percent of Latinos in Texas voted for Wendy Davis.

Meanwhile, just 32 percent of white Texas women who voted did so for Wendy Davis.

You'll hear that Greg Abbott "carried" women voters in Texas. Anyone who says that is also saying this: that Black women and Latinas are not "women," and that carrying white women is enough to make the blanket statement that Abbott carried all women. That women generally failed to vote for Wendy Davis. As if women of color are some separate entity, some mysterious other, some bizarre demographic of not-women.

The story does not begin and end with "men" and "women"; we have to look at which men, which women—particularly if the Democratic Party is ever going to decide to come out fighting hard on issues like immigration reform and moving the gamepiece aggressively forward, rather than backward, on reproductive rights.

Once more, with feeling: Greg Abbott and the Republican Party did not win women. They won white women. Time and time again, people of color have stood up for reproductive rights, for affordable health care, for immigrant communities while white folks vote a straight "I got mine" party ticket—even when they haven't, really, gotten theirs.
Read the whole thing here.

* * *

2. EricaJoy: "The Other Side of Diversity."
Being in therapy has forced me to process my emotions, to understand what is going on in the background cycles of my mind. This has helped to identify exactly what effect being a black woman in tech, being the outlier for 13 years, has had on me. For those who like bullet points, I'll provide those here:

* I feel alone every day I come to work, despite being surrounded by people, which results in feelings of isolation.
* I feel like I stick out like sore thumb every day.
* I am constantly making micro-evaluations about whether or not my actions will be attributed to my being "different."
* I feel like my presence makes others uncomfortable so I try to make them feel comfortable.
* I feel like there isn't anyone who can identify with my story, so I don't tell it.
* I feel like I have to walk a tightrope to avoid reinforcing stereotypes while still being heard.
* I have to navigate the expectation of stereotypical behavior and disappointment when it doesn't happen (e.g. my not being the "sassy black woman").
* I frequently wonder how my race and gender are coloring perceptions of me.
* I wonder if and when I've encountered racists (the numbers say it's almost guaranteed that I have) and whether or not they've had an effect on my career.
* I feel a constant low level of stress every day, just by virtue of existing in my environment.
* I feel like I've lost my entire cultural identity in effort to be part of the culture I've spent the majority of the last decade in.

The stress and isolation I mentioned have really taken their toll on me.
Read the whole thing here.

* * *

3. Erik Loomis: "Postmortem."
Democrats need to just stop trying to appeal to old white people. White men voted for the GOP 64-34. It is a loser strategy. ...Heard a bunch about the North Carolina race last night and all the discussion about how Ebola, ISIS, and immigration dominated voters’ agenda. When I hear those three things in this context, I hear three words: racism, racism, and racism.

...Democrats have to rethink their midterm election strategy is a very real way. It's one thing when there's a presidential campaign. But the politics of midterm elections means that the same types of political calculations don't work. How do you do that? You make your party about actual issues that young people and people of color care about. You support legalizing marijuana and prison reform. You support a vigorous government jobs program. You embrace immigration all the way, demonizing those who oppose a path to citizenship and the decriminalization of undocumented immigrants as racists. You make a $15 national minimum wage central to your campaign strategy. You have to call for student debt forgiveness. You have to make your party the party of the poor and the non-white, and not just in the passive way. If the racists and the plutocrats don't like that, well, they weren't going to vote for you anyway.
Read the whole thing here.

Open Wide...

Two-Minute Nostalgia Sublime



Theme from Blossom

(Has anyone figured out this week's theme yet?)

Open Wide...

In the News

Here is some stuff in the news today...

[Content Note: Murder; domestic violence; video may autoplay at link] In a follow-up on one of yesterday's items, the man who posted pictures of a murdered woman to 4¢han has turned himself into police and has been with "second-degree murder involving domestic violence." My condolences to the friends and family of Amber Lynn Coplin. Goddammit.

[CN: Abuse; stalking; domestic violence; homophobia; misogyny] This is a video of Bill Nye the (Evo Psych) Science Guy essentially urging nightmare paparazzi outlet TMZ to go stalk two women he doesn't like. It's difficult to sum up briefly, but it appears that the actor Robert Picardo filed for divorce from his then-wife in 2012. In July of this year, they were involved in a domestic violence incident which resulted in her getting a restraining order against him. In August, Picardo went to court to try to get her to "stop spreading gossip" about him and Nye having an affair. Now, three months later, when asked a totally unrelated question about being afraid of spiders, Nye tells reporters they should instead be going after Picardo's ex and his own ex (with whom he has a troubled history as well, which may involve her being physical against him and/or him being emotionally abusive to her). I have never heard a peep about Nye's troubling history with women, but, as soon as I shared this story with friends, a female scientist noted he's a guy about whom she's heard whispered warnings from colleagues. In the middle of the Jian Ghomeshi story, it feels important to mention this.

[CN: Clergy abuse] Today, the Chicago Archdiocese is expected "to release internal files of more than 30 priests who church officials found had sexually abused children" and detailing "how the archdiocese dealt with abuse allegations during the past six decades." Or didn't.

[CN: Violence] Fucking hell: "Drummer Phil Rudd of Australian rock band AC/DC whose hits include 'Dirty Deeds Done Dirt Cheap' was accused Thursday of trying to arrange two killings as well as possession of drugs. He appeared briefly at the Tauranga District Court in his adopted home of New Zealand and was charged with attempting to procure murder, which carries a maximum prison term of 10 years. Rudd, 60, was released on bail. One of the conditions is that he must not have any contact with anyone involved in the alleged plot." Sure. He seems trustworthy.

[CN: Class warfare; food insecurity] Just like Jesus would do: "Last month, Ft. Lauderdale city officials passed a new measure to crack down on people feeding the homeless. On Sunday, two days after the new law went into effect, Arnold Abbott, 90, a longtime advocate for the homeless and regular volunteer at a local soup kitchen, was arrested for the crime of giving food to the needy. He now faces up to 60 days in jail and a $500 fine. ...In an interview with Local 10, he recounted the experience. 'One of the police officers said, 'Drop that plate right now,' as if I were carrying a weapon,' said Abbott."

Neat! "A 248-million-year-old fossil of an ancient reptile found in China is the oldest known member of a well-known group of marine reptiles, and may have lived both on land and in the sea. The specimen is a primitive type of ichthyopterygian, a group related to ichthyosaurs, which are large marine reptiles that dominated the world's oceans after the Permian-Triassic extinction. In that event, which occurred 252 million years ago, up to 96 percent of marine animals and 70 percent of land animals went extinct. The recently discovered fossil provides new evidence that ichthyosaurs evolved from creatures that lived on land, researchers say."

This is probably the cutest thing you will see all day: A baby makes her first attempt at crawling, while the family dog watches. Stay tuned for the ending!

This baby sea otter learning to swim is definitely making a strong play for cutest thing of the day, though!

And so is this snuggly, hugging cat! I DECLARE IT A TIE! YOU'RE ALL WINNERS!!!

Open Wide...

Quote of the Day

"Congress will pass some bills I cannot sign. I'm pretty sure I will take some actions that some in Congress will not like. That's natural. That's how our democracy works."—President Barack Obama, at a post-midterm press conference yesterday, during which he noted, "Obviously, Republicans had a good night."

I hope that by "some bills I cannot sign," he was politely saying, "100% of bills I will never sign."

Open Wide...

Good News: Carlesha Freeland-Gaither Found Alive

[Content Note: Abduction; violence; sexual assault. Video may begin playing automatically at second link.]

Yesterday I mentioned that 22-year-old Carlesha Freeland-Gaither had been abducted off a Philadelphia street last weekend, her abduction caught on camera, and police and her family desperately searching for her and asking the public for help.

Last night, Freeland-Gaither was found, being held by the man who abducted her. She had some physical injuries, from which she is expected to make a full recovery. She is also emotionally traumatized, and I hope she will have all the support and access to care she needs to process what was done to her.

I am filled with an abundance of joy and relief that she was found alive. I am so happy for her, not for what she has gone through but that she has survived it, and for her family and friends, who must be overwhelmed with emotion.

Delvin Barnes, the 37-year-old man who abducted Freeland-Gaither, has a history of violence against women. He recently released from prison after being convicted for a 2005 assault on his estranged wife, during which he held her captive, beat her, raped her, and attacked her parents when they tried to rescue her.

Soon after getting out of prison, Barnes abducted, raped, and tortured a 16-year-old girl, whom he released. DNA matched him to the crime, and a warrant was issued for his arrest on October 28. Presumably, he will now be charged with that assault as well as the assault on Freeland-Gaither.

Freeland-Gaither was rescued in part because of an anonymous woman who found a trash bag in her driveway, which contained "a receipt from an ACME supermarket in Northeast Philadelphia, a bag of Herr's potato chips, and shattered glass." (Freeland-Gaither had shattered the car's rear passenger window trying to get away.) After realizing the garbage may have been related to the abduction, the woman called police, who then "were able to use the receipt to hone in on the supermarket and gather clear surveillance video of Barnes from the day of the attack."

Police were also able to track Barnes' vehicle, in which he abducted and held Freeland-Gaither, using "a GPS device placed inside the vehicle by the car dealership where it was purchased...because Barnes had poor credit."

It's interesting, ahem, that the law allows for GPS installations because a man has bad credit, but would not allow the same because a man has a history of abducting and torturing women. Priorities.

Anyway. I am glad that Carlesha Freeland-Gaither is safe. She survived being held captive, but surviving will be something she does for the rest of her life. I wish her strength and safety and peace, and some measure of justice, whatever that looks like for her.

Open Wide...

Happy Birthday, Iain!

Today is Iain's birthday, so it's the annual posting of the CUTEST BABY PICTURE EVERRRRRR!

image of Iain as a baby, with a tumble of curly red hair, freckly fat cheeks, and wearing a winter snowflake sweater
It's my burfday!

Happy birthday to my husband and my best friend, who is just THE BEST.

♥ I love you, Iain. ♥

Open Wide...

Open Thread

image of a zither, a stringed musical instrument

Hosted by a zither.

(A beautiful instrument and also one of my favorite Scrabble words.)

Open Wide...

Question of the Day

If you could wear what you wanted every day, what would you be found wearing on most days?

Well, I can pretty much wear whatever I want most days, and I am typically found wearing jeans and a tank top. Once it gets cooler, jeans and a tank top and a cardigan.

Open Wide...

#DudesGreetingDudes

[Content Note: Street harassment.]

This is amazing. I ♥ Elon James White. That is all.

Open Wide...

Quote of the Day

"We're back to a majority as big as any of us have seen in our lifetimes. It may be a hundred-year majority."—Chair of the National Republican Congressional Committee and Republican Representative from Oregon Greg Walden.

Walden also noted: "We're back with youth, we're back with diversity, and we're back with women."

LOL settle down, pal.

Call me a cockeyed optimist, but I suspect that, just like every other time voters have gotten a good whiff of the Republican agenda, that majority will be short-lived.

That said, let us all say a prayer and sacrifice a gold car elevator upon the altar of our lord and savior Jesus Jones for the continued good health of Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg.

And her marginally progressive compatriots.

(I know that sounds flippant, but I'm actually quite serious. Apart from wishing Bader Ginsburg well just on general human principle, whether she can remain seated until another Democratic majority is also a real concern. Which is fucked up and another reason that lifetime appointments to the Supreme Court are the worst.)

Open Wide...

So Glad Our Oppression Amuses You, Sir

[Content Note: Misogyny; references to misogynist violence; othering; racism; disablist language.]

Joss Whedon is widely considered a Great Feminist Ally, because he puts ladies in his television and film projects. And because he talks about feminism.

And, because he is a straight white cis dude, with lots of visibility and influence, he gets asked to talk about feminism a lot.

Since no one is a better spokesperson for feminism, no one's voice more important, than super privileged dudes.

In an interview with Vulture published yesterday, Whedon was asked about men's role in feminism and what surprises him about gendered attacks online:

How would you advise men in the world who are shy about saying they're into feminism? What do you think is the best way to support the cause?
Well, they need money, they need volunteers. Action is the best way to say anything. A guy who goes around saying "I'm a feminist" usually has an agenda that is not feminist. A guy who behaves like one, who actually becomes involved in the movement, generally speaking, you can trust that. And it doesn't just apply to the action that is activist. It applies to the way they treat the women they work with and they live with and they see on the street.

Especially since you participate in the online realm, where things can get a little hateful, what for you is the most surprising thing about how people attack each other because of sex or gender?
You know, it's one of those things that's always surprising. I was raised by a very strong woman, I didn't know feminism was actually a thing until I left home and found out the country didn't run the way my mom's house did. So I have this goldfish, idiot, forgetful thing in that every time I'm confronted with true misogyny, I'm stunned. I'm like, Really? That's like, I don't believe in airplanes. It's like, What century are you from? I don't get it. So usually I'm shocked, then occasionally amused, then occasionally extremely not amused, but once I get over the shock, it's very clear that misogyny in our own culture — and not just where they perform genital [cutting] and marry off 10-year-olds — runs so deep. When I see this hate bubbling up towards any kind of progress, my reaction is twofold: First, it's horror, and then, it's delight, because you don't get this kind of anger unless real change is actually happening. It is a chaotic time. It's an ugly time because change is happening. It would be lovely to be living after the change has happened.
Wowabunga!

Okay, there is a lot to unpack here—and I will leave it to you to unpack all of it in comments!—but three quick thoughts:

1. Yes, it is true that a man who talks a good talk is usually not the best feminist ally! Also: A man who doesn't push back on the fact that there is a singular feminist "cause" (and, in fact, reiterates the idea by referencing a singular "movement") is also generally not the best feminist ally, given that he is casually ignoring the reality that feminism is a vast and varied spectrum of activism, with deeply entrenched privilege, and it's actually not the most helpful thing, generally speaking, to throw money at the most visible organizations, which tends to perpetuate power imbalances rooted in privilege.

2. Setting up a dichotomy between misogyny and "true misogyny," thus implying there are a lot of feminist hysterics who get their panties all in a bunch about stuff that isn't "true misogyny" (as determined by being filtered through Objective Men's Validity Prisms, I presume) is bullshit. And, for the love of Maude, stop using women and girls who are subjected to heinous acts of violence outside this country as props in male-centered games of Just How Bad Is Misogyny, Really?

Just because Whedon is using more sophisticated language here doesn't mean that he's still not basically saying: "Misogyny exists here, too, and happens to White Ladies born right in the good ol' USA, not just in those other places where swarthy men with cuckoo religions hurt their dark-skinned women in ways of which we Civilized Gentlemen would never dream!" This is gross and unhelpful.

3. FUCK YOUR AMUSEMENT AT OUR OPPRESSION, SIR. No one, and I mean no one, who expresses that he's "amused" or "delighted" by evidence of harm done to women, for any reason, is my fucking ally. For that matter, no one who thinks it's cool to talk about how "shocking" it is, without any seeming awareness of how shock at oppression is a manifestation of privilege, is my fucking ally.

And neither is anyone who ignorantly disgorges some variation on "that just means you're doing something right" in response to women being routinely harassed, stalked, threatened, and abused by legions of hateful shitlords. Did Whedon stop for a moment to consider what it sounds like to a feminist activist, or any woman, who's the target of the misogyny he finds so shocking, amusing, and/or horrifying, to hear he's delighted that evidence of our harm is an indication (to him) that things are changing?

Because what it sounds like to me the aggressively flippant cruelty of a man who has not considered that evidence of improvement is not measured in more intensely vile misogyny, but less.

Things aren't getting better for me, Joss Whedon, when petulant privileged patriarchs take out their rageful fear on me.

"It would be lovely to be living after the change has happened," says Whedon. I bet! I can't even imagine how lovely it would be for someone who is not targeted by misogynist oppression and harm to be living after "the change."

It will probably be much better than the billions of lives women have lived and are living, from the day of our births/transitions to the day that we die, being treated as less than in every conceivable way, who don't have the goddamned luxury to be "shocked" by misogyny and who sure as shit don't find it a "delightful" indicator that things are definitely getting better!

My contempt for this shit cannot be measured on a scale fathomable by human intellect.

If you really want to be an effective ally, Joss Whedon, here's a suggested response for the next time you get asked what "the most surprising thing about how people attack each other because of sex or gender" is: The number of "good men" who still express surprise about it at all.

[Related Reading: You Are Humorless and Oversensitive.]

Open Wide...

Daily Dose of Cute

series of 4 images of Zelda the Black and Tan Mutt, looking at me, licking my hand, and then cuddling up beside me
Zelly: "Hi! Kisses! Snuggle!"

As always, please feel welcome and encouraged to share pix of the fuzzy, feathered, or scaled members of your family in comments.

Open Wide...

The Wednesday Blogaround

This blogaround brought to you by sparrows.

Recommended Reading:

Seattlish: [Content Note: Rape culture] WA State Supreme Court Makes Terrible Decision

Julianne: Latino, Immigration Groups Demand Reform After GOP's Sweeping Wins

BYP: [CN: Racism; misogyny; class warfare; criminalization of need] Report: Poor Black Women Evicted as Much as Black Men Are Incarcerated

TLC: [CN: Transphobia; racism; misogyny; class warfare; stigma against sex workers and against addiction] Oakland to Force Landlords to Evict Suspected Sex Workers

Kara: [CN: Choice policing; rape apologia] Alcohol and Inclusivity: Planning Tech Events with Non-Alcoholic Options

Graydon2: [CN: Fascism; white/male supremacy; misogyny] The EntitleMen: Techno-Libertarian Right Wing Sockpuppets of Silicon Valley

Leave your links and recommendations in comments. Self-promotion welcome and encouraged!

Open Wide...

Two-Minute Nostalgia Sublime



Theme from Hill Street Blues

Open Wide...

In the News

Here is some stuff in the news today...

[Content Note: Abduction; video may autoplay at link] Police are asking for help in locating a person of interest who matches the description of a man who violently abducted Carlesha Freeland-Gaither from a Philadelphia street last weekend: "They're the first new clues investigators have found since the 22-year-old nurse's aide was forced into a gray metallic Ford Taurus in the Germantown section of Philadelphia late Sunday. She tried to fight off the 5-foot-10-inch tall man with a medium-heavyset build, but was unable. Once inside the car, she kicked or punched out the car's rear windows in an attempt to escape, witnesses told NBC10. ...None of the witnesses were able to get a license plate number for the kidnapper's car." Fuck.

Republican Tim Scott, elected to the US Senate from the state of South Carolina, becomes the fifth black US Senator in history and the first from the South since the 19th century.

[CN: Murder; disablism; video may autoplay at link] In Oregon, Jillian McCabe is charged with aggravated murder, murder, and first and second degree manslaughter after throwing her six-year-old son with autism off of a bridge. Every single thing about this family's circumstances suggests a breakdown of robust social support and accommodation. For the boy, for his father who was diagnosed with MS, and for his mother who, according to those who knew her, "suffered a mental collapse in the face of the challenges of caring for her son and her husband—and didn't get proper mental health care." Or, possibly, did not have access to it. I am not implying that what she did was in any way okay, or that she should not be held responsible. I'm observing that these things don't happen in a vacuum. I'm not minimizing her accountability; I'm exploring my own.

[CN: War] I don't even know what to say: "The Pentagon has denied that the US strategy against Islamic State (Isis) is in disarray after a series of setbacks as the war known as Operation Inherent Resolve stretches into its fourth month. 'I don't believe that we view current events as a major setback to the goals that we've set with respect to training and equipping the moderate opposition' in Syria, said Rear Admiral John Kirby, the Pentagon's chief spokesman. Kirby's remarks came days after an al-Qaida-aligned faction routed one of the Syrian resistance groups on which the US has been depending to anchor an anti-Isis proxy force. The Nusra Front, al-Qaida's affiliate in Syria, appears now to be allying with Isis, an indication that the Islamist extremist group's fortunes are rising."

[CN: Murder; video may autoplay at link] Photos posted at 4¢han may have been images of a crime scene posted by the killer, who predicted a murdered woman would be found by a family member. Which then happened. Police are investigating. At best, another delightful 4¢han member thought it would be a hilarious gag to pretend to have murdered a woman who was actually murdered by someone else. Fucking hell.

Gravity may be responsible for why we only experience time moving forward and not backward.

The first photograph of a human being ever taken.

And finally! Here is a video of a Pomeranian doing the backstroke. Haha!

Open Wide...

Hummingbirds in Slow Motion

Because why not?


Video Description: Slow-motion video footage from Earth Unplugged of hummingbirds drinking sugar water from a feeder, then playing in a fountain. The footage, show with a slow-motion camera, allows us to see the delicate movement of their wings, their tiny wee tongues stretching out from their beaks, their tails ruddering their flight, and their bodies held perfectly still in the midst of all this extraordinary movement.

* * *

They are such amazing creatures. Earlier this year, Iain saw a hummingbird in person for the first time. We sat quietly and watched it for a good ten minutes, as it darted from tree branch to feeder and back again several times. Watching Iain watch the hummingbird with an expression of perfect delight was one of my favorite things ever.

Open Wide...

Jobs

In news that is apparently unrelated to electoral politics according to a majority of voters in yesterday's midterms: "U.S. private employers added 230,000 jobs in October, the most since June and exceeding economists' expectations as mid-sized businesses added the most workers in more than seven years, a report by a payrolls processor showed on Wednesday. ...Including October's gain, the U.S. economy has produced more than 200,000 private-sector jobs for a record seven straight months, dating back to the ADP series origin in May 2001. Private employers have now added jobs for 56 straight months at an average rate of more than 186,000 per month."

I blame Obama! ...Wait.

Open Wide...

Midterm Results

Well, there is good news and there is bad news. Let's start with the good news.

The good news is that many ballot measures favoring social and/or economic justice passed and many that didn't failed.

Minimum wage hikes passed in Alaska, Arkansas, Illinois, Nebraska, South Dakota—every state in which a proposed minimum wage increase was on the ballot.

Anti-abortion personhood amendments failed in Colorado and North Dakota.

Marijuana (small amounts for recreational use) was legalized in Alaska, D.C., and Oregon. This is important because the war on drugs has ruined an awful lot of lives, especially the lives of young, poor people of color, because small amounts of marijuana for recreational use is not legal.

Prop 47 passed in California, which "reduces the classification of most nonviolent crimes from a felony to a misdemeanor," and makes eligible for reduced sentences thousands of inmates who are currently serving time for "drug possession and the following offenses when less than $950 is involved: shoplifting, check and credit fraud, forgery, theft a,nd possession of stolen goods." Basically, California voters voted no on the continued criminalization of need.

Illinois voters voted yes to the state legislature requiring prescription birth control to be covered in prescription drug coverage health insurance plans, yes to raising income tax on income of $1m or more to provide additional revenue to schools, and voted yes to prohibiting voter suppression in the state.

Oregon voters voted yes to an equal rights measure that "guarantees equal rights regardless of sex."

So, lots of good stuff. As Angus Johnston noted on Twitter, "It's really hard to gerrymander a referendum is one of yesterday's lessons."

Now for the bad news:

The extremely restrictive anti-abortion amendment proposed in Tennessee passed. I expect it will challenged in court.

And for the really bad news:

The Republicans now control a majority of both Houses of Congress, a majority of state governorships, and a majority of state legislatures.

I wonder what they'll do first with all this power: Repeal the Affordable Care Act, or criminalize puppies?

Senator Rand Paul's speech last night provides some insight into what their agenda will probably be: "Paul spoke of a sharply conservative agenda for the new Senate: tax cuts, balancing the budget, approving the Keystone XL pipeline, and 'repealing every last vestige of Obamacare.'" Terrific!

So, that's where we are. The Republicans have said that they're the ones who can "save this country," so let's see some saving, assholes.

Finally: As always, there will be an abundance of think pieces about how the Democrats need to respond to losing by running even further right. THIS IS A TERRIBLE IDEA. Even the most cursory glance at the results of ballot initiatives across the country, even in very conservative states, exposes the grave faultiness of this reasoning. We don't need another version of conservatives, "only less so!" We need progressives.

And we literally needed them yesterday.

Open Wide...

Open Thread

image of zebras standing on a savannah

Hosted by zebras.

Open Wide...

Question of the Day

Suggested by Shaker kiwi_a: "What's your favourite tech tip (anything from keyboard shortcuts, useful apps or browser extensions, to advice for cable tidying or appliance installation around the home/office)?"

I really like this question, even though I can't think of a good tech tip to offer!

Open Wide...