It Continues to Be a Real Mystery Why Republicans Aren't Connecting with a Majority of Female Voters

[Content Note: White supremacy; reproductive coercion; misogyny.]

...And men of color. And immigrants.

Republican State House Speaker Thom Tillis of North Carolina, who is the current Republican nominee for US Senate running against Democratic incumbent Senator Kay Hagan, said in a 2012 interview that "the 'traditional' voting bloc of his home state wasn't growing like as minority populations."

[Tillis] was asked what he thought of Hispanics not supporting Republicans.

"When you see all of these things that have transpired, what do you think about?" Carolina Business Review host Chris William asked Tillis.

In response, Tillis said that the answer had more to do with "demographics of the country."

"If you take a look, you mentioned the Hispanic population — the African American population, there's a number of things that our party stands for that they embrace," Tillis said. He went on to say that Republican need to do a better job reaching out to minority voters. Tillis then said that unlike the Hispanic or black populations, which have been growing, the "traditional population of North Carolina and the United States is more or less stable."
Talking Points Memo asked Tillis' campaign Communications Director Daniel Keylin for comment, and Keylin spun into action: "'Traditional' North Carolinians refers to North Carolinians who have been here for a few generations. A lot of the state's recent population growth is from people who move from other states to live, work, and settle down in North Carolina. Thom Tillis for example."

Which is a pretty solid bullshit effort, but it's readily apparent from the transcript that's not what Tillis meant at all (emphasis mine):
The traditional population of North Carolina and the United States is more or less stable. It's not growing. The African American population is roughly growing but the Hispanic population and the other immigrant populations are growing in significant numbers. We've got to resonate with those future voters.
Whooooooops.

Anyone who has been paying attention knows that the "white minority" alarmism is a thing among conservatives. There are a significant number of conservatives who are fearful about more brown babies being born than white babies, and who haven't the slightest compunction about publicly discussing that fear.

Tillis was talking about birth rates and brown immigrants, and we all know it.

And embedded, always, in that sort of rhetoric is the reproductive policing of white women, and women of color, for different reasons. White women aren't having enough babies. Women of color are having too many babies.

White women need to have more babies and raise them up to vote for Republicans.

Yeah. It's a real mystery how Republicans aren't winning the female vote.

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Question of the Day

Suggested by Shaker koach: "Do you like hobbies that are easy and relaxing or complex and challenging? [Or some of each?] Why?"

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Misandry Helmet for Summer!

Two weeks ago, I noted I'd had a dream that Amy McCarthy and I had gotten matching mohawks MISANDRY HELMETS. Because why wouldn't I dream that? Obviously.

This weekend, I made it happen. Here is my new misandry helmet for summer:

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It's spiky right down the center of the back, too. Crucial for any proper misandry helmet.

Naturally, I had to tweet a pic at Amy, who replied: "LISS. That is AMAZING. I am now strongly considering copying you, you know, so they can match." To which I responded: "Dooooooo iiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiit. (I mean, you know, if you want to, lol!)"

I'm sure if we all really try (by which I mean, those of us who want to), we can definitely make this THE SUMMER OF THE MISANDRY HELMET.

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In Unsurprising News

[Content Note: Misogyny.]

Judges with Daughters More Often Rule in Favor of Women's Rights.

This has also been found to be true of male legislators.

It's great that people with daughters feel more inclined to support women's rights. But it would be even better if people in positions of power over the law would support women's rights on the basis that women are human beings, not that they have to protect girl children long designated as their property.

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We Need to Listen to This

[Content Note: Rape culture; sexual violence.]

Another thing that happens when I meet new people—although this tends to happen one-on-one, rather than in groups—when I am asked about my job and talk about what kind of advocacy I do, is that people tell me about surviving abuse.

Usually, it is women, and sometimes men.

They tell me about having survived childhood sex abuse, or adult sexual assault, or the abusive relationships they've managed to safely leave.

They tell me about reporting the crimes against them, and their fight for justice. They tell me about being in the papers, if their case was notable enough, and what that felt like; what that did to them.

They tell me about how it broke apart their families, or how it made them realize who their true friends are.

Or they tell me about how they kept silent, because they were scared to report it, or didn't know how, or tried but were denied help.

Often, it is the same people telling me about times they reported, and times they kept silent. Because lots of people tell me about being assaulted multiple times.

They tell me about their friends who were raped, or their partners—by other people. They tell me about times they narrowly escaped assault.

They tell me about what triggers them, about their nightmares, about how having been assaulted or survived an attempted assault has changed their lives, or how it hasn't.

They tell me about their therapists, their support networks, the things that have helped, and the things that haven't.

They tell me about friends or family members currently in abusive relationships, and ask me what they should do. They ask for resources, to help or to heal.

Sometimes, they tell me about a time they weren't raped because they gave in to "sex" to protect themselves, and they are really telling me about being sexually coerced, about being raped.

Sometimes, they tell me about a time they were coerced, or gave in out of fear, and they ask me if it was rape.

Sometimes, women tell me that they have never been raped. They tell me with a voice and an expression that does not convey relief, but fear. It is difficult to know so many other women who have survived sexual assault, and not feel like the only thing you can safely say is, "I haven't been raped...yet."

They tell me their stories, and I listen.

What I don't do is tell survivors that they are to blame. I don't ask them questions that suggest they could have done something differently. I don't scrutinize or audit their stories. I am not a court of law. I listen, and I believe them.

I offer what support I can. I am angry, when they need me to be angry. (To be precise: I express anger when it is appropriate. Like the Hulk, I'm always angry.) And I remember them.

I almost can't recall a time in my life where I didn't intimately understand the costs of disbelief, but, even if I didn't know myself what being disbelieved feels like, even if I were inclined to imagine that there was reason to disbelieve most people who report having been assaulted, I couldn't. I wouldn't. Not after all this listening.

Every time there is a rape case in the news, the chorus of apologists emerge to sing the same refrain. What if s/he's lying? How do we know? Where is the proof? La la la.

This is an argument no person could make who has listened, really listened, to so many survivors' stories. No one who has looked into the eyes of a person who shares the betrayal done to them as though they're the ones who are confessing to a crime; no one who has heard the hurt and the anger and the regret; no one who has seen every emotion, from hatred to indifference, on the faces and in the voices of survivors, could make this argument.

They would know too clearly, too unavoidably, that there is no upside to the invention of such tales. Not for most people. Not for anyone to whom I've ever listened.

We need to listen to this. To survivors. To their stories. And we're not really listening when we're talking, when we're auditing, when we're investigating their stories for cracks in the edifice to prove our presumption of dishonesty.

We need to not pretend that scrutiny is listening. That we are courts of law. That a survivor who shares hir story is testifying.

We need to know when to pushback, and when to listen—and when to call out the people who are getting it precisely backwards, and deliberately so.

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Assvertising

[Content Note: Misogyny; racism; coercion.]

Part wev in an infinitely ongoing series...

Via Shaker KatherineSpins comes this picture of an ad for Athenos Feta cheese:

picture of an older woman wearing a scarf on her head and holding a wood bowl full of feta and watermelon salad, who is meant to be Yiayia, accompanied by text reading: 'Feta & Watermelon Yiayia's Way: 1. Organize arranged marriage for daughter. 2. Crumble Athenos Feta over watermelon in bowl. 3. If daughter resists, call priest. 4. Sprinkle cucumber and mint over salad. 5. Exorcise demon from daughter. 6. Enjoy feta and watermelon salad.'

"YiaYia" is a Greek term of endearment for "grandmother." It's interesting, ahem, how many immigrant groups to the US which were nonwhite many years ago, and then were subsumed into the broad, vague category of "white," are now being used in place of overtly racist stereotypes.

There's definitely a very cynical trend in advertising to appropriate "white ethnic" stereotypes, in order to pluck the same strings as racist stereotypes while hiding behind a defense of white assimilation.

(Which is not to suggest that overly racist stereotypes are not still being used in advertising, because they are. It's just that some advertisers think they're being savvy by pulling this shit, but I SEE YOU.)

Further, I don't know how the hell this advertisement made it through the vetting process without someone flagging that coerced marriage isn't a fucking joke. I can only assume the vetting process consists of holding the mock-up in front of a dog and seeing if she wags her tail.

"Welp, Rosie thinks it looks great! Print it!"

Anyway. Athenos is part of the Kraft Food Group. If you would like to contact Athenos and/or Kraft and ask them to reconsider their advertising strategy, here is some contact information:

Athenos' Facebook page. | Kraft Facebook page.

Athenos on Twitter. | Kraft on Twitter.

Athenos/Kraft contact form.

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Daily Dose of Cute

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She's so cuuuuuuuuuuuute! ♥

As always, please feel welcome and encouraged to share pix of the fuzzy, feathered, or scaled members of your family in comments.

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The Monday Blogaround

This blogaround brought to you by the scent of freshly cut grass.

Recommended Reading:

[Content Note: Abuse] This summer, Lauren Chief Elk and Suey Park will be having "a weekly Summer School show [on] issues related to gender violence and organizing." Last night was the first episode on Abuser Dynamics, and Trudy did a terrific Storify of her live-tweeting, which I'm sharing with her permission, in case you missed the first episode.

BYP: [CN: Guns; death; injury] At Least Two Killed and 25 Others Wounded in Shootings Across Chicago Over the Weekend

CBPP: [CN: Food insecurity; classism] New Data Provide Sobering Look at Concentrated Poverty in Schools

Julianne: [CN: Disablism; agism; carcerality] Prisons' Fastest Growing Population: Mentally Ill, Aging Inmates

Fannie: [CN: Misogyny; harassment] Obvious News: Female Construction Workers Harassed, MRAs Do Nothing

Andy: President Obama to Issue Executive Order Protecting LGBT Employees of Federal Contractors

Becky: Ouya CEO Julie Uhrman Talks Indie Development and an Exclusive Female-Led Game

Leave your links and recommendations in comments. Self-promotion welcome and encouraged!

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Two-Minute Nostalgia Sublime



Tina Turner: "Better Be Good to Me"

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In the News

Here is some stuff in the news today...

[Content Note: Terrorism; death; injury] Absolutely horrific: "Suspected Islamist militants [from the Islamist group al-Shabaab] have killed at least 48 people near a popular tourist resort in Kenya, officials said on Monday, the bloodiest attack in the country since the Westgate mall siege in Nairobi. Among the dead were men who had been watching a football World Cup match at a hotel in the coastal town of Mpeketoni, close to the island of Lamu. Gunmen pulled them aside and ordered women to watch as they killed them, a police commander told the Associated Press." It's really interesting how our "war on terror" doesn't seem to include giving a single shit about the terrorism going on in African states without major oil exports.

[CN: Torture; indefinite detention] In May, I mentioned that US District Judge Gladys Kessler had ordered Guantánamo Bay officials to hand over dozens of secret videos as part of a lawsuit regarding the force-feeding of hunger striker Abu Wa'el Dhiab. Twenty-eight videos have now been handed over, and three of them have been entered into evidence. And this: "Rabbani's affidavit says authorities have stopped filming all force-feeding sessions in response to Kessler's order to hand the tapes over to lawyers. 'It is a great shame as I would always describe loudly for the camera what was being done to me,' Rabbani said in the affidavit." So they have kept doing it, but just stopped recording it.

[CN: Wildfires] A wildfire near the Sequoia National Forest in central California is threatening more than 500 homes, as more than 1,100 firefighters race to contain it before weather conditions worsen. Fuck.

This is a great idea: "Parkland Health & Hospital System in Dallas will raise its own minimum wage to $10.25 an hour next month, paying for the increase with money originally devoted to executive bonuses." Except, it could have been greater, way greater, since $10.25 is still not a livable wage and: "The wage increase will cost the hospital about $350,000 a year. The expense will be covered with money from the upcoming quarter's bonus pool for the hospital's 60 vice presidents and top executives. That pool was between $750,000 and $1.2 million in the most recent quarter, and it's between $3 million and $5 million for the full year." MORE GENEROSITY PLEASE!

If you are a fan of Maya Rudolph, as I am, then here is some news about her upcoming film projects! Maya Rudolph and Catherine Keener in the same movie? YES PLEASE.

RIP Casey Kasem. His is the iconic voice that we all (well, probably not all of us, but A LOT OF US) try to channel when we're pretending to announce anything. And here's something you might not have known: "Casey Kasem's Secret Legacy: How He Used Scooby-Doo to Advance His Values."

And finally! Here is just a great video of a dog seeing his family for the first time after surgery to restore his vision. Yay!

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Rick Perry: Always Terrible. All the Time.

[Content Note: Homophobia; disablism.]

After saying last week that homosexuality is like alcoholism, Republican Texas Governor Rick Perry was challenged by CNBC anchor Joe Kernan to explain his comment:

"Whether or not you feel compelled to follow a particular lifestyle or not, you have the ability to decide not to do that," Perry said Wednesday at an event in San Francisco. "I may have the genetic coding that I'm inclined to be an alcoholic, but I have the desire not to do that, and I look at the homosexual issue the same way."

...Kernan then tried to get Perry to confront the psychological implications of his comment. The Texas Republican Party had endorsed "reparative therapy" for gays at its annual convention days before Perry made his disputed comment.

"In terms of changing the behavior of someone, you wouldn't think that someone who's heterosexual that you couldn't change them into a homosexual, or if someone who's homosexual, you don't think there should be therapy to change them into a heterosexual?" Kernan asked.

"I don't know," Perry responded. "The fact is we'll leave that to the psychologists and the doctors."

"Well, the psychologists, they've already weighed in," Kernan shot back. "They've dismissed the idea that sexual orientation is a mental disorder."

..."I don't necessarily condone that lifestyle. I don't condemn it, either," Perry concluded.
See, here's the thing: Sexuality isn't a "lifestyle." For most people, it's not a choice; for some people, it is. Either way, it's not a "lifestyle." And neither is alcoholism, which is a disease.

This is just another iteration of conservatives' bootstraps bullshit: If only you try hard enough, you can accomplish anything! Perry is saying that it's his willpower ("I have the desire not to do that") which determines his sexual orientation and health. Which is utter claptrap.

Everything always comes down to "hard work," because it's the only way to elide the institutional privilege that confers unquantifiable advantages, and the only way to elide the luck, or lack thereof, that shapes all of our lives.

What Perry is saying is reprehensible—first and foremost because it denies LGB people the right to be authorities on their own lives, denies them the expertise of their own lived experiences. And secondly because it's just more horseshit about bootstraps, that flattens the human experience and judges each life according to a metric defined by the most privileged among us.

Fuck off, Rick Perry—and take your toxic ideology with you.

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All the Mirthless Laughter in the Multiverse

[Content Note: Misogyny.]

Last Friday, I wrote about the colossal lack of diversity among protagonists in 40 upcoming video games announced at E3. Among those games is the newest entry in the Assassin's Creed franchise, which was reportedly supposed to include a female assassin, but "game developers nixed it because adding a female lead to the mix was too laborious."

Ubisoft's technical director James Therien offered this amazing explanation:

"It was on our feature list until not too long ago, but it's a question of focus and production," Therien explained. "So we wanted to make sure we had the best experience for the character. A female character means that you have to redo a lot of animation, a lot of costumes [inaudible]. It would have doubled the work on those things. And I mean it's something the team really wanted, but we had to make a decision... It's unfortunate, but it's a reality of game development."

When pressed on the issue, specifically that we didn't think his excuse would wash with the community given the amount of resources at the studio's disposal, Therien continued:

"Again, it's not a question of philosophy or choice in this case at all I don't really [inaudible] it was a question of focus and a question of production. Yes, we have tonnes of resources, but we're putting them into this game, and we have huge teams, nine studios working on this game and we need all of these people to make what we are doing here."
Boobs are hard, or something.

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Iraq: The Latest

[Content Note: War; violence; death.]

The Islamic State of Iraq and Syria (ISIS—also known as the Islamic State of Iraq and al-Sham and the Islamic State of Iraq and the Levant, ISIL) has continued its campaign in Iraq, with a series of explosions over the weekend killing or injuring three dozen people in Baghdad, and ISIS taking control of the northern city of Tal Afar, which has a population of 200,000.

In addition to Tal Afar, the cities of Mosul, Tikrit, Jalawla, Saadiyah, Dhuluiyah, Ramadi, and Fallujah are now all under ISIS control.

Also yesterday, ISIS claimed that they have massacred hundreds of captive members of Iraq's security forces. [There are images of the hostages, while still alive, being held at gunpoint, at the link.] ISIS are radical Sunni extremists—so radical, in fact, they have been denounced by al-Qaeda—and their aim is the establishment of a Sunni state. Most of the Iraqi security forces are Shiite.

In an atmosphere where there were already fears that the militants' sudden advance near the capital would prompt Shiite reprisal attacks against Sunni Arab civilians, the claims by ISIS [that they had slaughtered Shiite security forces] were potentially explosive. And that is exactly the group's stated intent: to stoke a return to all-out sectarian warfare that would bolster its attempts to carve out a Sunni Islamist caliphate that crosses borders through the region.

The sectarian element of the killings may put more pressure on the Obama administration to aid Iraq militarily. In fact, the militants seemed to be counting on it. A pronouncement on Sunday by the group's leader, Abu Bakr al-Baghdadi, had a clear message for the United States: "Soon we will face you, and we are waiting for this day."
Though President Obama and Secretary of State John Kerry are working on negotiations in the region, even opening up dialogue with Iran, which has a Shia majority, on Sunday, "the USS George H.W. Bush and two other U.S. Navy ships arrived in the Persian Gulf" and "security was strengthened" at the US Embassy in Baghdad, as some staff members were transferred out of the city and a travel warning was issued.

Though almost all US troops have left the country, there remain as many as 5,000 US contractors in Iraq, about half of them civilians.

Which is to say nothing of the responsibility we have to the people of Iraq.

President Obama says he's considering all options, although he is clearly extremely reluctant to deploy troops on the ground again in Iraq.

Meanwhile, former UK Prime Minister Tony Blair is being super helpful by aggressively suggesting militaristic intervention, presumably after George W. Bush left him a voicemail telling him what to say, and US Republicans are (still) using the crisis to make political hay.

The fighting in the last week has displaced 300,000 Iraqis from their homes, in a country which already has half a million refugees from the last decade of war. Adrian Edwards, a spokesperson for the UN High Commission for Refugees, says: "These are large-scale numbers of people suddenly displaced by events this past week. Most of them are arriving with little more than what they can carry."

The US has a responsibility to do something. I don't know what that is. I am fairly confident, however, whatever we decide to do will be the wrong thing.

I hope I'm wrong.

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The Virtual Pub Is Open

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[Explanations: lol your fat. pathetic anger bread. hey your gay.]

TFIF, Shakers!

Belly up to the bar,
and name your poison!

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LOL

Here is just a terrific video of a ginger striped cat contentedly sitting in a green chair for two minutes before another cat playing with a jingly bell compels him to get up and play:


Video Description: Precisely as advertised.

[Via Stacey, and I am exactly as unapologetic about sharing this video, because it is awesome. Cats!]

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Not ALL Video Game Protagonists!

[Content Note: Lack of diversity across multiple axes.]

Here is a supercut introducing the heroes of 40 different games announced this week at E3 2014 (the annual Electronic Entertainment Expo):


[The video shows clips from 40 different upcoming video games, each featuring male protagonists, virtually all of them white. At the very end of the compilation is a quote from Rockstar Games co-founder Dan Houser: "The concept of being masculine was so key to this story."]

Dan Solomon, who gets the hat tip, writes, "[S]eemingly every protagonist looks more or less identical to every other protagonist. That is to say: white, male, with usually a few days' growth of beard on their chins, and a glint in their eye that marks them as someone who plays by their own rules in a world that's set up against them."

And he notes that the lack of diversity among the protagonists is not only potentially alienating to women, as well as men of color, but also makes for some boring-ass gameplay.

Which is absolutely right. I want diversity in protagonists and stories in gaming because of the inherent value of diversity, and the personal acknowledgment of seeing people like oneself included in popular media—but, as a person who loves video games, I'm also seriously checked-out at the moment because there are so few major-label games that actually compel me to want to play them by virtue of their inventiveness.

One of the common arguments I hear in response to this complaint is "indie games, though!" and, yeah, absolutely. There is more diversity in indie games, and yay for that.

But the video game industry should be ashamed that something as basic as "female protagonist" is considered so "specialty" that indie game-makers are tasked with and expected to provide that alternative.

It should be an embarrassment to the industry that a wildly technologically innovative and creative medium can imagine the future, conjure the past, and create new worlds and their inhabitants, but still generally considers a non-male, non-white protagonist too radical to seriously contemplate.

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