Good Morning! Or Whatever!

Here is a picture of Laverne Cox on the cover of Time magazine:

image of Laverne Cox, a young black trans woman wearing a blue dress, on the cover of Time magazine, featuring text reading: 'The Transgender Tipping Point: America's next civil rights frontier'

If you're a subscriber, you can read the cover story here. I am not a subscriber, so I can't comment on the quality of the story. I do think it's safe to say not all trans* people will agree that we've reached a "transgender tipping point" in the US, and that some people will have problems with the "next civil rights frontier" language, but I don't know if the text on the cover is an accurate reflection of the tone of the article.

If you've read it, you tell me!

Anyway.

LAVERNE COX IS ON THE COVER OF TIME.

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Question of the Day

What's for dinner? Or whatever the next meal of the day is in your part of the world.

Yesterday for dinner, I made a summer salad of cucumber, cherry tomatoes, corn, onion, avocado, lime, and cilantro, and it was so darn good I think I'm just going to make it again.

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Quote of the Day

When her friend Nelson Mandela passed away last year, Maya Angelou wrote that "No sun outlasts its sunset, but will rise again, and bring the dawn."

Today, Michelle and I join millions around the world in remembering one of the brightest lights of our time – a brilliant writer, a fierce friend, and a truly phenomenal woman. Over the course of her remarkable life, Maya was many things – an author, poet, civil rights activist, playwright, actress, director, composer, singer and dancer. But above all, she was a storyteller – and her greatest stories were true. A childhood of suffering and abuse actually drove her to stop speaking – but the voice she found helped generations of Americans find their rainbow amidst the clouds, and inspired the rest of us to be our best selves. In fact, she inspired my own mother to name my sister Maya.

Like so many others, Michelle and I will always cherish the time we were privileged to spend with Maya. With a kind word and a strong embrace, she had the ability to remind us that we are all God's children; that we all have something to offer. And while Maya's day may be done, we take comfort in knowing that her song will continue, "flung up to heaven" – and we celebrate the dawn that Maya Angelou helped bring.
—President Obama.

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No Elephant Left Behind


Video Description: A herd of elephants in the Ol Pejeta Conservancy, a non-profit sanctuary in Kenya supporting endangered species, approach the Ewaso Nyiro river, high with water and a strong current. A tiny calf starts to cross, then gets caught in the current and begins to drift downstream. Her older sister runs after her, reaching out with her trunk to catch the baby. She guides her to the bank, but can't quite get her out of the current and onto the shore. The older elephant trumpets for help, and their mama turns back and comes to the baby's aid. Curling her trunk around the baby, and with the older sibling's help, Mama finally guides the baby safely to shore. The video ends with footage of another calf being guided across the river by another adolescent elephant, and then all of them are across and safe. ♥

[H/T to Shaker FarmerStina.]

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I Write Letters

[Content Note: Intersectional misogyny; violence; rape culture; reproductive coercion; slurs.]

Dear Men:

You don't own women.

You don't own our bodies, and you don't own our voices, and you don't own our thoughts, and you don't own our emotions, and you don't own our lived experiences. They are not yours. They don't belong to you.

You don't own women.

I'm taking time out of my life to tell you this, to tell you that you don't own women, because there seems to be some confusion on that matter.

I'm not just talking about the men who literally buy and sell women without their consent, nor just the ghoulish specimens of humanity who keep women or girls captive in the disgusting predators' caves they call homes, nor just the domineering fathers and husbands and male guardians or partners of any disarmingly innocuous title who control women in their orbit with vicious and unyielding vigilance, nor just the men who invoke some deity or other, some ancient religious verse, to assert their dominance over womankind.

Although those men, too. They don't own women.

I'm also talking about the men who, in their everyday interactions with women, use their physical presence to intimidate us. Who touch us without our consent. Who talk over us. Who condescend to us. Who patronize us. Who silence us. Who gaslight us. Who invade our safe spaces. Who mansplain. Who make misogynist jokes. Who leverage male privilege against us. Who steal our ideas. Who take the credit for our work. Who use racism again women of color. Who use homophobia against lesbians and bisexual women. Who use transphobia against trans* women. Who use ableism against disabled women. Who use ageism against older or younger women. Who fat shame fat women. Who body police all women. Who use any axis of marginalization, any vulnerability, against women. Who won't promote women. Who won't pay women a fair wage. Who refuse to support our right to bodily autonomy. Who refuse to recognize our agency. Who deny us equality. Who audit our emotions. Who filter our lived experiences through their validity prism. Who demean us. Who contradict us. Who tell us to shut up. Who want us to disappear. Who tell us to suck their cocks and make them a sandwich and go away. Who tell us they are our allies, and then aren't. Who betray us. Who creep on us. Who avoid accountability to us. Who treat us however the fuck they want, because they can. Who abet other men treating us however they fuck they want. Who bask in the luxury of privilege to not have to give the tiniest, infinitesimal shit about the harm done to us by being treated the way we are treated by men every day of our goddamn lives, who never have to know the ache of this oppression.

Those men. They don't own women.

The men who rape us. Who harass us. Who use the rocking motion of a packed commuter train as cover for rubbing themselves on our thighs. Who masturbate in front of us. Who send us unsolicited pictures of their dicks. Who flush our birth control pills down the toilet. Who poke holes in condoms. Who trick us into bed, into marriages, with lies.

They don't own women.

The men who keep us out. Who won't vote for us. Who won't hire us. Who undermine us and say it's for any other reason than that we are women. Who accuse us of looking for things to get angry about. Who tell us we are oversensitive. Who call us hysterics. Who conflate their privilege with objectivity.

They don't own women.

The men who call us bitches. Who call us cunts. Twats. Whores. Sluts. Skanks. Slags. Slappers. Coozes. Tarts. Breeders. Slits. Gashes. Holes. Bimbos. Hookers. Hos. Tricks. Tramps. Squaws. Witches. Hags. Battle axes. Shrews. Nags. Muffdivers. Trannies. Chicks with dicks. Cows. Chickenheads. Butterfaces. Cum dumpsters.

They don't own women.

The men who don't respect our space, our boundaries, our rights, our humanity. The men who have contempt for our taking up space in the world. The men who listen, but don't hear. The men who roll their eyes at posts like this one. The men who are already formulating their protests as they are reading these very words.

They don't own women.

The men who think they are good men. The men who think that being our allies consists of saying it, but then turning on us like snarling beasts the moment we say they have made us unsafe. The men who think they have a right to tell us what it is that we need. The men who think they need to explain to us what feminism is, what womanism is, what womanhood is. The men who claim they don't even want to own women, and yet behave in ways, constantly, that indicate they believe that they do.

You men that I am describing. You don't own women.

You men who are thinking: This isn't about me. I don't do that. Even though every man—every single man—every last man I have ever known has done something, some thing, and usually lots and lots of things, that suggest he believes that he owns me, or another woman, even if just in a single moment, a fleeting moment. Because the message that you own women is powerful. But it is wrong.

You don't own women.

You don't own women.

You don't own me.

Sincerely,
Liss

[Originally posted on August 12, 2013.]

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The Wednesday Blogaround

This blogaround brought to you by rain.

Recommended Reading:

Andrea: [Content Note: Racism, privilege, silencing, appropriation, harassment] Hashtag Activism and the Lie of 'Solidarity'

Ronda: [CN: Misogynoir; sexual assault; disablist language] Dr. Maya Angelou Was America's Most Phenomenal Woman

Andy: Maya Angelou Once Called New York Senators to Persuade Them to Pass Marriage Equality

Following is some recommended reading on Elliot Rodger. Please note that all posts below have a content note for discussions of violence, sexual violence, misogyny, misogynistic slurs, privilege, disablism, and racism.

Anne: Elliot Rodger and Men Who Hate Women

Jenn: Masculinity vs. "Misogylinity": What Asian Americans Can Learn from #UCSB Shooting | #YesAllWomen

Roxanna: Yes, All Women

Angry Asian Man: Trying to Make Sense of the Isla Vista Killings

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Daily Dose of Cute

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Ear.

As always, please feel welcome and encouraged to share pix of the fuzzy, feathered, or scaled members of your family in comments.

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Two-Minute Nostalgia Sublime



Michael Franti: "Life Is Better with You"

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I Guess He's Just "Crazy," Too

[Content Note: Violence; guns; misogyny; male entitlement.]

Last week in Indianapolis, a man followed three teenage girls around a gas station and, when they left, he followed them in his car, chased them down on the highway, and opened fire on them (they were not physically hurt):

Anthony Martin, 28, Indianapolis, appears in Marion Superior Court this morning to hear charges against him for his actions the night of March 23.

Police say Martin followed the Mazda RX8 in which the three girls were riding after they fled his unwanted attention at a Speedway gas station at 5960 S. East St.

A man chaperoning the three girls saw Martin's white Infiniti in his mirror and tried to evade him, according to court documents.

Police said Martin pursued the Mazda onto I-465, pulled up alongside it, showed a handgun and shouted, "Are you trying to play?"

Then Martin fired multiple shots into the Mazda, according to a court document, "which caused glass to shatter all around."
Emphasis mine.

Elliot Rodger is not an oulier. He is a highly visible example of ubiquitous vengeful violence taken against women who refuse men.

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In the News

Here is some stuff in the news today...

Today, President Obama will "outline his vision for a new chapter in American foreign policy...with a speech aimed at quelling growing criticism of US isolationism following troop withdrawals from Iraq and Afghanistan and recent decisions against military intervention elsewhere. In an address to graduating officers at West Point that White House officials say will map out America's new role in the world, the president is expected to argue there is a middle way between interventionism and isolationism that will not drag the US into unnecessary conflicts in future." A new policy that will last as long as until the next time we've got a Republican president.

[Content Note: Abduction; misogyny; terrorism; abuse] The Nigerian army announced that it now knows the location of (at least some of) the girls being held hostage by Boko Haram, but they "have ruled out the use of force to rescue them and turned down a deal to exchange prisoners who are members of Boko Haram for the girls' release, so it is unclear what their next step will be." This morning, it was reported that Nigeria's former president Olusegun Obasanjo is meeting with "people close to Boko Haram in an attempt to broker the release of more than 200 schoolgirls kidnapped by the militants." The meeting "was focused on how to free the girls through negotiation." Dear Maude I hope these negotiations are productive.

[CN: Food insecurity; death] The UN Children's Fund (UNICEF) is warning that nearly "200,000 children under the age of five could die from severe malnutrition in Somalia by the end of the year, unless the United Nations receives emergency funds to stave off mass hunger. ...Only $15m has been received against the appeal by the UN Children's Fund (UNICEF) to donor states for $150m to provide vital health services to more than three million women and children in the Horn of Africa nation this year." If you would like to donate to UNICEF, go here.

The Illinois state senate has voted "to ratify the Equal Rights Amendment (ERA). If it moves forward in the state House, Illinois will become the 36th state to ratify the ERA." Maybe we can get this done in the next 100 years!

[CN: Guns; violence; dehumanization] Joe the Plumber continues to be a despicable shitbird: In an open letter to the families of the victims shot by Elliot Rodger, he writes: "I am sorry you lost your child. I myself have a son and daughter and the one thing I never want to go through, is what you are going through now. But: As harsh as this sounds—your dead kids don’t trump my Constitutional rights." Fuck. You.

[CN: Homophobia; racism; misogyny] Speaking of shitbirds: "Phil Robertson, the controversial star of the hit TV show 'Duck Dynasty' will address the upcoming Republican Leadership Conference on Thursday." Ha ha "controversial." Which is a neat way of saying "a man who spews unrepentant homophobia, racism, and misogyny under the guise of being a Christian."

[CN: Privilege; class warfare] Emma Thompson is talking some real shit about working moms who don't have the same privilege that she does. Her comments stand in such stark opposition to what Angelina Jolie said just last week about how her wealth gives her so much parenting privilege.

And finally: Student-Run Business Bringing Joy of Puppies to Those Who Can't Own. And finding forever homes for a lot of puppies in the process. Yay!

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Maya Angelou, 1928-2014

Poet, memoirist, and activist Maya Angelou has died at age 86.

Maya Angelou, the memoirist and poet whose landmark book of 1969, "I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings" — which describes in lyrical, unsparing prose her childhood in the Jim Crow South — was among the first autobiographies by a 20th-century black woman to reach a wide general readership, died on Wednesday in her home. She was 86 and lived in Winston-Salem, N.C.

Her death was confirmed by her longtime literary agent, Helen Brann. No immediate cause of death had been determined, but Ms. Brann said Ms. Angelou had been in frail health for some time and had had heart problems.

As well known as she was for her memoirs, which eventually filled six volumes, Ms. Angelou very likely received her widest exposure [to a general audience] on a chilly January day in 1993, when she delivered the inaugural poem, "On the Pulse of Morning," at the swearing-in of Bill Clinton, the nation's 42nd president, who, like Ms. Angelou, had grown up poor in rural Arkansas.
At Colorlines, Jamilah King has a beautiful post [CN: violence; sexual assault] about how Maya Angelou wants to be remembered.

I am looking at the dates of her birth and her death, and thinking about everything through which she lived, as a black woman who grew up in poverty, and her extraordinary capacity to document that life and experience.

And I am remembering her voice. The sound of her voice.

It was the consummate voice of a poet, for me. It always will be.

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On Elliot Rodger

[Content Note: Violence; misogyny; privilege; disablism; racism.]

Friday night, Elliot Rodger, a 22-year-old man went on a shooting spree, killing six people: Katie Cooper, 22; Veronika Weiss, 19; Weihan Wang, 20; George Chen, 19; Cheng Yuan Hong, 20; and Christopher Michael-Martinez, 20. Rodger was also killed, reportedly by his own hand. An additional 13 people were injured.

Despite the fact that Rodger left behind a manifesto detailing his hatred of and contempt for women, who he felt owed him sexual gratification, and a video expressing the same sentiments, immediately the narrative became that Rodger was "crazy," and/or that the Asperger's with which he'd been diagnosed as a child was responsible for his murder spree.

tweet authored by me reading: 'Dismissing violent misogynists as 'crazy' is a neat way of saying that violent misogyny is an individual problem, not a cultural one.'

Over the last four days, I have pushed back on this idea. A Storify of my tweets is below the fold.

Or, you can just read my timeline here. I also strongly recommend reading the timelines of the following people: Amadi, Imani Gandy, Amanda Levitt, Jessica Luther, Sydette, Liza Sabater, Dr. Jane Chi, Lauren Chief Elk, Tina Vasquez, Angus Johnston, Elon James White, and Jordan Banks. Please feel welcome to leave links to other recommended commentators and/or articles in comments.

I don't have much more to say than I've already said on Twitter, but I do want to make the point (again) that mentally ill people are more likely themselves to be victims of violence than perpetrators of it.

Yes, we do need better mental healthcare access. But Rodger, a highly privileged man from a wealthy family, had access to great mental healthcare—his family could afford it, and he was getting treatment—but one of the things about which we have to be honest is that most mental health professionals are not equipped to address entitled misogyny as a psychological or behavioral concern.

And the reason for that is because we don't culturally regard entitled misogyny as a psychological or behavioral concern. Rodger was, after all, merely taking the basic precept of a patriarchal system—that men have ownership of and are entitled to women—to its extreme.

(Which is to say nothing of the fact that mental health professionals are not mind-readers. They can only address that of which they're aware.)

He holds the ultimate accountability for his actions, but we need to not pretend that these murders happened in a vacuum. It's no way to honor victims to refuse to acknowledge the cultural failures in the shadow of which their lives were taken.

My sincerest condolences to the survivors of Rodger's victims. My fervent hopes to the injured survivors that they have access to the care that they need to heal.

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The Virtual Pub (+ Programming Note)

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[Explanations: lol your fat. pathetic anger bread. hey your gay.]

TFIF, Shakers!

Belly up to the bar,
and name your poison!

Please note that since Monday is Memorial Day in the US, and many of the mods are traveling or otherwise unavailable, and I'm really under the weather, we will be taking a four-day weekend. There will be daily Open Threads, and regular posting will resume next Wednesday. See you then!

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In Other Cool Science News...

Solar! Freaking! Roadways!

Yes! Take my money! By which I mean: Please use my tax dollars for this. Thank you.

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