Today in Rape Culture

[Content Note: Sexual violence; rape apologia.]

I read these stories back-to-back this morning:

1. Via Aspie Grumpy Cat: A survivor of rape in the UK was told by prosecutors that her case was dropped because she couldn't have been raped since she was wearing Spanx.

Suzanne (not her real name) was raped by her partner in December 2012 but was told that her Spanx - a type of undergarment that shapes the body - were partly to blame for the case being dropped by the Crown Prosecution Service (CPS).

Her story emerges as it is revealed that there were 129 fewer rape suspects convicted of any offence in 2013 than in the year before, while the numbers of rape cases referred to prosecutors for charging has fallen by more than a third since 2011 - despite a rise in offences recorded by police.

...Suzannah was shocked to receive a letter from a CPS lawyer in September 2013 which said: "I have taken into account all the surrounding circumstances, including the exchange of text messages between you before and after the incident."

"I have also considered your account of the incident, particularly bearing in mind the type of underwear that you had on at the time," the letter added.

...She appealed the decision and a CPS prosecutions manager told her that the decision not to prosecute had been correct for a variety of reasons, but admitted that the previous lawyer "made an unnecessary reference" to the underwear, which had no relevance to the investigation.
Except for how it clearly did have some relevance to the investigation, as at least one lawyer involved with the case believes that a victim wearing Spanx is relevant.

Now, after failing to prosecute Suzanne's case, the CPS doesn't even have the decency to acknowledge its failure.

2. Via Feminista Jones: A confessed rapist in Texas, who raped a 14-year-old girl, was sentenced to five years probation and "won't have to follow many of the restrictions typically given to sex offenders" because, according to State District Judge Jeanine Howard, the victim was not a virgin and "wasn't the victim she claimed to be."
Howard said she made her decision for several reasons, including: The girl had texted Young asking him to spend time with her; the girl had agreed to have sex with him but just didn't want to at school; medical records show the girl had three sexual partners and had given birth to a baby; and Young was barely 18 at the time.

"She wasn't the victim she claimed to be," Howard said. "He is not your typical sex offender."
And now, as a result of this abject failure to meaningfully hold her rapist accountable, the victim regrets ever reporting the incident.
The victim, who is now 17, told The News on Thursday night that she feels it would have been better if she had never come forward about the 2011 assault. She and Young testified last week at his trial that she had told Young "stop" and "no" numerous times before and during the attack at Booker T. Washington High School for the Performing and Visual Arts, where both were students.

"I did what I was supposed to do. I went to the law about this situation," she said. The judge's probation sentence and the removal of the restrictions — "that says everything I went through was for nothing."

"It would have been better for me not to say anything," said the girl, who is not being identified because The Dallas Morning News does not typically identify victims of sex crimes.
We are failing survivors, over and over. And then we wonder why survivors are reluctant to report, to engage with law enforcement and the legal system. And instead of getting its shit together to support survivors, the system increasingly just blames and criminalizes victims who refuse to cooperate.

This is rape culture.

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Fail

[Content Note: Class warfare.]

Paul Krugman has a great column today about the failure of policy (and policymakers) during the Great Recession. And the continuing failure of policy. I'm not even going to excerpt it; just go read the whole thing.

Two quick thoughts:

1. The title of the piece is "Why Economics Failed," and I don't know if that Krugman's title or someone else's, but, after reading the piece, it seems like "Why Economists (and the Politicians Who Listened to the Bad Ones) Failed" would be more appropriate.

2. And, even then, it's only appropriate insofar as we believe that people or processes failed because they're meant to be serving the needs of the average person. Because, in terms of making wealthy people and institutions even wealthier, they didn't fail at all. They have succeeded pretty spectacularly.

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Open Thread

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Question of the Day

Suggested by Shaker masculine_lady: "What jobs have you had?"

Please feel welcome to define "job" as paid and/or unpaid labor. No one here need feel obliged to omit a job like "parent" because it isn't a paid position.

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Photo of the Day

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From the Telegraph's Pictures of the Day for 1 May 2014: Jack Sparrows House shed from Cornwall, one of the entrants in this year's Cuprinol Shed of the Year competition, which celebrates the best of British sheds. [Photo Credit: REX]
Neat!

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Something Something George Clooney Something Engaged Something Something Fart

[Content Note: Misogyny; misogynistic tropes.]

I have read not a single article about actor George Clooney's engagement to human rights lawyer Amal Alamuddin, because I don't care.

But these are the things I know, just from seeing headlines of articles about Clooney's and Alamuddin's engagement in my regular news reading:

1. Alamuddin is smart and educated, unlike those other bimbos Clooney's dated.

2. Alamuddin has her own career, unlike those other gold-diggers Clooney's dated.

3. Alamuddin managed to "lock him down" by playing hard to get, unlike those other sluts Clooney's dated.

4. Alamuddin, we should not be surprised to find, is the woman to finally bring an end to Clooney's long-term bachelorhood and take him "off the market," because she is awesome, unlike those other duds Clooney's dated, and Clooney obviously cannot settle for anything less than the most amazing woman on the planet because he is George fucking Clooney.

It's kind of amazing how being an attractive person in the entertainment industry is what makes Clooney the most eligible bachelor in the multiverse, and simultaneously made all of the women he dated previously, most or all of whom were attractive people in the entertainment industry, unsuitable to deserve being his wife.

It's kind of amazing that virtually everyone feels free to presume that all of the women he's previously dated wanted to be his wife.

It's kind of amazing how virtually everyone is apparently incapable of observing that Amal Alamuddin is an accomplished, smart, and interesting woman without demeaning other women, whose only connection to any of this is that they dated the man to whom she's now engaged, once upon a time.

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An Observation

I will never stop being bemused by the fact that small dogs are coded "feminine" and large dogs are coded "masculine." By which I don't mean that people tend to default to approaching all small dogs as females and all large dogs as males (although that, too!), but that people imagine small dogs are for women and large dogs are for men.

image of a very tall harlequin Great Dane and a very small fawn Chihuahua

Clearly there are individual people who have preferences for small or large (or medium) dogs, some of which may have to do with attributes we (often wrongly) associate with gender, like strength, but there isn't a genetic, gender essentialist disposition toward dogs of a certain size.

Whatever gender has to do with dog preferences is more about cultural constructs of gender. Which we're not supposed to notice when a "manly man" sneers that small dogs are for girls, as if that's a real thing and not a reflection of masculinity defined in contradistinction to anything that could possibly be coded as feminine.

Like a little dog.

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Please feel free to chat about all the other infuriating dichotomies rooted in the gender binary. You don't need to stick to dogs. It's just a starting point!

[Related Reading: True Tales of Gender Essentialism at the Dog Park.]

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Throwback Thursdays

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Me, summer of 1975, with my grandfather in Queens, NYC.

[Please share your own throwback pix in comments. Just make sure the pix are just of you and/or you have consent to post from other living people in the pic. And please note that they don't have to be pictures from childhood, especially since childhood pix might be difficult for people who come from abusive backgrounds or have transitioned or lots of other reasons. It can be a picture from last week, if that's what works for you. And of course no one should feel obliged to share a picture at all! Only if it's fun!]

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Daily Dose of Cute

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This is the face that Zelda makes when you ask her: "Who has cute ears?"

As always, please feel welcome and encouraged to share pix of the fuzzy, feathered, or scaled members of your family in comments.

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That's Your Liberal Media!

Currently on the front page of NBC News is this totally terrific teaser to a totally trenchant story:

screen cap of a story teaser which is a picture of a debate between John McCain and President Obama, in which McCain is prominently in the foreground with President Obama blurred in the background, with the headline: 'Where Have All The Popular Politicians Gone?'

When you click through to the story, you are greeted with this lede: "Where have all the popular politicians gone? President Obama isn't the only American politician who's struggling these days. In fact, unlike others, his favorable/unfavorable numbers are actually above water—the first time for him since Oct. 2013. Consider these politicians, institutions, and companies our most recent NBC/WSJ poll measured (from best to worst)" followed by this list:

screen cap of list reading: 'Hillary Clinton: 48% positive, 32% negative (+16) Barack Obama: 44% positive, 41% negative (+3) Democratic Party: 36% positive, 37% negative (-1) General Motors: 27% positive, 29% negative (-2) Rand Paul: 23% positive, 26% negative (-3) Michael Bloomberg: 18% positive, 26% negative (-8) Jeb Bush: 21% positive, 32% negative (-11) The Koch Brothers: 10% positive, 21% negative (-11) Mitch McConnell: 8% positive, 23% negative (-15) Republican Party: 25% positive, 44% negative (-19) The Tea Party: 22% positive, 41% negative (-19)'

So, Republican Senator John McCain isn't even on the list, and the Democratic President with higher positive than negative ratings, unlike a single one of the Republican politicians or institutions mentioned, is blurred into the background of an image of McCain. GODDAMNED LIBERAL MEDIA!

Meanwhile: When the fuck did "General Motors" become a politician?

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Quote of the Day

[Content Note: Death penalty; torture.]

"It's an unfortunate thing, but any time you're doing something with a body, things can go wrong."—Republican Senator Tom Coburn, who represents the state of Oklahoma, where a botched execution resulted in Clayton Lockett being slowly tortured to death for 43 minutes.

Coburn is also a physician. I guess he missed the "first do no harm" day of class.

Coburn continues to support the death penalty, because: "I still think it has a deterrent capability." Of course he does. Even though a survey found that "83% of the country's top criminologists do not believe the death penalty acts as a deterrent to homicide" and "87% of the expert criminologists believe that abolition of the death penalty would not have any significant effect on murder rates."

Well, who are THEY to argue with a feeling Senator Coburn has in his gut?

Any time you're doing something with a body, things can go wrong. Honestly, are Republicans even capable of talking about human beings in a way that sounds like they're talking about human beings? Fuck.

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Two-Minute Nostalgia Sublime



Duke Ellington: "New York City Blues"

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In the News

Here is some stuff in the news today...

[Content Note: Abduction; terrorism; misogyny; abuse] The 234 girls abducted from their school in Nigeria, who have reportedly been married off to the terrorists who abducted them, are still missing. Yesterday, "women from around Nigeria gathered in the capital to demand answers as to just why the full force of the government has not been brought to bear in finding their missing daughters, nieces, and sisters." Some of the girls managed to escape their captors and return, but, in the two weeks since they were kidnapped, none have been rescued: "Nobody rescued them," a government official in Chibok said of the girls who made it back. "I want you to stress this point. Nobody rescued them. They escaped on their accord. This is painful."

[CN: Homophobia] A new challenge to marriage inequality in Ohio: "A group of same-sex couples from Ohio escalated the challenges to the state's ban on same-sex marriage Wednesday, filing a federal lawsuit directly attacking the ban as unconstitutional. Other suits this year have chipped away at the nearly 10-year-old, voter-approved ban, but the latest suit is the first in the state to challenge it head-on. The 12 Southwest Ohio residents listed as plaintiffs represent six couples 'who live here, who love here and who want to get married here,' said lawyer Jennifer Branch, who filed the suit in U.S. District Court in Cincinnati." Right on and good luck! May you swiftly prevail!

[CN: Sexual assault; video may begin playing automatically at link] Jameis Winston, the Heisman Trophy winner who was not suspended from college athletics after being accused of sexual assault, has been suspended for shoplifting crab legs. Which is an almost perfect indication of how much women are valued in this culture.

[CN: Severe weather; damage; death] The latest major storm system has been dumping rain all over the eastern US, resulting in flash floods and a lot of damage, and, yesterday, "a block-long sinkhole opened up in a residential neighborhood in northeast Baltimore, sucking in several cars and forcing the evacuation of several houses." Extensive flooding may also have contributed to an explosion at a jail in Pensacola, Florida, which killed at least two inmates and injured more than 100 other people.

[CN: Animal testing] A new study has found that lab rats and mice "experience more stress in the presence of men than of women. Rodents left alone in a room with a man, or presented with a T-shirt worn by a man, had a sharp spike in the stress hormone corticosterone. And because the hormone acts as an analgesic, they also showed less response to pain. The rodents showed no such reaction to women; they were also less stressed when given a woman's shirt together with a man's. The amount of stress felt by the rodents was 'massive,' said Jeffrey Mogil, a psychologist at McGill University and an author of the study."

Hey, remember those inexplicable holes forming in a sand dune at the Indiana Dunes National Lakeshore? Geologist Erin Argyilan, who is studying the dune holes, says: "We're seeing what appears to be a new geological phenomenon." Whoa!

Oprah might be joining a group of investors interested in buying the LA Clippers. "You're getting a basketball team! You're getting a basketball team! Everyone here is getting a basketball team!"

Michael McKean has joined the cast of Better Call Saul. OKAY! Quit teasing me and just get the show in my face already!

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What Is This Even

[Content Note: Misogyny; disablist language.]

Politico Magazine: "What Is Hillary Clinton Afraid Of?"

That is the actual title of an actual article detailing the decades-long and deeply misogynist press hostility toward Hillary Clinton. And this is an actual fucking excerpt:

Over the 25 years Hillary Clinton has spent in the national spotlight, she's been smeared and stereotyped, the subject of dozens of over-hyped or downright fictional stories and books alleging, among other things, that she is a lesbian, a Black Widow killer who offed Vincent Foster then led an unprecedented coverup, a pathological liar, a real estate swindler, a Commie, a harridan. Every aspect of her personal life has been ransacked; there's no part of her 5-foot-7-inch body that hasn't come under microscopic scrutiny, from her ankles to her neckline to her myopic blue eyes—not to mention the ever-changing parade of hairstyles that friends say reflects creative restlessness and enemies read as a symbol of somebody who doesn't stand for anything.

...And while the white-hot anger she once felt toward the media has since hardened into a pessimistic resignation (with a dash of self-pity), she's convinced another campaign would inevitably invite more bruising scrutiny, as her recent comments suggest. Public life "gives you a sense of being kind of dehumanized as part of the experience," she lamented a few weeks ago to a Portland, Ore., audience. "You really can't ever feel like you're just having a normal day."
WITH A DASH OF SELF-PITY.

That, right there, is evidence of the very dehumanization Clinton describes. If she feels bad, for even a moment, about being subjected to a ruthless campaign of smears, exaggerations, and outright lies, drenched in vile misogyny, casting her as a monster at every conceivable turn, then she's indulging in "self-pity."

The implication being that she should just be willing to take it. That it's just the price she has to pay for her public service. That it's all fair. That if she reacts to that like any human being might, she's self-pitying.

Any hint of expression that she is harmed by, or made angry by, an onslaught of fuckery designed specifically to hurt her and derail her career, for reasons entirely separate from legitimate criticism of a national candidate, is acknowledged only in sneering asides that reiterate the pernicious narrative that she sees herself as a victim.

What a neat way for media who victimizes her to distance themselves from the emotional consequences of their unethical behavior.

This reprehensible emotional policing, of the same sort that happens to President Barack Obama all the time, denying them—each members of marginalized populations—the ability to express a full spectrum of human emotion, is the most basic form of dehumanization. Humans have emotions.

And if Clinton communicates any upset with the way the press mistreats her, she's self-pitying. While if she doesn't communicate any upset, she's a robot.

Can't win. Can't fucking win.
"She wants to be president; she doesn't want to run for president," another Clinton veteran told us. "The worst part of running for president for her, clearly, is dealing with the press."
Irrespective of your feelings about Hillary Clinton, that should be profoundly concerning. Viable candidates for the US presidency should not be discouraged from running because the press is so personally destructive that it might not be worth the emotional cost.

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Good Morning! (Or Whatever!) Look at This Sh#t!

[Content Note: Privilege; white supremacy; male supremacy; bootstraps bullshit; references to Holocaust and violence.]

So, Tal Fortgang, a white, male, 20-year-old freshman at Princeton University has written an extraordinary piece about how he doesn't have privilege because of his family history, which includes some of his Polish relatives being pursued and persecuted during the Holocaust.

Fortgang weaves a classic bootstraps tale of the American Dream, about forebears who suffered and sacrificed to give him the life he has today, as a Tea Party conservative.

It's a story that probably looks a little bit like a lot of white USians' family histories, in one way or another. And it has fuck-all to do with the individual and cultural privilege that any of us experience today.

(That doesn't mean, of course, that an otherwise privileged white person might not experience, for example, religious discrimination or be marginalized by class. But one of the crucial things to understand about how privilege works is that being marginalized along one axis does not mean you cannot be privileged along another.)

The whole thing is fucking amazing in its complete misunderstanding of what the concept of privilege even is, but here's a pretty solid excerpt:

That's the problem with calling someone out for the "privilege" which you assume has defined their narrative. You don't know what their struggles have been, what they may have gone through to be where they are. Assuming they've benefitted from "power systems" or other conspiratorial imaginary institutions denies them credit for all they've done, things of which you may not even conceive.
See, here's the thing about white privilege: Whatever struggles I have had in my life don't change the fact that I am still privileged for my whiteness. And the fact that I am more privileged in some ways than other white people, and less privileged in some ways than other white people, is irrelevant in discussions of white privilege, because the point isn't comparisons with other white people; it's that my whiteness gives me privilege inside a racist culture.

Rinse and repeat for every axis of privilege.

Anyway.

Kate McDermott sent me the link to the original article; I also happened upon it this morning via an approving article in The College Fix ("Your Daily Dose of Right-Minded Campus News"), under the brilliant headline: "Meet the Poster Child for 'White Privilege'—Then Have Your Mind Blown."

LOL FOREVER.

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Open Thread

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Question of the Day

[I need to wrap up a little early today because I've got some stuff to do this afternoon.]

Suggested by Shaker particolored: "What is your favorite song to sing in the shower (or anywhere else)? "

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Republicans Think People Aren't Entitled to Food

[Content Note: Class warfare.]

Or a liveable wage:

As expected, Senate Republicans voted on Wednesday to block debate on legislation to raise the federal minimum wage to $10.10 per hour.

The procedural motion to begin debate received 54 votes for, and 42 against -- short of the 60 needed to break a filibuster.

Sen. Susan Collins (R-ME) had expressed willingness to play ball on the minimum wage but decided that hike to $10.10 per hour -- phased in over three years -- was too high for her. Democrats, who are aggressively touting the issue on the 2014 campaign trail, declined to budge on the $10.10 figure.
SENATOR SUSAN COLLINS THINKS $10.10 IS TOO HIGH. Of course she does. Even though someone working 40 hours a week at $10.10, without overtime or bonuses, would annually earn $2,452 less than the current federal poverty level for a family of four.

That's not even a liveable wage. And the Republican Party thinks it's too high.

The shades of my contempt are positively multitudinous.

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Daily Dose of Cute

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Dudley, being inimitably dudleyish.

As always, please feel welcome and encouraged to share pix of the fuzzy, feathered, or scaled members of your family in comments.

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The Wednesday Blogaround

This blogaround brought to you by giraffes.

Recommended Reading:

Rocio Isabel Prado: [Content Note: Discussion of racism; white-, hetero-, and cis supremacy] On Translating an Oppressive Dialect

BYP: [CN: Domestic violence; misogyny; rape apologia] D.L. Hugley Blames Columbus Short's Wife for Scandal Departure

Becca Segal: [CN: Food insecurity; class warfare] A New Tool Against Hunger in High-Poverty Neighborhoods

Rad Geek: [CN: Empathy/obedience experimentation] Shocking Results

Shayera: [CN: Misogyny] Petals in the Dust (Click the link at the top of Shayera's post to find out more about the documentary.)

Emily Yakashiro: [CN: Racism; child abuse] Reading Asian Women Writers: The Bird by Oh Jung-Hee

Jamilah King: [VIDEO] Janet Mock Asks Reporter: "Who Was the First Person You Came Out to as Cis?"

Andy Towle: [VIDEO; CN: Misogyny; homophobia] Glenn Beck: "Hillary Clinton Will Be Having Sex With a Woman on the White House Desk"

Leave your links and recommendations in comments. Self-promotion welcome and encouraged!

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