Enjoy!

screencap of an exchange I had with a dude on Twitter: Me: It's amazing how much hostility has been generated by the simple suggestion to show gratitude to feminists/womanists. #tellafeministthankyou Cody William: shutup fat bitch Me: No. CW: uglie Me: For future reference, it's spelled 'ugly.' Happy to help! CW: But seriously, explain to me how women are oppressed today, explain to me why Feminism is *needed* Me: LOL. Just to be clear, you told me to shut up, called me a fat bitch, & now want me to educate you on why feminism is needed?

In all seriousness, the #tellafeministthankyou hashtag has brought out a lot of dingalings, but it also been absolutely inspiring and uplifting to see all the feminist/womanist women and men expressing appreciation for one another. Last night, it was trending topic worldwide on Twitter.

screenshot from a site tracking worldwide trending Twitter topics showing the tellafeministthankyou hashtag

Worldwide.

The world can be an ungracious and cruelly judgmental place in many ways, but remember this moment in which a simple idea to show each other kindness and say thank you turned into a global event. Not only can we expect more; we can achieve it.

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Photo of the Day

image of a television on which has been captured the awkward moment in which Senator Marco Rubio lunged offscreen for a bottle of water during last night's State of the Union rebuttal

Republican Senator Marco Rubio was tasked with giving the GOP SOTU rebuttal last night (transcript here), and, as you may have heard ON THE ENTIRE INTERNET, he had a super awkward moment in which he lunged nearly offscreen for a bottle of water.

Immediately after, Jessica (scATX) texted me the above picture she took, which I am sharing with her permission, which is somehow a million times more hilarious to me than a regular old screencap. I laughed until I was crying.

Anyway. I feel for the guy. I always get cottonmouth when I speak, and I always need to have water nearby. It's not that he needed water. Dude's human. As I noted on Twitter last night, it was only so brutally and amusingly awkward because he and/or his GOP handlers had failed to put the water in easy reach. More excellence in GOP planning!

As for the content of his rebuttal, it was total garbage. Obviously.

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So the President Gave a Speech Last Night...

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President Obama delivered the State of the Union address last night, and it was a pretty standard Obama speech—well-delivered, easy to listen to, moving in parts, infuriating in others. (Video and audio available here. Transcript available here.) A highlight for me was his talking about science and innovation (3-D PRINTERS!), which upon consideration is a little depressing, because that really shouldn't be a highlight. It's indicative of how low the bar has been set by rightwing anti-intellectualism that hearing the President speak about funding science is exciting.

Obama did not mention bi-national same-sex couples in his piece on immigration reform, but he did explicitly mention gay families in regard to military benefits.

And I realize I'm the brokest of all the records, but once again the President has failed to give even passing mention to reproductive rights. A comprehensive war on agency that seeks to undermine the autonomous humanity of half the population warrants mention in the State of the Union address. We are part of the union, dammit.

Though, once more, I will also note that the President's favorite rhetorical device does not seem to indicate he understands that: "We know our economy is stronger when our wives, mothers, and daughters can live their lives free from discrimination in the workplace, and free from the fear of domestic violence."

That framing is garbage. It is reductive, it is misogynist, it is alienating, it defines women by their relationships to other people, it suggests that Obama is speaking to The Men of America about their "wives, mothers, and daughters" and not speaking to those wives, mothers, daughters, and any women who are none of those things and/or do not define themselves that way.

It is infuriating to continually hear my President use that framing.

To that end, I have started a petition at the White House's We the People website, petitioning the Obama administration to stop using the "wives, mothers, & daughters" rhetorical frame that defines women by their relationships to other people.
In his 2013 State of the Union address, President Obama said: "We know our economy is stronger when our wives, mothers, and daughters can live their lives free from discrimination in the workplace and free from the fear of domestic violence."

This "our wives, mothers, and daughters" phrase is one he routinely employs, but it is counterproductive to the women's equality the President is ostensibly supporting.

Defining women by their relationships to other people is reductive, misogynist, and alienating to women who do not define ourselves exclusively by our relationships to others. Further, by referring to "our" wives et al, the President appears to be talking to The Men of America about Their Women, rather than talking to men AND women.

Please embrace inclusive language, Mr. President.
We now have 30 days to get 100,000 signatures in order for the petition to be reviewed by the White House. Sign the petition. Pass it on. Share it on social media. Email it to feminist friends. WORK THOSE TEASPOONS.

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Open Thread

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Hosted by a Chester A. Arthur fridge magnet.

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Question of the Day

Why are you a feminist/womanist?

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State of the Union Thread

I'm not going to be live-tweeting the SOTU address tonight, because: 1. It's already been a long-ass day; and 2. I've already tweeted so much today I'd end up in Twitter jail almost immediately if I tried to live-tweet it. So here's an Open Thread for discussion before and during the address tonight.

By way of preview, the White House Office of the Press Secretary has made available the following excerpt as prepared for delivery:

It is our generation's task, then, to reignite the true engine of America's economic growth – a rising, thriving middle class.

It is our unfinished task to restore the basic bargain that built this country – the idea that if you work hard and meet your responsibilities, you can get ahead, no matter where you come from, what you look like, or who you love.

It is our unfinished task to make sure that this government works on behalf of the many, and not just the few; that it encourages free enterprise, rewards individual initiative, and opens the doors of opportunity to every child across this great nation of ours.

[...]

A growing economy that creates good, middle-class jobs – that must be the North Star that guides our efforts. Every day, we should ask ourselves three questions as a nation: How do we attract more jobs to our shores? How do we equip our people with the skills needed to do those jobs? And how do we make sure that hard work leads to a decent living?

[...]

Tonight, I'll lay out additional proposals that are fully paid for and fully consistent with the budget framework both parties agreed to just 18 months ago. Let me repeat – nothing I'm proposing tonight should increase our deficit by a single dime. It's not a bigger government we need, but a smarter government that sets priorities and invests in broad-based growth.
Austerity plus the centering of the middle class that elides entrenched poverty. I'm not excited, and not surprised. But I'll withhold further judgment until I hear the whole thing. After all, we've been promised aggression!

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2FA, #16

Liss: Welp, as you may have heard on Twitter today, feminists hate men, so we can't be friends anymore. Sorry! Deeky: Damn it!

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On Feminism

I've been very busy on Twitter today (obviously), and I know not everyone who is part of the community here is on Twitter, so, with apologies to those who are seeing this in both spaces, I'm trying to share the highlights.

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VAWA Passes Senate

CNN is reporting: "U.S. Senate passes an extension of the Violence Against Women Act by a vote of 78-22. The measure now goes to the House."

The House is, however, currently controlled by the GOP, who oppose additional protections and blocked its reauthorization at the end of the last session.

Come on, Republicans. Do the right thing for a fucking change.

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I Just Don't Even


First of all, I love that my reference to social media on Twitter gets interpreted as "a Facebook status." But even more than that, I love the reflexive scoffing that access to social media and the education that enables utilizing has something to do with feminism.

This, by the way, is one of the smartest responses I've gotten. It is, for example, lightyears beyond: "I just pooped."


After I retweeted (without commentary) that response because OBVIOUSLY, came this exchange:


So far, no response from either of my correspondents.

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Daily Dose of Cute

Matilda the Cat lies on her back on a pillow, looking at me and licking her nose

Matilda: Professional Goofy Thing

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Proving the Point, As Usual

[Content Note: Harassment; misogyny.]

Yesterday, after several more totally routine examples of feminist women getting harassed on Twitter for speaking up against violence and rape, I started the hashtag #tellafeministthankyou. It became a trending topic, and there have been so many amazing tweets showing appreciation for feminists and womanists who are publicly doing work that often requires navigating ten metric fucktons of hostile garbage every day of our lives.

Naturally, the hashtag has also been co-opted by misogynist assholes who are using the tag to harass feminists, totally underscoring why feminism is still necessary and proving the fuck out of my point.


Someone tweeted at me that zie "cringed when I saw this trending because of how people could make it negative," to which I replied: "Like I said, they're just proving the point. I won't shy away from publicly celebrating feminists/womanists because of haters."

Someone else said the co-option for harassment has made the hashtag "almost counterproductive in a way," to which I replied: "If I didn't engage in a feminist act because it might result in my being harassed, I'd never engage in feminist acts. Misogynists don't get to define the outlines of my activism."

If you're on Twitter, tell a feminist thank you today. We need them.

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Two-Minute Nostalgia Sublime



Aimee Mann: "Save Me"

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Downton Abbey Open Thread

image of Thomas giving a dubious look
Yikes.

[Spoilers are telling secrets downstairs herein. Content Note: Homophobia; rape culture.]

I know my DVR said that this episode was only two hours, but I'M PRETTY SURE it was fully one hundred hours. Because it felt like a million hours! But that would just be silly.

I was trying to figure out what's not working for me this season, while I slogged through this episode not really enjoying it at all, and I realized that this format (drama/soap opera) works for me on the upswing, when everyone (or almost everyone) is yearning to be happy and then finding happiness, and really doesn't work for me when everyone (or almost everyone) is happy and the show needs (or thinks it needs) to make them unhappy to create dramatic tension. And it's not because I fart unicorns and can't deal with Sad Feelings (hello, meet my blog), but because there are precious few writers who are good at unhappifying people in ways that seem uncontrived and/or aren't super manipulative. It's tough to write authentic sad moments, I guess? But that's only part of it, because the show has just lost its balance: In a one hundred hour episode, we literally got a 30 second throwaway scene of Bates reuniting with Anna after being released from jail. WHUT. Not good enough.

Anyway. The episode opened with Bates' release from Grey Gaol, and obviously Lord Whoops had perfect advice for him: "Stay in bed! Read books!" Exactly what a man who has spent the last ten months? two years? eleventy hundred fortnights? lying on a manky cot in Grey Gaol wants to do. "Avoid fresh air! Try not to get shivved! Have Mrs. Patmore fix you some gruel! Make a mouse your pet!" Excellent recommendations all, Lord Whoops! That's why everyone knows you're the Brains of the Operation around here.

Speaking of which, after the Dowager Countess makes the genuinely superb suggestion to keep Tom Branson around by giving him a job helping oversee the financial renovation of Downton—"Well, obviously the answer to a thousand different questions is to give the position to Branson!"—and further convinces Lord Whoops with a compelling argument about not letting "your only granddaughter grow up in a garage with that drunken gorilla," Matthew and Tom do their best to manage Lord Whoops' fragile ego and talk him into being vaguely sensible. To which he responds, literally, by suggesting they invest their money with Charles Ponzi. LOL! This guy's like a Good Idea Machine.

Eventually, they all manage to get on the same page because cricket. And that is all I'm going to say about the cricket match because zzzzzzzz. Although it was almost worth it for a glimpse of Carson in that cricket uniform. ALMOST.

Meanwhile...

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In The News

[Content note: Homophobia]

Let the wild rumpus start!:

The champion of small government, Ron Paul, asks the U.N. to strip RonPaul.com's ownership away from his supporters. Liberty!

New York plans to name a school in honor of Maurice Sendak.

A bunch of bigoted douchebags want to hold a straights-only prom.

Lucan the Wolfboy inherits a million bucks from a complete stranger.

The Colorado State Senate gave formal passage to a civil unions bill that now moves on to the House for consideration.

The LAPD is not using drones to hunt Christopher Dorner. Just FYI.

The reason why Truman Capote feared his hometown's biggest party.

A Montana television station's regular programming was interrupted by news of a zombie apocalypse.

North Korea conducted a third nuclear test. Swell.

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How Do Trigger Warnings Fit into the Classroom Lesson Plan?

by Ruxandra Looft, a lecturer at Iowa State University. She can be found on Twitter as @ruxandralooft and editing/writing for the feminist news and advocacy site Flyover Feminism. She lives in Iowa with her partner, daughter, overzealous dog, and a garage full of bikes.

[Content Note: Sexual harassment; rape culture. Cross-posted at Flyover Feminism.]

I'm teaching a Germany current events class at my university this semester. In broad strokes, we cover topics such as media, politics, environmentalism, and identity. The goal of the class is to break away from clichéd images of Germans as Lederhosen-wearing beer-slinging Oktoberfest attendees to a more complex and thoughtful understanding of what it means to be "German" or to live in Germany today.

We had just wrapped up our media unit and had begun discussions about German politics and Germany's political parties when the colossal #Aufschrei Twitter campaign reached our eyes. What started as a sexist comment from Rainer Brüderle (member of Germany's Free Democrats Party) towards a female journalist became the catalyst that inspired media consultant and activist Anne Wizorek to speak out and organize German women's complaints of sexual harassment in bold and candid tweets earmarked with the hashtag #Aufschrei (outcry).

The movement quickly organized to include a website, a Twitter account (@aufschreien), and the sister hashtags (#EverydaySexism, #AlltagsSexismus, #outcry). Feminists all over the world added their tweets to the conversation. A grassroots movement at the intersection of media, politics, and feminism was born. I couldn't wait to talk to my students about it.

But as I compiled links for required readings in preparation of our discussions, I found myself increasingly at odds about how much and how explicitly to talk about sexism and sexual harassment. (This powerful yet harrowing post by Rebecca Solnit in the Tom Dispatch in particular made me question how much and how freely to link to relevant material). When writing about these topics, one can preface articles with trigger warnings cautioning readers about the content ahead. A reader living with trauma caused by the personal experience of the content presented is given the agency to read or not read the words that follow. To remain present or to remove herself from the situation.

But what happens when a student is trapped in a classroom where a discussion brings up terrible and traumatic memories? How can a student easily and subtly remove herself from that moment?

I have thought about prefacing our discussions with a trigger warning introduction to the class but I question how effective that would be. By saying that we are going to discuss topics of a sensitive nature that may make some people uncomfortable and offering students the chance to leave, aren't the very students meant to be spared then singled out and isolated in front of the entire class? While well intentioned, that offer seems useless at best and marginalizing at worst.

The other option? Steering clear of volatile topics in the classroom and playing it safe. But by not talking about harassment, the sorry state of gender equality, and the heroic efforts put forth by activists seems akin to throwing the baby out with the bathwater. There has to be a better way. But how does one work trigger warnings into the classroom lesson plan? How does a teacher effectively and sensitively negotiate topics that require trigger warnings and how are escape options presented in a sensitive and appropriate manner to students whose past traumas follow them into the classroom?

I'm still working on how to best integrate volatile topics into my courses. On how to strike that balance between fostering an atmosphere of openness and willingness to tackle difficult subjects while watching for the cues and signals that relate someone's discomfort and pain. Most importantly, I'm still searching for that verbal equivalent of a written "trigger warning" with which to give my students the agency to walk away when needed.

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Gross

[Content Note: Guns.]

I'm not one to use the word "disrespectful" a whole lot, because I am a fan of irreverence ("I'd never noticed."—No One.) and because I think its deployment is frequently used to marginalize along class lines. But when I do use it, it's usually in regard to the Office of the Presidency—which isn't so much about any individual occupant as much as it is about preserving some national dignity. I acknowledge, readily, that the US is an imperfect nation, but reverence for the Office of the Presidency is a reminder that we can expect more of ourselves.

People who casually disrespect the Office of the Presidency have given up on expecting more, or working for anything better.

Respecting the Office of the Presidency does not mean never criticizing the President. It does not mean never criticizing the President's decisions. It does not mean never holding the President to account. Real respect actually demands all those things. Really all it means is not treating the presidency like a fucking joke, or turning official presidential events into a sideshow.

Like I said, I don't use "disrespectful" a whole lot, but this shit is disrespectful:

Outspoken musician and gun right supporter Ted Nugent will be Rep. Steve Stockman's guest Tuesday night at President Obama's State of the Union address.

...Stockman said in a Monday news release, "I am excited to have a patriot like Ted Nugent joining me in the House Chamber to hear from President Obama."

Stockman added of the "Cat Scratch Fever" rocker and ardent gun-rights supporter, "after the address I'm sure Ted will have plenty to say."
And of course Nugent, who is a vile asshole, is already braying about his plans to barrage the media (who we can only hope will not indulge him) with his special brand of shrieking violent rhetoric and propagandist bullshit.
"We know that the president will have the state of the union stacked and jammed with props, children, and victims of violent crime, " Nugent said. "And my friends wanted me to attend to counter that the way that I do: with facts, statistics and common sense and logic and a celebration of self-evident truths. So I will be taking on the media orgy following the State of the Union Address."

Nugent said the media does not realize he is a "force to be reckoned with" and therefore he will "dominate them."

Nugent added that he would be outspoken after the event but "remain respectful to the office of the presidency and the event itself."
Sure. Sure he will.

The thing is, my issue isn't even primarily with Ted Nugent. He's just being Ted Nugent. My issue is really with Rep. Steve Stockman, who has so little respect for the Office of the Presidency, and no doubt for the man who currently holds it, that he would invite a specimen like Nugent to the State of the Union in the first place.

The Republican Party should be ashamed of Stockman and ashamed of itself. What a contemptible lot.

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Open Thread

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Hosted by an owl figurine.

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Question of the Day

What is the last thing that gave you a huge belly laugh?

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Photo of the Day

traffic is held up by two huge adult lions rolling around in the middle of a paved road
From the Telegraph's Pictures of the Day for 11 February 2013: Traffic comes to a standstill as two lions decide to roll around in the middle of a road on the edge of the Nairobi National Park in Kenya. Commuters watched the ten-minute display before the lions left the road. [Gareth Jones / Barcroft Media]
It's like the best scratch-pad ever!

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