War Over the War on Women

[Content Note: Intersectional misogyny; reproductive rights; ciscentrism. NB: Not only women are in need of reproductive rights, including access to abortion.]

So, there's been a lot of chatter about how Obama's second-term cabinet is looking pretty damn white and male, as Hillary Clinton is being replaced by John Kerry, and the white dudes who are leaving are being replaced by other white dudes—Chuck Hagel to replace Leon Panetta at Defense; Jack Lew to replace Timothy Geithner at Treasury. Hilda Solis' replacement at Labor is unknown, since she just announced her resignation.

There are a lot of personnel changes with any second term, and I'm waiting to see how it all shakes out: In the end, the overall diversity of the administration may increase, based on how lower-level positions are staffed. But visible diversity is crucial, so I have real problems with an overwhelmingly white male cabinet, even in the event the overall diversity improves.

(To my knowledge, all of the current white male nominees identify as cis, straight, and able-bodied, too.)

Legitimate criticisms can and should be made about a failure to practice meaningful diversity by this administration.

Conservatives are, for the most part, not making legitimate criticisms. They are instead making lots of specious and hypocritical arguments that they would never direct at one of their own candidates. My favorite among these is definitely Mike Huckabee accusing Obama of waging his own "war on women."

Former Arkansas Gov. Mike Huckabee slammed the president and Democrats for their "war on women" campaign rhetoric — observing that Obama's second term Cabinet is likely to include few women.

"Now a lot of those females who supported Barack Obama are scratching their heads, and they're saying, 'Whoa! How come there is so much testosterone in the Obama Cabinet and so little estrogen?'" the Arkansas Republican said on his radio program Wednesday. "Because if you look around, all of these high-powered appointments that he is making are all white guys."

Obama promised women "contraceptives and free abortions" to get their votes, but "never promised women would have seats of significance at the table of power," Huckabee said.

"You remember back during the Democratic [National] Convention, how he accused the Republicans of waging a war on women? And a lot of women must have believed it because he got 55 percent of the female vote, Mitt Romney 44 percent," he said.

"Give 'em contraceptives and abortions. But don't worry about positions of authority. They shouldn't be asking for such things," the former presidential candidate said.
First of all, "female" is not meant to be a noun unless one is referring to livestock. Secondly, if one speaks about men and women using "testosterone" and "estrogen," one risks having others infer that one has wadded-up paper towels filling up the unused space in one's brainpan. Thirdly, free abortions? If only.

Again, the lack of female cabinet members is a valid criticism, but the way Huckabee attaches (or rather fails to attach) it here to reproductive rights is absurd, revealing precisely why it is that women trust his party in lower numbers: Women need absolute control over their reproduction in order to navigate a career that qualifies them for positions of authority.

Pro-choice advocacy is a promise to women that they will be able to fulfill their individual potentials. Meaningful inclusion of women is delivering on that promise.

They are inextricably linked, these things.

Huckabee may want to reconsider sneering at Obama for failing to deliver on the promise to girls and women, when his party fails consistently even to make the promise at all.

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This Cannot (SHOULD NOT) Be Happening

[Content Note: Homophobia; misogyny; gender essentialism.]

Four years ago, then President-Elect Barack Obama chose the odious megachurch megamonster Rick Warren, professional homophobe and misogynist, to deliver the invocation at his inauguration. It was Obama's contemptible statement defending that choice in which he famously declared himself a "fierce advocate" for gay rights:

I think that it is no secret that I am fierce advocate for equality for gay and lesbian Americans. It is something that I have been consistent on and something that I intend to continue to be consistent on during my presidency.
I don't imagine that any of us expected, particularly after the President personally affirmed his support of marriage equality, consistency in extending invitations to virulently anti-gay Christians to do the invocations at his inaugurals.
The Presidential Inauguration Committee announced Tuesday that the President Obama has selected Pastor Louie Giglio of the Georgia-based Passion City Church to deliver the benediction for his second inauguration. In a mid-1990s sermon identified as Giglio's, available online on a Christian training website, he preached rabidly anti-LGBT views. The 54-minute sermon, entitled "In Search of a Standard – Christian Response to Homosexuality," advocates for dangerous "ex-gay" therapy for gay and lesbian people, references a biblical passage often interpreted to require gay people be executed, and impels Christians to "firmly respond to the aggressive agenda" and prevent the "homosexual lifestyle" from becoming accepted in society.
Wow, he sounds GREAT.

I bet his views on agency and consent are awesome, too.

UPDATE: Via Sky Dancing, there is also this report by Chris Geidner at BuzzFeed of Giglio engaging in some old-fashioned patriarchal gender essentialism:
[Giglio] did reference gender roles in a striking way, speaking of a time he started crying very hard. He explained, "I started bawling, I mean, sobbing. Not crying like men cry. I started crying like women cry." Continuing, he explained what he called the unwritten rules for men who cry, telling the students, "A man never looks at another man that's crying. That's the rule."
One of the most striking images from the President's reelection was his crying as he thanked his campaign staff. Now he's invited a guy to his inaugural who diminishes the strength of male vulnerability, and implicates women as less than in the process.

I am reminded of how Obama invited Warren, even though Warren equated him with a Nazi appeaser for being pro-choice. It's like he still feels obliged to personally win over every asshole who talks shit about him, or the kind of man he clearly aspires to be.

UPDATE 2: Giglio has reportedly been removed from the program. Good.

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Oscar Nominations

So, the Oscar nominations were announced this morning, and here is the complete list. Insert here everything I've ever written about the Oscar nominations, because it is the typical fuckery, plus what I said here about the Golden Globe nominations: "I am excited to see Life of Pi and its director Ang Lee nominated, because oh that film was so beautiful and so good. It is some real bullshit, though, that Suraj Sharma hasn't been nominated for Best Actor, because that movie couldn't be a best picture nominee without his remarkable performance. Boo."

Although I'm sure Bradley Cooper was tremendous in Silver Linings Playbook, which appears to be a film about how love cures mental illness. Neat!

Anyway. Congratulations to Hugh Jackman and my condolences about losing to Daniel Day-Lewis.

Discuss!

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Question of the Day

What's for dinner?

Tonight at Shakes Manor: A savory potato and turkey torte.

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Photo of the Day

image of the iconic McDonald's golden arches beneath which it typically reads 'McDonald's,' but here reads instead 'Macca's'.
From the Telegraph's Pictures of the Day for 9 January 2013: New signage is seen outside a McDonald's store in the southern Sydney suburb of Engadine. Global fast food chain McDonald's is embracing its Australian nickname Down Under, with selected stores around the country changing their signage to "Macca's". [McDonalds Australia/AFP/Getty Images]
Cute!

I know some Macs hate the nick "Macca," and hate even more sharing it with McDonald's, but I have a special fondness for it, since I'm married to a Mac who gets lovingly called Macca by his mates.

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Big Bang Bust

I have never been a great lover of sitcoms. Despite their ubiquity in American primetime television, especially when I was growing up, there just weren't a lot of them for me to love. So much of the com always relied on sits that mocked or belittled or straight-up hated the characters in the show with which we were meant to identify. I have only ever been able to love sitcoms that loved their characters.

The earliest sitcom I remember loving—I mean really loving—was Good Times, a show about a black family who lived in the Chicago projects, the central feature of which was their struggle to navigate life in poverty. It was an imperfect show: There was a strong message of bootstraps, which simultaneously challenged narratives about the Welfare Queens to whom Ronald Reagan had not yet given a name, and indirectly entrenched judgment of anyone who would accept "a hand-out." But it was an important and challenging show, which did not shy away from discussions of racial and feminist justice. And it loved its characters deeply.

image of the cast of Good Times

The next sitcom I remember really loving was The Golden Girls, for so many reasons, but chief among them that the show loved its characters. There were jokes at the women's expense, but they were delivered by one another (usually Sophia), and thus was it ever unmistakable these were in-jokes of a loving group. We weren't invited to laugh at them, but with them.

image of the cast of The Golden Girls

There have been other shows I've loved along the way, some very much. But something about these not quite as lovable shows held me (or obliged me to hold myself) at a distance. I deeply dug The Cosby Show as a child, but there was always a thread of one-upping—between Cliff and Claire, between Cliff and the kids—that put me at unease. Someone was always getting the better of someone else, which never sat precisely right with me. I loved Family Ties, but there was always a weird hostility toward Mallory's girlyness that alienated me.

image of the casts of The Cosby Show and Family Ties

It is a subtle difference, but I have always been most strongly drawn to the shows that invite me to love their characters because of their flaws, rather than in spite of them.

For all the times Parks and Rec has made my teeth grind with its Jerry bullying, I have known, always, that the show loves Jerry, and wants us to love him—and when the other characters are thoughtless or cruel to him, it is they who are wrong. It is their flaw, their envy, their self-involvement—not anything wrong with the inimitably lovable Jerry.

It is so rare that I love, really love, a sitcom that I feel overwhelmed with a bounty of riches that there are two shows currently airing that I adore: Parks and Rec and New Girl, about which I have written before that "the thing I like most is that it loves its characters. It asks me to root for them, and I do!"

image of the casts of Parks & Rec and New Girl

All of which is prelude to this: The Big Bang Theory doesn't like its female characters anymore, and so I don't really like The Big Bang Theory anymore.

I didn't like TBBT the first time I watched it, which was just some random episode in the middle of the series. But then I watched it from the beginning, when it went into syndication, and I liked it a lot. It's never been a show I've loved like the aforementioned shows, but it was a show I enjoyed quite a bit, anyway—and I thought it did a pretty swell job of exposing Nice Guyism for the garbage that it is.

Mostly, I liked Penny.

I really liked this female character, despite her tokenism, who was routinely drawn as a complex human being despite the guys' objectification of her. I liked that she was allowed to be funny, and clever, and have sexual agency, and teach the guys by example how to stand up to bullies.

The show, I thought, liked Penny, too.

And I really liked the additional female leads that were added in time. I liked Bernadette—even though she has a terrible case of Bailey Quarters which compels us to pretend that she's not beautiful because she wears glasses and someone else is supposed to be the sexpot on the show—and I loved Amy Farrah Fowler. (I really like Leslie Winkle whenever she shows up, too.) I liked most of the scenes between the girls, and I was glad Penny wasn't isolated in a tower of Exceptional Womanhood anymore.

image of the cast of The Big Bang Theory

But then something changed. I'm not sure exactly when it happened, but the show lost its respect for Amy Farrah Fowler. Once a formidable complement to Sheldon Cooper, she has been reduced to an unwanted trophy—he gets a girl (that he doesn't even seem to want) and she has to settle for a shitty relationship because, hey, she's a nerd; it's not like she could do (or deserves?) any better.

And, this season, the show seems to have lost every trace of the love it once had for Penny.

Penny isn't allowed to be good at anything anymore. She can't accomplish this, she can't understand that, she's not even smart enough to take science classes at community college. This is the same character who used to (literally) kick ass on earlier seasons, and now her entire oeuvre consists of drinking wine and making sure Leonard still thinks she's sexy.

There was an episode earlier this season, in which Penny was taking a history course, and couldn't even write a decent paper on her own. Leonard was being a complete asshole about it, and, watching the show, Iain and I were bitterly complaining that the show had rendered Penny incapable of writing a 101-level essay. When at last Penny presented Leonard with a B+ paper, we were so happy—only to be immediately crushed by the reveal that Bernadette and Amy had helped her, and only helped her enough to get a B+, because they wanted it to be "realistic."

Every time Penny trudges by in her waitress uniform, I now cringe. Because it's just a reminder about how the show won't let her succeed. At anything.

Which certainly doesn't make for a better show. I would have found an episode about Penny and Leonard trying to navigate their relationship while she's taken away by a movie role (professional success! yay for Penny!) exponentially more interesting than the last episode, where I instead watched Penny put on sexy glasses to give Leonard a boner to assuage her insecurity after another woman flirted with him.

The fact is, TBBT has officially fallen out of love with Penny. And that makes TBBT pretty damn unwatchable for me.

Take note, sitcom writers: I can't love your characters more than you do.

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Pizzicato Five: "Sweet Thursday"

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Today in the War on Agency

Paul Ryan Cosponsors New Fetal Personhood Bill. Of course he does.

Despite the deep unpopularity of fetal personhood bills in 2012, Rep. Paul Ryan (R-Wis.) has again decided to cosponsor the Sanctity of Human Life Act, a bill that gives full legal rights to human zygotes from the moment of fertilization.
Fun Fact! "The Equal Rights Amendment, first proposed in 1923 to affirm that women and men have equal rights under the law, is still not part of the U.S. Constitution."

[H/T to Jordan.]

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Wednesday Blogaround

This blogaround brought to you by Thursday.

Recommended Reading:

A good reminder from Ana about what constitutes ableist language.

Andy: Indiana Lawmakers Forge Ahead with Plans to Constitutionally Ban Same-Sex Marriage

Dexter: Hollywood's Slavery Films Tell Us More About the Present Than the Past

AWI: Canine Members of the Armed Forces Act

Jennifer: On Crushes [Content Note: Emotional dishonesty.]

Susana: Sisters Separated by WWII and Seventy Years, Reunited Via Facebook

Rachel: No Country for All Women: Holding Up Violence Against Women Act

Helen: Call for Submissions for the Anthology Brotherhood is Powerful: An Anthology of Liberationist Writings by Transsexual Men

Jess: What Is There to Say?: January 8th Edition [Content Note: Gun violence.]

Jacqueline: What We're Reading at Women Are Watching

Conor: SCOTUSblog Wednesday Round-Up

ICYMI: Rachel's Storify on Doug Saunders' rape apologia. And Jess' is here.

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RIP Jeanne Manford, Founder of PFLAG

When Jeanne Manford wrote a letter to the New York Post in 1972, declaring: “I have a homosexual son, and I love him,” she must have felt she was trying to empty the ocean with an eyedropper (not even a teaspoon).

When she passed away yesterday, the organization she founded had more than 200,000 members and 350 chapters in the United States alone.

That’s impressive, but it’s not what I think of when I think of Jeanne.

I think of my first Gay Pride parade -- in Portland, Oregon, 1980. 

At that time, I’d been out to myself for more than ten years, out to my lovers and close queer friends for six, but had never appeared in public as a lesbian before.

PFLAG was there.   I remember watching this group of people gathering in the park before the parade began and thinking that they didn’t look like your typical parade-marching queers.  When I found out what their acronym stood for, my eyebrows went up for the first time that day.

I’d moved west from small-town Kansas, and had been in Portland less than a year.   I was not only not “out” to my parents, but actively closeted to them and my entire family.  Seeing these parents, sisters, brothers, and straight friends standing up and speaking out about their love and support for their queer loved ones brought tears to my eyes.  It was like touching a possibility that I had never dared hope for.

That happened every year after, for me, too.  I’d try to march toward the front of the parade, so that I could stand in the crowd at Waterfront Park and watch the rest of the contingents come through -- every time PFLAG came through, I got choked up.

A few years later, when I came out to my parents, I can say without hesitation that PFLAG helped me do that. 

A decade after that, my parents wrote a letter to the Secretary of State of Colorado saying that they wouldn’t be visiting the State until its anti-gay laws were repealed, and then testified at their Lutheran church in support of ordination for queers.  I believe that PFLAG helped them do that, even though they never became official members of the organization.

The existence of an organized group of allies -- a group that was willing to be visible, vocal, and stand at my side -- changed my mind about what was possible in terms of my relationship with my own family, and carved out a safe space for my parents to become my allies. 

For that, I will be forever grateful to Jeanne Manford.

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Daily Dose of Cute

Dudley has a sore foot. He is being pathetic.

image of Dudley the Greyhound lying on the couch with his head hanging off, looking super pathetic

VERY pathetic.

image of Dudley's dangling pathetic head, in close-up

By which I mean super adorbz. Obviously.

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True Fact

I still don't give the tiniest infinitesimal fuck about Lance Armstrong, who, frankly, seems like a colossal d-bag. SORRY, OPRAH! Good luck with your big garbage confessional show, though!

I remember reading this comment thread at the New York Times, right after Armstrong was banned for doping and stripped of his titles, when he was continuing to unilaterally deny that he'd ever cheated. And most of the commenters were pretty sure he was full of shit, but then there were his defenders. So passionate, and so invested in his honesty. They really believed him.

I don't give a fuck about Armstrong, but I feel bad for them.

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In The News

Thursday News:

Curiosity recently used its Dust Removal Tool for the first time, clearing away a patch of rust-colored dust coating its latest target: a slab of rock called Ekwir_1.

Read this: A boy, his dog and a big heart.

The greatest thing ever: Woman's Day Dagobah and Hoth action playsets! (Not a typo!) Also: Woman's Day Outer-Space Station action playset! (Really!)

Suede is giving away its new song as a free download. Yay!

Crate & Barrel features a gay couple in a new catalog spread advertising pasta-making equipment.

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In Better Gun-Related News...

[Content Note: Guns; violence; ableism.]

FMF News: Gabrielle Giffords and Mark Kelly Launch Anti-Gun PAC.

In an op-ed in USA Today, former Congresswoman Gabrielle Giffords and her husband Mark Kelly announced that they have launched a Political Action Committee to challenge the dominance of gun-rights lobbyists in Washington, DC, on the two year anniversary of the shooting in Tuscon, Arizona, that left six dead and severely wounded the Congresswoman.

Giffords and Kelly criticized the National Rifle Association's response to the Sandy Hook Massacre, saying "Special interests purporting to represent gun owners but really advancing the interests of an ideological fringe have used big money and influence to cow Congress into submission. ... Rather than conducting a dialogue, they threaten those who divert from their orthodoxy with political extinction."

The PAC, Americans for Responsible Solutions, will attempt to start national discussion about pro-active and realistic gun control as well as raise funds to rival the clout the National Rifle Association has in Congress. "With Americans for Responsible Solutions engaging millions of people about ways to reduce gun violence and funding political activity nationwide, legislators will no longer have reason to fear the gun lobby," the couple said.
Let it be so.

This is a real teaspoon vs. dumptruck operation right now. (Donate here, if you are able and so inclined.) I hope they are successful, and I hope that they deemphasize the whole "keep guns out of the hands of the mentally ill" rhetoric along the way, for reasons I have already detailed.

It isn't that I don't understand the reflexive support of the eminently reasonable-sounding idea that dangerously, violently mentally ill people shouldn't be armed. It's just that I can't ignore all the Various Stuff (e.g.) which makes that eminently reasonable-sounding idea not a very realistic or effective or just idea in practice.

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Jesus quote billboard

[Image description: A stark billboard in western Maryland reading "I miss hearing you say 'Merry Christmas' — Jesus."]

Yeah, sure, that is definitely something Jesus would be bothered by. Not that stuff about how we don't feed the poor or don't care for the sick or how we use his name to justify all kinds of bigotry. He's just pissed we aren't celebrating his birthday. Right? There was definitely no Christmas this year, I am sure of it.

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Number of the Day

[Content Note: Guns; violence.]

643: The number of people in the US who have been killed by guns since the Newtown shooting.

In related news:


Whooooooooops! Oh well, I'm sure it doesn't matter when the nation's (and world's) largest retailer of guns skips the gun reform meeting. We're still all definitely taking this epidemic of gun violence very seriously, I'm sure!

Speaking of taking things seriously, has everyone seen the video of gun advocate and professional shouter Alex Jones on Piers Morgan's show? Because it was pretty zany!

Part One:



Part Two:



Full transcript available here.

I have read a lot of people saying a lot of things (usually riddled with ablism) about how this exchange exemplifies the gun rights debate, such as it is, in the US. I don't agree with that assessment. It's my estimation that this exchange typifies the stereotype of the gun rights debate in the US, in that gun reformers are perceived to be a bunch of snotty elitist smug-monsters, and gun owners are perceived to be a bunch of red-faced hollering bullies.

What I'm saying is: Piers Morgan is terrible. Alex Jones is terrible. This whole thing is terrible.

I believe it is possible to have a reasonable conversation about gun reform in this country, and I further believe that the people who most benefit from the idea that it is not possible are professional gun advocates, who are perfectly content to be regarded as so wildly unreasonable that we might as well not even bother trying to be negotiate with them.

Then they never have to make the choice to be reasonable or not.

Alex Jones is not an avatar for gun owners in the United States. He's a caricature. And I believe there are gun owners, probably even lots of them who were rooting him on, who would be reasonable if only they were asked.

I believe it is possible to have a thoughtful and serious debate about gun reform. And if it really isn't, well, fuck. I expect more than this.

[H/T to Jess for the Slate link.]

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The Washington National Cathedral Will Start Marrying Same-Sex Couples

What a lovely story:

Same-sex couples can now wed at the Washington National Cathedral, according to an email sent by the dean of the cathedral and a later report from the Associated Press.

...The AP spoke with the dean, the Very Rev. Gary Hall:
[Hall] said performing same-sex marriages is an opportunity to break down barriers and build a more inclusive community "that reflects the diversity of God's world.

"I read the Bible as seriously as fundamentalists do. And my reading of the Bible leads me to want to do this because I think it's being faithful to the kind of community that Jesus would have us be.

"As a kind of tall-steeple, public church in the nation's capital, by saying we're going to bless same-sex marriages, conduct same-sex marriages, we are really trying to take the next step for marriage equality in the nation and in the culture.

"For us to be able to say we embrace same-sex marriage as a tool for faithful people to live their lives as Christian people, for us to be able to say that at a moment when so many other barriers toward full equality and full inclusion for gay and lesbian people are falling, I think it is an important symbolic moment."
The Washington Cathedral is an Episcopal church, part of a denomination which has been moving toward extending the rite of marriage to same-sex couples for some time.

Well done, WashCat!

[H/T to @jamisonfoser.]

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Question of the Day

What are you currently reading? Fiction, nonfiction, graphic novels, technical manuals, whatever.

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