Photo of the Day

a white winterscape on a sunny winter day in Russia
From the Telegraph's Pictures of the Day for 2 January 2013: A woman walks with her child on the banks of the Yenisey River near the Siberian city of Krasnoyarsk in air temperatures of about minus 30 degrees Celsius. [Ilya Naymushin/Reuters]
Anton Chekhov regarded Krasnoyarsk as the most beautiful city in Siberia. I can see why.

He wrote in a letter: "As one comes down to Krasnoyarsk one seems to be getting into a different world. You come out of the forest into a plain which is like our Donets steppe, but here the mountain ridges are grander. The sun shines its very best."

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In The News

[Content note: Rape, murder, sexual violence, rape culture, racism, terrorism, fat-hatred]

Wednesday News:

Indian authorities added murder charges for suspects in the brutal gang rape that led to the death of a 23-year-old woman.

Dr. Oz's miraculous diet pill is bullshit. Whoops!

A number of gay couples took advantage of Maryland's marriage equality law after it took effect at midnight on Tuesday. Yay!

Governor without a soul plans to sue the NCAA over Penn State sanctions.

Patti Page, one of the most successful recording artists in history, died yesterday.

Mosque arsonist tells court: "I only know what I hear on Fox News."

Nothing says history like a "souvenir squash": Blood belonging to Louis XVI may have been found in a gourd.

Bobby Womack has revealed he's suffering from brain disorder Alzheimer's.

A marriage equality bill will be introduced in the Rhode Island legislature tomorrow.

Del­e­gates announced plans to intro­duce three gun-related bills in the Mary­land state leg­is­la­ture, including the "Gun-Owner Pri­vacy Act." No word on when the "Right Not To Be Shot Act" is coming.

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House GOP Blocks Reauthorization of VAWA

As you may recall, in 2012, House Republicans turned the reauthorization of the Violence Against Women Act, which has previously been a virtually automatic piece of Congressional business, into a big fucking fight because of new provisions for icky things like expanded protections for same-sex couples, Native Americans, and undocumented immigrants.

Welp, the Congressional session closed out with no movement on the bill, despite the legislation's architect and champion, Vice President Joe Biden, having pleaded with House Majority Leader Eric Cantor (R-Eprehensible) to save the legislation, so now, "for the first time since 1994, the Violence Against Women Act is no more."

Sen. Patty Murray (D-Wash.), the Democratic point person on VAWA, said in a statement:
"The House Republican leadership's failure to take up and pass the Senate's bipartisan and inclusive VAWA bill is inexcusable. This is a bill that passed with 68 votes in the Senate and that extends the bill's protections to 30 million more women. But this seems to be how House Republican leadership operates. No matter how broad the bipartisan support, no matter who gets hurt in the process, the politics of the right wing of their party always comes first."
Proponents of the law hope to revive the law in the new Congress, starting from scratch, but in the meantime, there will be far fewer resources available for state and local governments to combat domestic violence.
Congratulations, Republicans. That's quite a party you've got there.

For the record: Prosecuting abusive spouses and providing resources to abused spouses so they can safely extricate themselves from potentially life-threatening situations protects the sanctity of marriage and the sanctity of life, if you believe in the sacred.

Of course, it's (mostly) women's lives, and, as we all know, the Republican Party considers those a negligible item.

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Because, Whatever It Is, She's Definitely Lying!

Earlier today, I noted that there are conspiracy theorists floating various cockamamie alternatives to what's REALLY wrong with Hillary Clinton. Here's a snippet from the list of search phrases currently bringing people to Shakesville:

screen cap of search terms reading: 'wt's really wrong with hillary clinton / white males extinction / what's really wrong with hillary clinton / whats really wrong with hillary clinton / what the what / what is wrong with hillary clinton / what is wrong with hiliary clinton / what is really wrong with hillery'

I love the "white males extinction" thrown in there, lol.

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Quote of the Day

cartoon image of angry white male preacher, to which I've added text reading 'Mad as Hell,' with the 'Hell' crossed out and replaced with 'Usual'."What will religion look like in the year 2060? Conservative Christians will be treated as second class citizens, much like African Americans were prior to civil rights legislation in the 1960s. Family as we know it will be drastically changed with the state taking charge of the children beginning at birth. Marriage will include two, three, four or any number of participants. Marriage will not be important, with individuals moving in and out of a 'family' group at will. Churchbuildings will be little used, with many sold to secular buyers and the money received going to the government. Churches will not be allowed to discuss any political issues, even if it affects the church directly. Tax credit given to churches and non-profit organizations will cease. Christian broadcasting will be declared illegal based on the separation of church and state. The airwaves belong to the government, therefore they cannot be used for any religious purpose. We will have, or have had, a Muslim president. Cities with a name from the Bible such as St. Petersburg, Bethlehem, etc. will be forced to change their name due to separation of church and state. Groups connected to any religious affiliation will be forced out of health care. Health centers get tax money from the state, making it a violation of church and state. Get involved! Sign THE STATEMENT." — Don Wildmon, Dipshit-in-Chief of the American Family Association, in an email to his garbage organization's members this morning, warning them of the grim future for Christians in the US.

I can understand why they're so terrified. Ahem.

There is, obviously, a lot to love about this quote. Like the idea that there is still not institutional discrimination against African Americans. That's EXTRA delightful in an email employing the racist rhetorical device of implying our black Christian president is a secret Muslim!

And like the idea that "the state [will take] charge of the children beginning at birth." Fearmongering over state intervention in reproduction is especially rich coming from a group that fervently supports state ownership of bodies with uteri and state-imposed forcible birth.

And like the idea that it's A TERRIBLE THING for people to form families of choice, despite the fact that many of us are ostracized from families of origin because of failure to adhere to (what would be self-marginalizing) religious/conservative beliefs and behaviors hostile to consent, agency, and intrinsic identity—mores ardently advocated by the AFA.

Et cetera.

I do hope he's right about rescinding the tax credit, though. I will never fail to find it absurd and contemptible that hate groups operating under the auspices of religion are subsidized by my tax dollars.

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Wednesday Blogaround

This blogaround brought to you by bucatini.

Recommended Reading:

Veronica: No One Deserves to Be Raped [Content Note: The post at this link contains discussion of sexual violence and victim-blaming.]

Lead On Update: Top 10 Disability Events of 2012

Andrew: Catholic Bishop Balks as Illinois Lawmakers Move on Marriage

Ana: Health: Fat Shaming and Playstation Portables [Content Note: The post at this link contains discussion of fat shaming and medical malfeasance.]

HAES® Blog: The HAES® files: 2013, We Are Resolved! [Do you have a story like Ana's, at the previous link? HAES® wants to know!]

Jamilah: The World Didn't End, So Did All the Attention Help or Hurt the Maya?

Aaron: A Moment of Dreaming About Higher Education

Susana: So There's a Whitehouse.gov Petition to Get NASA to Investigate Feasibility of Building the Enterprise

Atrios: No Damn Jobs And No Damn Money

Trudy: On Resting

Carol: 2013 Project

Angry Asian Man: Remember When "Sriracha" Was Added to the Oxford English Dictionary?

Nick: Deal With It

Leave your links and recommendations in comments...

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Tweet of the Day

Background: Republican New Jersey Governor Chris Christie tore into House Republicans today "for failing to vote on a Hurricane Sandy aid package before the end of the 113th Congress on Tuesday night." Some people wonder why it is that Christie seems more angry about this than President Obama. My friend Phil tweets the following:


Perfect. Elegant. Searing.

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Discussion Thread: 2013

It is now the year of our lord Jesus Jones two thousand and thirteen, which sounds like a sci-fi date to me instead of a real year. It is two years away from the year Marty McFly visited in Back to the Future II, Shakers! But I digress.

How did you ring in the New Year?

Iain and I spent the evening with friends. Our friends Mark and Anthony—the latter of whom I met in kindergarten where we bonded over a shared love of Smurfs and Star Wars and formed a friendship that endures to this day—had a NYE get-together, where we ate Ant's yummy ham (that is not a double entendre!) and drank raspberry champagne at midnight. And observed, while kids played video games on the living room floor, that we would have been much drunker ten years ago, lol.

image of Anthony, a trim Latino man in a grey-and-white striped sweater, and me, a fat white woman in a blue sweater and black-and-white patterned blouse, hugging each other tightly and grinning
Anthony and me. Posted with his permission.

Also, as I'm sure I don't need to tell you, there was texting with Deeky.

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Two-Minute Nostalgia Sublime



Gordon Lightfoot: "The Wreck of the Edmund Fitzgerald"

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Daily Dose of Cute

A pic, in ascending age order, of each of the five furry residents of Shakes Manor taken during our holiday, which was a lovely staycation during which we did all sorts of around-the-house projects:

image of Zelda the Black-and-Tan Mutt, tilting her head to one side
Zelda intently contemplates whether she is, in fact, a good girl.

image of Dudley the Greyhound, lying on the couch, looking very regal
Dudley: Large and in charge.

image of Sophie the Torbie Cat, curled up on a man's lap
Sophie snuggles with Kenny Blogginz.

image of Olivia the White-and-Tabby Farm Cat, lying on the arm of the sofa, looking pensive
Olivia: One little brown earsie and one little pink earsie.

image of Matilda the Blue-Eyed Sealpoint Fuzzy Cat, lying on the sofa looking sleepy
Matilda was soooooo hung over on New Year's Day. "Keep it down, Two-Legs!"

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Number of the Day

[Content Note: Reproductive rights; hostility to agency.]

43: The number of reproductive health and rights provisions enacted in 19 state legislatures in 2012 that sought to restrict access to abortion services.

image of a Guttmacher chart showing the number of state abortion restrictions in the US, by year
Reproductive health and rights were once again the subject of extensive debate in state capitols in 2012. Over the course of the year, 42 states and the District of Columbia enacted 121 provisions related to reproductive health and rights. One-third of these new provisions, 43 in 19 states, sought to restrict access to abortion services. Although this is a sharp decrease from the record-breaking 92 abortion restrictions enacted in 2011, it is the second highest number of new abortion restrictions passed in a year.

Against the backdrop of a contentious presidential campaign in which abortion and even contraception were front-burner issues —to a degree unprecedented in recent memory—supporters of reproductive health and rights were able to block high-profile attacks on access to abortion in states as diverse as Alabama, Idaho, Minnesota, Pennsylvania and Virginia. Similarly, the number of attacks on state family planning funding was down sharply, and only two states disqualified family planning providers from funding in 2012, compared with seven in 2011. That said, no laws were enacted in 2012 to facilitate or improve access to abortion, family planning or comprehensive sex education.
Emphasis mine.

The Guttmacher Institute has a more detailed analysis here.

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Hillary Clinton Recovering

Last week, Secretary of State Hillary Clinton was admitted to the hospital for treatment of a blood clot in her head, which is thought to have been caused by the same fall that gave her a concussion earlier in the month, as a result of dehydration from a stomach virus.

She is reportedly being treated with blood thinners and is expected to make a full recovery.

image of Hillary Clinton making a sort of wonderful, pissy, exasperated face
She is not offended by this blood clot; she is contemptuous.

Naturally, because it's Hillary Clinton and because conservatives are garbage nightmares, there are no fewer than 37 different conspiracy theories about what's REALLY wrong with Hillary Clinton.

Because obviously she isn't really in need of medical care: She's just FAKING IT to avoid accountability on Benghazi.

Which makes sense. If there's one thing that Hillary Clinton is known for, it's avoiding tough fights and shirking responsibility.

Anyway. My favorite conspiracy theory so far, to which I'm not linking but I'm sure you can find it if you are so inclined, is the one about Clinton's cascading health problems being a long-con cover for her having been in a plane that was shot down while on a secret Iranian mission. That's pretty cool.

Get well soon, Secretary!

And, as I'm sure no one would be more keen for me to make this observation than Secretary Clinton herself: She is receiving the best treatment possible, to which she has access because she has government-provided health insurance and is wealthy enough to cover anything and everything her healthcare plan does not. She tried to secure that kind of access to care for everyone, once upon a time. And failed because of resistance by the same group of crudsmudges who are accusing her of faking and/or misrepresenting her injuries now.

Of course.

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The Jon Swift Memorial Roundup 2012

Jon Swift (aka Al Weisel), a brilliant blogger and satirist, and sometime contributor to Shakesville, used to wrap up each year by asking as many bloggers as he could contact to submit their best posts of the year for a massive roundup of awesome writing.

Weisel died in 2010, and, in his honor, Batocchio of Vagabond Scholar has compiled a Jon Swift Memorial Roundup every year since.

The latest annual roundup is here. There's lots of good stuff there, and I hope you'll stop by and check it out.

The piece I submitted is "I Cannot Truly Want What I Am Told I Must Have." I don't know that it's precisely the best thing I've written all year, but it was the first thing that came to mind. That piece is reprinted below.

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I Cannot Truly Want What I Am Told I Must Have

This is my experience: I have never wanted children.

When Iain and I first started talking about the possibility of spending some significant part of our lives together, I told him flatly: "I don't want children. If that's a deal-breaker, I understand, but don't get involved with me thinking you'll change my mind, because I won't." He said, with the obnoxious confidence of a young privileged man dating his first feminist, "It's not a deal-breaker, although I think you might change your mind." I chuckled. Instead, he has changed his.

Our family is complete.

Part of being a straight cis woman who is childless by choice is that you get asked why—why you don't have children, and, if you are bold enough to say you don't want them, why it is that you don't.

I started saying I don't want children from a very young age—my oldest ladyfriend, the oft-mentioned C whom I have known since I was 11, once described a shocking event by saying, "The only thing weirder would have been you announcing you were pregnant!"—so I've been asked to consider why it is that I don't want children for much of my life, and I've never had a great answer.

I used to say, simply and straightforwardly, "I'm selfish," which is true. I like lots of time to myself, and I relish the particular flexible liberty that can't coexist with obligation, and I enjoy the psychic freedom of never having to stay on top of a child's schedule in addition to my own. But it's more than that. I knew that even when I said it, and I said it primarily because that is what people tend to believe, irrespective of its veracity.

I sometimes say, to people with whom I can be more frank, that it is because I am afraid to be pregnant (true) and that I am afraid to duplicate the same dysfunctions that defined my family of origin (also true). But it's more than that, too.

Not having an answer isn't something that plagues my mind, because "I just don't" is sufficient for my own self-satisfaction, and I have never felt as though I owe anyone a more detailed explanation than that which contents my own curiosity.

But watching the onslaught of legislative attacks on reproductive rights unfold over the last couple of years, something has begun to percolate at the back of my mind—an answer to that question, a response to the why. In the last few weeks, under the oppressive drumbeat of this dehumanization, this thought has crawled out of its chrysalis and inched its way forward toward conscious thought.

I have never been more acutely aware of my reductive purpose as a babymaking machine, more subject to incessant, inescapable, insistent reminders that my personhood is debatable, that I am nothing if I don't use my body to have children, that I am a uterus with some meat attached in service to its reproductive capacity.

And comes the realization from deep down in the darkest depths of me that I do not want children, that I have never wanted children, because of my desperate yearning to be a whole person, to matter, always and only, on the value of me and not the other little people I am supposed to create.

Please understand: I do not judge other women who are parents by the measure of their reproductive choice. I am merely acknowledging my understanding of how society, and some of the particular subcultures and communities of which I am a member, would judge me if I made the same choice—and certainly judges them.

No one, after all, knows better the ways that motherhood can be used to devalue women than a mother.

I have understood, intuitively, from a very early age that, in this culture, in the spaces in which I move, to have children is to dilute one's value as a human, even as it is to enhance one's value as a woman.

To have children, in this culture, in the spaces in which I move, has felt and feels still like a concession to a destiny in which I felt I had no choice, unless I chose childlessness.

This is the thought that the assault on reproductive rights has laid across my consciousness in the past days, weeks: I don't want children, because I so dearly want a choice, because I so ardently want autonomy, because I so desperately want my full humanity. And I have lived a lifetime in spaces—familial spaces, religious spaces, educational spaces, cultural spaces—in which virtually every message I received encouraged me, coaxed me, cajoled me, coerced me into childbearing.

And now it is the endgame: Now they fight to force me.

It should come as no surprise that a movement seeking to limit my choice makes me feel like I don't have one. And still, I am rather astonished to discover that I have simply never felt that having children was ever a choice I believed I could enthusiastically make on my own, without having been compromised by the crushing pressure of procreative, anti-choice rhetoric.

For the first time, I consider the possibility that I don't even really know if I want children or don't want them. All I know with certainty is that I will not have them.

Not like this.

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So Who Wants to Talk About the Exciting Fiscal Cliff Deal?!

No one?! Ha ha ME NEITHER!

Just kidding. Obviously we all want to talk about it SO MUCH because it is very exciting. Almost TOO exciting. Try to control yourselves while talking about the fiscal cliff deal, everyone.

Basically, in case you haven't been paying attention—not that anyone would give anything less than their full attention to the machinations of a bullshit deal struck between a bunch of pitiful concessionists and a bunch of sneering obstructionists over a made-up problem—a garbage deal was struck, and passed by the Senate, then the House was all, "We'll see about THAT."

So it was a real nail-biter, as usual, while the biggest dipshits in the US Congress weighed their opportunities for assholery. But late last night, the House also approved the deal.

Welcome to 2013!

Anyway. Here are some links!

Suzy Khimm: Everything You Need to Know About the Fiscal Cliff Deal.

Steve Benen: The Fiscal Deal: A Tale of the Tape.

Jos: Congress Actually Does Their Job and Passes the Fiscal Cliff Deal, But That Doesn't Mean It's a Win.

Paul Krugman: Conceder in Chief and Perspective on the Deal.

Michael Cohen: Fiscal Cliff Reveals How Dysfunctional Republican Nihilism Makes US Politics.

Igor Volsky: GOP Congressmen Suggest Republican Senators Who Voted for 'Fiscal Cliff' Compromise Were Drunk.

Discuss!

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Open Thread

Rosie the Riveter wielding a giant teaspoon.

Hosted by Rosie the Riveter.

Happy 2013, Shakers! The Radical Gay Secular Feminazi Cooter Agenda ain't gonna promulgate itself, people. Let's get to work!

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Happy New Year's Eve

image of Matilda, Olivia, and Sophie; Sophie is blowing a noisemaker, Olivia is wearing a party hat and licking her nose, and Matilda is saying, 'Auld Lang Wev.'

From the Cats of Shakes Manor.

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Slàinte mhor a h-uile là a chi 's nach fhaic!

image of a snowglobe with a teaspoon in it labeled Happy, Holidays, Shakers!

Thank you for another great year, Shakers.

Many of the contributors and mods are already on their journeys and/or are going to be traveling next week, and we all need a nice long break, so we're taking off next week, through New Year's Day. We'll be back on Wednesday, January 2, at which time we will resume your regularly scheduled abundance of incisive feminist commentary, political snark, pop culture deconstruction, cute things, and farts.

See you sooooooooooooooooon!

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Headline of the Day

Marijuana, Not Yet Legal for Californians, Might as Well Be.

LOL. This headline brought to you by a grumpy dad who has resigned himself to your pagan tattoos and that dumbass boyfriend of yours with the holes in his ears.

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An Observation About Mental Illness

[Content Note: Guns; sexual violence; disablism; self-harm.]

So, earlier today, the NRA's Wayne LaPierre suggested that a national database of people with mental illness is a reasonable preventative measure to curb mass shootings:

The truth is, that our society is populated by an unknown number of genuine monsters. People that are so deranged, so evil, so possessed by voices and driven by demons, that no sane person can every possibly comprehend them. They walk among us every single day, and does anybody really believe that the next Adam Lanza isn't planning his attack on a school, he's already identified at this very moment? How many more copycats are waiting in the wings...? A dozen more killers, a hundred more? How can we possibly even guess how many, given our nation's refusal to create an active national database of the mentally ill?
Now, this has the same problems I've previously delineated regarding flagging mental illness: That not all people with mental illness are violent; that not all violent people are mentally ill; that not all mental illness looks the same, especially when "mental illness" is used so broadly as to group all manner of psychological disabilities into one giant category that its evocateurs evidently use synonymously with "fucked in the head."

But here is a further issue with LaPierre's contemptible suggestion: There are millions of people in the United States whose mental illnesses have been caused by trauma.

My mental illness was caused by trauma. The person who raped me owned a gun. I remember him pulling it out from under the seat of his car and showing it to me, and how, as I looked at the glistening steel, my head got light and I had the curious thought that I was too busy trying not to faint in the presence of this weapon, this thing that could kill me, to be scared of it. It was his father's gun. His father owned lots of guns.

One of the things that kept me from reporting what was happening to me sooner was that gun, and the threats that accompanied its every brandishment. I will kill your family. I will kill your dogs. My dogs, who lived outside. I let myself be hurt again and again because of the fear of that gun and what it could do.

Not just to me, but to everyone and everything I loved.

The NRA's position is that if I had had access to a gun, that wouldn't have happened. The NRA is wrong. Because there is no way that I could have held a gun in my hands and pointed it at him and pulled the trigger. Not even in the very worst moment. Part of that is something in my individual constitution. Part of it is that I sort of loved him in a teenage way once upon a time, and it's hard for me to imagine killing someone I don't know who is trying to hurt me, no less someone I do, and someone I once trusted and adored. And part of it is that, for some people, of whom I'm one, the experience of having violence done to you gives you a kind of inflexible resolve not to do the same to anyone else, ever.

I would say an inability, but that is not right. I have the capacity to do violence to others. I utterly lack the will.

Some of the survivors of the Sandy Hook Elementary School shooting will emerge with an altered disposition not unlike my own. I don't mean just the cringing aversion to doing violence to others and the compulsion to do violence to oneself. I mean the mental illness of which it is a part.

That is the thought I cannot escape when I hear Wayne LaPierre make even passing mention of a national database of people with mental illness. Some, or all, survivors of the shooting which prompted his grotesque public statement will inevitably belong on that theoretical list, because of the trauma done to them.

In favor of Othering the decidedly human shooters behind these attacks, he speaks of evil and monsters and demons, and he carelessly elides the psychological carnage they leave in their wake, refusing to acknowledge the post-traumatic stress disorder, the anxiety, the depression, and the associated afflictions with which many victims of trauma who are lucky enough to survive are unlucky enough to be left with.

The person who raped me would almost certainly not be flagged for mental illness with a propensity for violence, but, even if he were, we'd end up on that list together—which reveals what such a database really is: The names of the people who are inconvenient to justifications of the NRA's bullshit policies.

People who might do violence. People who have had violence done to them.

There is something indescribably vile about a proponent of unregulated access to guns throwing us all in together, refusing to acknowledge in even the most cursory way the association between surviving gun violence, trauma, and mental illness.

The lack of decency and accountability is hardly surprising, but it is no less loathsome.

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Friday Blogaround

This blogaround brought to you by homemade candles.

Recommended Reading:

WJAC: [Content Note: Violence; guns] Four dead in Blair County, Pennsylvania, Shooting; Three troopers Injured

Peter: The 2012 Top Ten List No One Wants to Read [Content Note: Violence; neglect.]

Imara: We Can't Fix Our Economy Without Confronting White Supremacy

Nikole: No Sting: Feds Won't Go Undercover to Prove Housing Discrimination

Andy: Chuck Hagel Apologizes for 'Insensitive' Anti-Gay Remarks; Says He Is Committed to Open Service, LGBT Military Families

Jennifer: Bali Declaration Offers a Progressive Vision for World's Youth

FMF News: Gender Gap Drastically Increases After Motherhood

Amantha: War Widows Struggle Under Patriarchal Traditions

Living ~400lbs: "What is a job for a morbidly obese woman?"

Emjb via Libby Anne: On How Fetuses Are Made

Fuck Yeah Parks and Rec: Flush Tones

TDW: Gangnam Style Reaches ONE BILLION Views

Nick: There must have been minimalism in that old silk hat they found.

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