Gay Saudi Diplomat Requests Asylum

Ali Ahmad Asseri, first secretary of the Saudi consulate in Los Angeles, has applied to the U.S. Dept. of Homeland Security for asylum as a member of "a particular social group" subject to persecution in his homeland. Asseri wrote, in an email to NBC,

My life is in a great danger here and if I go back to Saudi Arabia, they will kill me openly in broad daylight.
Asseri has been based at the Saudi embassy in Los Angeles for five years. He says that, in recent months, Saudi consulate employees who suspected that he is gay began to follow him to gay bars. They also discovered his close friendship with a Jewish woman from Israel. Subsequently, Asseri says, consulate officials began harassing him.

They have refused to renew his diplomatic passport, continue to monitor his private life, and have demanded he return to Saudi Arabia. Says Asseri
Words cannot express the anger I feel about how I have been treated.
Other gay Saudis have been granted asylum by the U.S., according to Ally Bolour, Asseri's lawyer. But Asseri's status as a diplomat — and recent statements he has made which have been critical of the Saudi royal family — give Asseri's case a political status unlike the others.

That criticism was made in a letter Asseri recently posted on a Saudi website, in which he also castigated the role of what he called "militant imams" who have "defaced the tolerance of Islam." I think it's safe to say that Asseri would not be well-received in his homeland.

Although the msnbc article suggests reasons why the U.S. government wishes to remain on good terms with the Saudi government, in combination with the asylum request, create "an especially awkward dilemma", I doubt that granting this man asylum would inhibit that relationship. The White House is currently seeking Congressional approval of the sale of $60 billion worth of warplanes to the Saudi government. Nothing brings governments together like military hardware.

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Just FYI



That's Parker Stevenson on the left and Jameson Parker on the right.

[Cross-posted.]

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[Strong TW: Anti-trans murders] And so it goes...

[Trigger warning applies to all links.]

I was checking out the news this morning, and I came across multiple stories of trans women being murdered. Ugh. The murder of trans women is the most horrifying version of business as usual, an actual meme in an actual world that owes trans people much, much more.

Thankfully, Helen and Lisa at Questioning Transphobia have already provided summaries and links. I don't have anything else to say :(

Two women murdered in Puerto Rico: QT, EdgeBoston

Victoria Carmen White of Newark, NJ murdered: QT, Baristanet

On a related note, Helen's posted a report of Trans Respect versus Transphobia's Murder Monitoring Project. The data are here. 93 trans people were killed in the first half of 2010. That's 93 murders in 181 days.

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I Write Letters

Dear Mitch Daniels,

No. No to the hell to the no. No, no, no. I mean it. Really. No way. No how. Hell no.


"No no no no no no no no no no no no no no."

No. Nope. Nuh-uh. Nah. No the noth power. www.no.com. Not even the tiniest, infinitesimal, unfathomable modicum. Nopey nopey nope. Negatory. Nein. Nyet. Non. Nei. Naheen. Hell fuckin' no.


"Nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo!"

Love,
Liss

P.S. No.

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Question of the Day



What's your favourite breakfast cereal?

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This is so the worst thing you're going to read all day.

Boys vs. girls: Who's harder to raise?

Forget that old poem about snips and snails and puppy dog tails, says Sharon O'Donnell, a mom of three boys and the author of "House of Testosterone".

"Somehow it's been changed to boys being made of 'fights, farts, and video games,' and sometimes I'm not sure how much more I can take!"

Not so fast, say moms of girls, who point out that they have to contend with fussier fashion sense, more prickly social navigations, and a far greater capacity to hold a grudge. And as a daughter grows, a parent's concerns range from body image to math bias.
Despite the caveats about socialization throughout, one is nonetheless left with an overwhelming sense of "girls are like this" and "boys are like that," and never shall the twain meet.

Oopsy!

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Photo of the Day


Photo Description: Presenter Cher walks onstage to present Video of the Year at the 2010 MTV Video Music Awards in LA this weekend, wearing her Bob Mackie "If I Could Turn Back Time" ensemble. [Reuters.] Another great pic can be viewed here.

She is sixty-four years old, bitchez! And yeah, yeah, I know, if we all had that much money and the best plastic surgeons that money could buy blah blah, but I'm not expressing amazement at how good or young she looks; I'm expressing my respect for her seemingly boundless willingness to take it on the chin for all of us to unapologetically defy expectations of what a woman is "supposed" to be and do.

Basically, I'm just admiring her quintessential Cher-ness.

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Daily Dose o' Cute


Dudley was really not ready to go back in the house after our noon potty break, so I grabbed my notebook, popped a squat in the grass, and wrote this post longhand to give him a chance to lie in the sunshine. When he was ready to go back in, he came over into the shade, nudged my cheek with his nose, and flopped down beside me to patiently wait until I was done writing.

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Today's Edition of "Conniving and Sinister"



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See Deeky's archive of all previous Conniving & Sinister strips here.

[In which Liss reimagines the long-running comic "Frank & Ernest," about two old straight white guys "telling it like it is," as a fat feminist white woman (Liss) and a biracial queerbait (Deeky) telling it like it actually is from their perspectives. Hilarity ensues.]

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Feminism 101: My Body Is Mine

[Trigger reference for mentions of disordered eating and self-harm, as well as implicit theme of body policing.]

My body is mine. All mine.

It is my domain into which none may enter without my explicit and enthusiastic consent.

It is mine to care for and dress and decorate and modify and use and inhabit in whatever way I want, so long as my choices don't infringe upon anyone else's right to do precisely the same.

My hair is mine, to cut or grow or style or color or shave or not shave or keep or lose, gracefully or ungracefully, as I choose.

My skin is mine, to pierce or tattoo or scar or burn or pearl or implant or otherwise alter as I choose, to cover or reveal in measures I determine.

My bones are mine, and my blood, and all my internal organs, the parts or wholes of which I may choose to donate to someone else who needs them.

My mind is mine, and the thoughts that reside therein—my ideology, my principles, my memory, my dreams, my experience, my perceptions, my humor, my choices.

My sexuality is mine, and the things that attract and excite me. My desire is mine—who I want to fuck and how often, whether I want to fuck in the first place, and how. Who I want to love, and let love me.

My gender is mine, and the choices I make about my gender presentation, and the decisions I make about whether the corporeal body that is my own must be changed in some big or small ways to reflect the gender I know myself to be.

My teeth are mine, and my tongue, and my tonsils, and everything down to my toes.

Choices about whether and how to abuse my body, and how to define what constitutes abuse (extreme sports? binge drinking? tongue bifurcation? overeating? under-eating? smoking? skin bleaching? wearing high heels?), and communicating my boundaries for intervention to those close to me, are my own.

My reproduction is mine. My reproductive choices are my own—whether to reproduce at all, and with whom, and when, and how often. My contraceptive decisions are my own, with the input of consenting partner/s.

I make the decisions about where my body goes and where it belongs and how it locomotes from place to place.

My abilities are my own. My disabilities are my own.

My healthcare choices are my own, along with the decisions about what foods and drinks and drugs, legal and less so. How my body is best nourished is a decision that belongs to me.

I know my body, and, though I may occasionally, or often, or some frequency in between, solicit the advice of professional people who know about bodies generally, and how to diagnose and fix and care for them, I claim without qualification the unreserved right to be an expert on what feels best and right and good for my body, as a unique entity.

One day, given the opportunity, I may make a decision about when my body stops living. I have chosen who will make decisions about my body and the life it holds (or doesn't) if I am rendered incapable. My choices about what happens to my body after it is dead are mine to make.

My choices are not empirically "right." They are right for me.

Because I am an adult woman who fervently believes in the radical notion that my body is mine.

And your body is yours.

[Related Reading: Proposed.]

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Senate Subcommittee Hearing Will Investigate Institutional Impediments to Justice in Cases of Sexual Violence

by Shaker soupcann314, who works at the Women's Law Project's Pittsburgh office.

[Trigger warning for rape/sexual assault.]

Tomorrow afternoon, the U.S. Senate Judiciary Subcommittee on Crime and Drugs will hold a public hearing on "Rape in the United States: The Chronic Failure to Report and Investigate Rape Cases." Senator Arlen Specter, chairman of the subcommittee, scheduled the hearing at the request of the Women's Law Project, which has been working on this issue since the Philadelphia Inquirer reported in October 1999 that the Philadelphia Police Department was labeling rape cases as non-violent offenses and dismissing reports as "groundless" after little or no investigation. The WLP spearheaded an advocacy effort that resulted in a reinvestigation of police files, finding 681 cases which should have been classified and investigated as rapes and 1700 other cases which should have been investigated as other sex crimes.

Recently, the WLP has been contacted by reporters in several other major American cities, including New York, Baltimore, New Orleans, St. Louis, Milwaukee and Cleveland, about police departments using similar tactics to sweep reports of rape under the rug. The stories from around the U.S. are heartbreaking:

  • In Cleveland, Anthony Sowell was accused of assaulting and raping numerous women in his home, but wasn't prosecuted until police finally investigated the property and found the bodies of 11 murdered women, most of whom were strangled to death. Two victims who escaped from Sowell were not considered credible by police and their cases were ignored, even though blatant evidence (including blood at the reported crime scene) linked Sowell to the crimes.

  • In Baltimore, a 32-year-old woman was raped at gunpoint. At the hospital, a police officer asked her questions clearly indicating that he didn't believe her account, including why she waited for two hours before calling the police and why she hadn't just flagged down a squad car. After this accusatory line of questioning following her rape, the woman retracted her statement and the crime was re-classified as "unfounded." The Baltimore Sun reported that more than 30% of cases investigated by the police are labeled "unfounded," five times the national average. And in 4 out of 10 emergency calls to the police involving reports of rape, officers conclude that "there is no need for a further review, so the case never makes it to detectives."

  • In Milwaukee, a woman tried to report being raped several times by Gregory Tyson Below over the course of hours, but was told at three different police stations to go someplace else. She says she was assaulted by Below two more times and finally moved to Georgia to get away from him. In a separate assault by Below, police disbelieved the woman, who they found bruised and naked from the waist down, because they discovered she had a previous drug charge.

    One of the victims testifying tomorrow is Sara Reedy, a Butler County, PA, woman who reported her assault to the police and ended up being arrested for false reporting. She spent five days in jail and awaited trial for months before her charges were dropped – when her assailant confessed to assaulting her and two subsequent women.

    In her testimony, Carol Tracy, executive director of the Women's Law Project, will ask Congress to direct the FBI to charge the Uniform Crime Program staff to undertake a nationwide audit of police practices to insure that local law enforcement agencies are recognizing and investigating sex crimes so that they are properly reported as crimes to the FBI.

    She'll also discuss the need to update the FBI's Uniform Crime Reporting system's definition of what constitutes rape. The definition that is still used today was adopted in 1927 and classifies "forcible rape" as "the carnal knowledge of a female, forcibly and against her will." This definition identifies only forced penile-vaginal penetration as rape and completely ignores the many other forms that rape can take.

    You should be able to watch the hearings live online here at 2:15 PM EDT on Tuesday, September 14. Let's hope that the federal spotlight on this issue will make every police department in the country review how they handle rape and sexual assault cases. In the meantime, advocates will continue to work for the day when every rape victim's account is taken seriously and investigated thoroughly by the systems that should be in place to help and protect them.

    You can view contact the members of the Senate Judiciary Committee here to thank them for holding the hearing and encourage them to approve a nationwide audit of police practices when it comes to reporting and investigating rape cases.

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    Ugh

    This is why Sarah Palin makes me want to barf: Because she frequently credits to "God" what is rightly attributable to privilege, and says things like "The government that governs least governs best," and "Why is it called the far right when it is just common sense?" which, given the current state of conservatism and its reliance on turning marginalized populations into wedge issues, is just a more polite way of saying, "Stereotypes exist because they're true."

    Palin's primary talent as a politician is delivering a steady stream of pandering mendacity without a hint of compunction to people who long desperately for scapegoats, lest they have to at long last admit gormless complicity via ballot in the ruination of the economy that once gave them a genuinely envious standard of living.

    That is an authentic political talent. It's just also a resoundingly detestable one—particularly when used to such convincing effect by a person claiming to share hir audience's onerous circumstances, advising them to pray for relief just before walking away with a five-figure speaker's fee.

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    Monday Blogaround

    This blogaround brought to you by Shaxco, publishers of the award-winning Deeky W. Gashlycrumb memoir, Layovers in Cleveland.

    Recommended Reading:

    Andy: Pope Benedict Sets Stage for UK Visit with Attack on Gay Marriage

    Steve: Boehner's Big 3% Concession

    Mustang Bobby: Not All Conservatives Are Racists, But...

    Fannie: End Not Near In Post-Same-Sex-Marriage Iowa

    Pam: Charlie Crist Releases Position Paper Supporting LGBT Rights (But Not Marriage)

    Scott: Finally, a Fresh Idea!

    Leave your links in comments...

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    The Overton Window: Recap and Cover

    It's been a while since we read The Overton Window, so I thought a little refresher might be in order.

    In the prologue we met Eli Churchill, undercover janitor spy working to expose a massive conspiracy. There's lots of money and some missing nukes and a plan to build a new "political and economic and social structure."

    Eli rings up Beverly (yay for payphones!) to tell her all about it, but is murdered (boo for silencers!) before he can spill the beans.

    Our story's reluctant hero is Noah Gardner, PR wiz with an aimless existence. He has "an outstanding record of success with the ladies" but that all falls apart when he meets Molly Ross, auburn-haired, teabagging patriot.

    Molly is sassy and hates PR people Naturally, Eli is taken with her.

    The villain of this tale is Noah's father: Darth Gardner. I mean Arthur Gardner. He's a PR wiz with dreams of world domination. He invented bottled water, thinks "Social Security was the boldest Ponzi scheme in history" and, I guess, hates America.

    Arthur Gardner lays out his plan for a "new framework" in a very corporate manner: via Xeroxed hand-out and Powerpoint.

    Okay, so there we are. Noah, Molly, and Arthur, teaparty rallies, the NWO, and Powerpoint. The excitement just jumps off the page, doesn't it?

    Before I jump back into the story, there is something I wanted to comment on: The cover. (See below.)


    It is, at first glance, an image of the Statue of Liberty overlooking the New York skyline. Except there have been a few changes to Liberty's familiar visage.

    First, and most noticeable, is Liberty's left arm. Her tabula ansata and been replaced with what looks like a rifle. I'm guessing it's a Revolutionary-era musket. (Other theories are welcome.)

    Less noticeable is Lady Liberty's recasting as a man. Note the broad, masculine shoulders. (And what is commonly referred to in certain circles as a "swimmer's build.") The robe, originally covering the right upper arm and shoulders, now drapes over the left shoulder, and just barely.

    If viewed from the front, Liberty's chest would be exposed. I think we can safely assume Liberty isn't showing off her titties. Liberty, now male, bares his chest in defiance.

    Discuss.

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    Number of the Day

    30%. The increase from 2007 through 2009 in the number of families (defined as at least one adult and one minor child) in homeless shelters, according to the Department of Housing and Urban Development.

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    Quote of the Day

    "What if [Obama] is so outside our comprehension, that only if you understand Kenyan, anti-colonial behavior, can you begin to piece together [his actions]? That is the most accurate, predictive model for his behavior."—Professional wankstain Newt Gingrich.

    Ironically, the actual "most accurate, predictive model for [Obama's] behavior" is Republicanism, before Newt Gingrich ascended to the Speakership, drew up a Contract With America, and turned the Republican Party into the party of corporatocrats and the ignorant, bigoted rubes who can't vote fast or hard enough for their own economic demise.

    [Previous Newt.]

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    Two-Minute Nostalgia Sublime



    Cube Squared: "Baby Doll"

    For Spudsy, who looked after TMNS for me while I was away last week. Thanks, Paul!

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    Math Is Hard! (For Girls.)

    by Shaker Talonas

    So I was doing my thing on Facebook, which usually consists of playing Pot Farm and Market Place, when I was delivered this gem of an advertisement.


    ["Math Games for Girls—Always Ice Cream: Girls 7-12 collect "ice cream" for practicing multiplication, fractions, exponents, and more. It's fun, safe, and creative. FREE trial!"]

    The app can be found here, where visitors are greeted by an impossibly thin teenage girl avatar in a weirdly provocative pose, saying, "Hi, I'm Aki! Join our awesome girls site - cute animals, fun games, and your real friends. Even your parents will like the site because you also learn important stuff."

    Let's start with the notion that girls cannot learn math without the proverbial carrot being dangled in front of them. Girls from a very young age are taught, in direct and indirect ways, that they are inherently lacking in math skills (but excel in social and verbal skills) by virtue of their femaleness.

    To this day, as an adult woman, I catch myself saying things like "I'm not really good at math." When I know for a fact that I am good at it. I like math; I find myself doing math in my head all the time just for the fun of it. But I'm not supposed to like math, or be good at it—I'm a girl.

    This insidious notion is further perpetuated with games like "Always Ice Cream" that suggest girls couldn't possibly be interested in math, or motivated to learn it, unless the lesson is bathed in the color pink and the female pupils bribed with things that girls obviously like. Hence the ice cream.

    And Liss pointed out something else, when I emailed her about this application: "But what about the OH NOES OBESITY CRISIS?! Surely we can't be motivating girls with ICE CREAM or they'll GET FAT!!!"

    Which reminded me of some of the stereotyping that I dealt with in high school, and the overlapping prejudices against being a fat chick and being a math nerd. I only liked math because I was a fat chick and had nothing better to do, or I was fat because I was a girl who paid too much attention to books and not enough to my appearance, or various other equations of similar antiquated malarkey.

    It would be great if we could instead have more apps, programs, games etc. that focus on making math fun for children—ALL children—in a gender-neutral way, without phrases like "Math for girls!" as if we just discovered that girls can also like math.

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    Citibank's Recommendations for the Ladeez

    Blogger David Xia recently posted a scan of a laminated card his friend nicked from Citibank's offices, "on a floor he suspects was the human resources department," while interviewing there:

    Citi Logo / What NOT to do / What women do to sabotage their careers / TOP 10 things to remember / 1. Women tend to speak softly—you are not heard. 2. Women groom in public—emphasizes your femininity and deemphasizes your capability. 3. Women sit demurely—the power position when seated at a tables is forearms resting on a table and resting forward. 4. Speak last in meetings—early speakers are seen as more assertive and knowledgeable than late speakers. 5. Women ask permission—children are taught to ask permission. Men don't ask permission, they inform. 6. Apologize—women apologize for the smallest error which erodes your self-confidence. Men tend to move into problem-solving mode. 7. Women tend to smile inappropriately—when delivering a message, therefore you are not get taken seriously. 8. Play fair—women tend to be more naive. A woman might assume the rules have to be obeyed whereas a man will figure out a way to stretch the rules and not be punished. 9. Being invisible—women tend to operate behind the scenes and end up handing the credit over to the competitor. 10. Offer a limp handshake—one good pump and a concise greeting combined with solid eye contact will do the trick.
    "That's what she said!"—Citibank.

    (Emphasis, terrible punctuation, and grammatical mistakes original.)

    David notes the 10-points "are taken from an actual book titled Nice Girls Don’t Get the Corner Office: 101 Unconscious Mistakes Women Make That Sabotage Their Careers by a woman who earned a Ph.D. in psychology," and apparently is making a handsome living filling the role of the Exceptional Woman Who Navigates the Patriarchy by Pretending It Doesn't Exist and Selling Out Other Women to Ingratiate Herself With Misogynist Men.

    For their part, Citibank says: "The material in question is not part of Citi's formal leadership training or human resources communications. It appears to have been taken from a published book by a noted author in the field of executive coaching." Yeah, it just fell out of the book that way—laminated and bearing the company logo.

    Naturally, the "not part of Citi's formal leadership training" dodge is absurd. That it exists at all, official enough that it bears the company logo, creates a hostile workplace for all the company's female employees, who, like nearly every other woman working in corporate America, is already expected to navigate the impossibly thin course of being feminine-but-not-too-feminine while acting-like-a-man-but-not-acting-too-much-like-a-man in the never-ending patriarchal game of Can't Fucking Win.

    [H/T to Shakers Phyllis, Maritzia, and Lizardbreath.]

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