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Zaid at Think Progress (emphasis original):

[Yesterday was] the anniversary of the passage of the 19th amendment to the U.S. Constitution, which granted the right to vote to women. The U.S. Chamber of Commerce has decided to use this day of equal rights for women to argue that women are now to blame for unequal pay in the workplace. On the organization’s official blog, ChamberPost, Senior Director of Communications Brad Peck today makes the argument that the pay gap between men and women in the American workforce — women currently earn roughly 77 cents to every dollar a man earns — is "the result of individual choice rather than discrimination." He argues that, instead of bold legislative action being taken to help correct this pay gap, women should pick the "obvious, immediate, power-of-the-individual solution: choosing the right place to work and choosing the right partner at home":
Most of the current "pay gap" is the result of individual choice rather than discrimination. [...]

It is true that culturally speaking women are more likely to have to make the tough choices about work-life balance. But as we all seek to fit our values into a dynamic 24/7 economy, let's not overlook the obvious, immediate, power-of-the-individual solution: choosing the right place to work and choosing the right partner at home.
Peck's argument that women could close the pay gap by simply choosing jobs in better paying fields and marrying wealthier men is based on a faulty premise — that the pay gap in the United States between genders exists because women choose to work for less and men choose to work for more.

While it's true that women sometimes migrate into fields that have lower pay, what Peck ignores is that even within the same occupation, women are paid less.
I'm just going to go ahead and direct you over to the lovely Echidne for a response to this mess, and add a note that Peck's solution, despite his careful use of "partner," is profoundly heterocentrist. Even affording him the most generous interpretation of "choosing the right partner at home"—that he intended to mean a woman needs to choose a good partner to help with work-life balance, rather than subsidize her lower income—that admonishment fundamentally ignores that being an out lesbian in large swaths of this country can affect one's employment options, so scolding those women for not "choosing" their employment more carefully is pretty damn ignorant.

As, of course, is suggesting that other women with intersectional identities potentially facing multiple biases from possible employers—women of color, trans women, disabled women, fat women, women with dwarfism, etc.—all have the same employment opportunities, and thus the same choices, as the most privileged women.

Or that even the most privileged women have the same opportunities and choices as the most privileged men.

If you are so inclined, you can contact the US Chamber of Commerce here.

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Top Chef Open Thread


[Image from last night's show: Chefjudicator Gordon Ramsay gives an unidentified Redshirt "what for" over a dirty pan. Dawn cuts grease, by the way, for future reference.]

Last night's episode will be delicately brunoised, so if you haven't seen it, and don't want any sauerkrau, pack your knives and go...

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Ah, Hillary Clinton: How We Still Love to Demean You

I love checking out the news agencies' photos of Hillary Clinton, because, on any given day, there could be a brilliant picture of our female Secretary of State doing something great, or one of the Remember Your Place pictures. Clinton is typically reminded of her place, as a woman, in one of two ways: The accoutrements of womanhood photo (high heels, lipstick), and the zany face photo. There are an endless number of images of Hillary Clinton making zany faces; just do a Google image search for "Hillary Clinton," and you'll see what I mean. "Bitch is crazy!" their preponderance seems to say.

Today, after not checking photos for awhile, I found these two gems:

The shoes of U.S. Secretary of State Hillary Clinton are seen as she talks about the New START treaty while at the U.S. State Department in Washington, August 11, 2010. [Reuters Pictures]
START, for those who don't know, is the Strategic Arms Reduction Treaty. So you can understand why it's important to get a glimpse of the shoes Clinton is wearing while discussing the reduction and limitation of strategic offensive arms in the United States and Russia.

US Secretary of State Hillary Clinton (C) greets women attending a Women's Empowerment event at the US Embassy in Kabul on July 20, 2010. Afghan women have long been excluded from public education, healthcare, employment opportunities, and participating in public life. US Secretary of State Hillary Clinton told a major international conference in Kabul July 20 that there was still 'much more work' for the Afghan government to do to stabilise the country. [Getty Images]
You know, the zany face photos are fucking annoying enough when Clinton, who's made global women's rights a centerpiece of her tenure at the State Department and takes global women's rights more seriously than anyone at the top levels of US government in the nation's history, isn't positioned between two Afghan women at a Women's Empowerment event. But this is just beyond crass.

Post-feminist blah blah barf.

And, yes, it's a little thing. But it is, of course, the little things which make the big stuff of institutionalized sexism that much harder to eradicate. The pervasive, ubiquitous, inescapable little things—the small slights and almost imperceptible reminders that women, even important women, are less than—create the foundation of a sexist culture on which the big stuff is dependent for its survival. It's the little things, the constant drumbeat of inequality and objectification, that inure us to increasingly horrible acts and attitudes toward women.

It's those little things that we are called "oversensitive" for pointing out, and so we hesitate, and second-guess, and self-censor, lest we be accused of being one of those feminists. We let the little stuff go, as if it isn't the fertile soil in which everything else takes root and from whence everything else springs.

As if the little things aren't the way that the fundamental idea that women are not equal to men is conveyed over and over and over again.

[Related Reading: Today in Trailblazing and Misogyny: Photos of the Day.]

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Question of the Day

Since I've been thinking about questions lately, I've been wondering:

If there were a truly progressive advice columnist, who would tell you the progressive, compassionate, and effective way to handle a personal dillemma, what question would you ask?

Edited to Clarify: These questions are NOT going to be used in my show (referenced in the link) -- unless you specifically ask me to do so.

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What is the deal...

...with the fucking mosquitoes this year?! ARGH. Not only are they plentiful and alarmingly huge, they are super aggressive. I am perpetually covered in mosquito bites, and the determined little fuckers are even biting my face and scalp this year.

I need a damn bat-house.

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FYI


[Previous FYI: Rick Astley; Eddie Murphy; The Eurythmics; Eddie Rabbit; Sinéad O'Connor; Was (Not Was); Bon Jovi; Kenny Rogers; Bobby McFerrin; Starship; Dead or Alive; Right Said Fred; Edie Brickell and the New Bohemians; Salt n Pepa; Nelson; The Cure; The Soup Dragons; Europe/BushCo; Elton John; Eddie Money; Human League; Glenn Frey, Van Halen. Hint: They're better if you click 'em!]

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WANT!!!


Golding Girls nesting dolls. By artist Ginger Williams.

Those are so ridiculously awesome they gave me a face-cracking grin and made me blub with happiness. Hot damn.

[Thanks very much to Shakers Ethyl and Kristen from MA for passing along the link!]

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Today's Edition of "Conniving and Sinister"



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See Deeky's archive of all previous Conniving & Sinister strips here.

[In which Liss reimagines the long-running comic "Frank & Ernest," about two old straight white guys "telling it like it is," as a fat feminist white woman (Liss) and a biracial queerbait (Deeky) telling it like it actually is from their perspectives. Hilarity ensues.]

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Wednesday Blogaround

This blogaround brought to you by Shaxco, proud distributors of Deeky W. Gashlycrumb's new cologne por homme, Dogfartz.

Recommended Reading:

scatx: The 19th Amendment: 90 Years Old Today

Rebecca: Why The LGBT Community Doesn't Believe Anything Democrats Say Anymore

Andy: Watchdog Pushes IRS to Investigate Anti-Gay Pastor for His Support of Oklahoma Rep. Sally Kern

Sandip Roy: Why "Eat, Pray, Love" Makes Me Want to Gag

Tassja: Racism and Social Responsibility, aka Why I Can't 'Just Enjoy' a Movie [TW for violence and othering]

Marianne: Delta Burke, Suzanne Sugarbaker, and My Memory of Being 9 Years Old

Atrios: Nobody Could Have Predicted

Also: Portly Dyke is looking for questions. Got any?

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Daily Dose o' Cute

Last weekend, my friend Miller was visiting from her adopted home Brazil, and we convened at the beach house at the Indiana Dunes, right on the shore of Lake Michigan, which has been in her family for generations. It was a lovely visit, which not only gave us a chance to see Miller and other friends, but also provided Dudley with his first opportunity to go for a swim.

The lake was the calmest as I've ever seen it on Saturday, and when I walked Dudz down to the water's edge, he trotted straight into the water and followed me out into the lake, where he paddled toward me into ever deeper water. Greyhounds are not naturally strong swimmers, having no body fat to help keep them afloat, but he took to it well and really enjoyed it. Iain went back to the house to get the camera, so we could film a bit of it.


The next day, the wind had picked up and the waves were crashing on the shore. Dudz didn't like the rougher water, which pushed him off-balance and splashed over his head at unexpected times, so Iain and I took turns swimming and sitting with him on the beach.

He was very nervous about either of us being in water he didn't feel was safe, though: When I was in the water, Iain tried to take him for a walk down the beach, and he didn't want to go, continually looking out over the water for me. When Iain was in the water, Dudz would get anxious every time a big wave blocked our view of his bobbling head. Once Iain returned to shore, Dudz laid across my legs protectively, looking at me pleadingly, as if to say, "Please don't go in that water again!" We stayed on the beach. :)

It was Dudley's first night away from home, and he did splendidly. When we got home the next day, the three kitteh girls came running to greet us, and I was pleased that they seemed happy to see Dudley again, too. Sophie went up to say hi and bumped his nuzzle with her wee head, as happy cats are wont to do. He licked her face, as happy dogs are wont to do.

Below the fold, still pix of Dudz swimming and chillaxing at the beach.


"Phbbbbbbbbbbbbbt!"


"This is so much better than life at the racetrack."


"I'm practically a Labrador over here!"


Dudz working on his tan.


It's a dog's life.


Paws in the sand!


Dudz and his pal Iggy, all tuckered out after swimming.


Zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz.


Sunset at the beach. Photo by Iain.


Chicago skyline at sunset. Photo by Iain.


Just hanging. Saturday night.


Chilling out at the beach house, Sunday morning. What a good boy.

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The Best Thing You'll Read All Day

Male and female ability differences down to socialisation, not genetics.

[A] growing number of scientists are challenging the pseudo-science of "neurosexism", as they call it, and are raising concerns about its implications. These researchers argue that by telling parents that boys have poor chances of acquiring good verbal skills and girls have little prospect of developing mathematical prowess, serious and unjustified obstacles are being placed in the paths of children's education.

In fact, there are no major neurological differences between the sexes, says Cordelia Fine in her book Delusions of Gender, which will be published by Icon next month. There may be slight variations in the brains of women and men, added Fine, a researcher at Melbourne University, but the wiring is soft, not hard. "It is flexible, malleable and changeable," she said.

In short, our intellects are not prisoners of our genders or our genes and those who claim otherwise are merely coating old-fashioned stereotypes with a veneer of scientific credibility. It is a case backed by Lise Eliot, an associate professor based at the Chicago Medical School. "All the mounting evidence indicates these ideas about hard-wired differences between male and female brains are wrong," she told the Observer.

"Yes, there are basic behavioural differences between the sexes, but we should note that these differences increase with age because our children's intellectual biases are being exaggerated and intensified by our gendered culture. Children don't inherit intellectual differences. They learn them. They are a result of what we expect a boy or a girl to be."
There's more, oh so much more, at the link.

[H/T to Shaker Asubjectivity.]

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Quote of the Day

"[I]ts only intention was to bring a smile to a few peoples faces, and possibly irritate a few others. Is it fair? Does that matter? It wasn't intended to be fair. It was intended to be funny."Randy Brown, webmaster for the Minnesota GOP website, who posted a video titled "Republican Women vs Democrat Women," featuring undoctored images of conservative women set to Tom Jones' "She's a Lady" followed by doctored images of liberal women, and/or images of them making weird expressions, set to "Who Let the Dogs Out?".

(Note that the video is not merely misogynist, but transphobic, homophobic, and racist as well.)

"Is it fair? Does that matter?" pretty much sums up the entire GOP platform these days.

[H/T to Shaker Ashley.]

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'Ella' Emergency Contraception Approved by FDA

Good news for American women, as the FDA has finally given approval to Ella, a drug which can be taken up to five days past unprotected sex, and which will (in some as-yet undetermined manner) prevent pregnancy. I say "prevent" because it's not at all clear exactly how the pill works - whether it's by preventing implantation of a fertilized egg, or by some other method. The chemical is related to that of RU-486, but is not the same one.

It is said to be more effective than Plan B (currently available OTC in the US), but is a prescription medication at the present time. I'm sure it'll only be a short time before Obama's Bipartisan Wankery Strategy Committee comes up with some useful and totally-not-partisan-at-all way of restricting women's access.

Under the "We have to give time to the people who think the world is flat too" principle, the article includes a quote from Ladies Against Women Concerned Women for America, an organization which strives to take away women's choices and bodily autonomy. I won't bother to quote them, because they've got nothing new to say, just the usual hazy ideas that someone's holy anthology is totes against it, even though it never mentions the matter, and they never actually explain why we should have to live by their holy anthology's rules anyhow.

As Liss said of the same group a couple of months back, speaking of the same drug:

If Wright (CC: head of CWA) were really concerned about women, and of course she isn't, she would support making available every option for women to terminate unwanted pregnancies, which include those caused by partner abuse.
Can't say it better than that.

Tip of the CaitieCap to Shaker thesensitivepharmacist for the link.

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Clang Clang Clang Went the Trolley Speaking Engagement

Yesterday I wrote about GOProud, a group of gay conservatives, and their upcoming "Homocon," featuring Ann Coulter, "the conservative Judy Garland," as their featured guest. Remember the first sentence of GOProud's mission?

GOProud represents gay conservatives and their allies.
What do you think, "allies?"

WND Drops Ann Coulter as Keynote Speaker at Conference

Oops.
Conservative website WND has dropped Ann Coulter as the keynote speaker at its upcoming conference over her plan to speak to a group in favor of gay rights.

WND says that Coulter's decision to speak at Homocon, an event sponsored by a gay Republican organization called GOProud, disqualifies her from speaking at their "Taking America Back National Conference."

"Ultimately, as a matter of principle, it would not make sense for us to have Ann speak to a conference about 'taking America back' when she clearly does not recognize that the ideals to be espoused there simply do not include the radical and very 'unconservative' agenda represented by GOProud," WND editor and CEO Joseph Farah said. "The drift of the conservative movement to a brand of materialistic libertarianism is one of the main reasons we planned this conference from the beginning."
(Bolds mine.)

Well, surely Ann Coulter will show GOProud some support, right? After all, she is the "Conservative Judy Garland..."
Coulter, who is and will remain a WND columnist, said she was hired to deliver a speech at Homocon but that does not mean she endorses GOProud's views.

"They hired me to give a speech, so I'm giving a speech. I do it all the time," she said. "I speak to a lot of groups and do not endorse them. I speak at Harvard and I certainly don't endorse their views. I've spoken to Democratic groups and liberal Republican groups that loooove abortion. The main thing I do is speak on college campuses, which is about the equivalent of speaking at an al-Qaida conference. I'm sure I agree with GOProud more than I do with at least half of my college audiences. But in any event, giving a speech is not an endorsement of every position held by the people I'm speaking to."
So, for those of you keeping score at home, a website (which employs her, mind you) has dropped Coulter as keynote speaker at their terribly, terribly important conference because she didn't tell a bunch of homos to go fuck themselves. Coulter repays said homos' embarrassing affection with a shrug and a sneer, saying they're not quite as bad as people who "loooove abortion," or an al-Qaida conference. Oh, but she'll take their money...

GOProud, meanwhile, continue to consider themselves "conservatives."

I'm sure they'll have so much to talk about when she comes to their little party.

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Bette Midler: "From A Distance"

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Troll Math and Teaspoons

[Trigger warning for violence and misogyny.]

Because Penny Arcade is the new Fat Princess, and thus following the same sad trajectory, I am naturally getting inundated with emails from irate fanboys who MUST DESTROY ME LULZ. Or at least tell me I'm fat and ugly and hysterical, which represents a creative vitality I've not witnessed since the glory days of the Dave Matthews tribute band, Trippin' Billies.

Of the impotent flailing in my inbox, many are of the "dumm bith variety, and some of the unrapable bitch variety. And then there are the ones helpfully trying to educate me through the cunning deployment of mansplaining and/or engage me in dialogue about what a silly, misguided lady I am:

Throughout your writings you make reference to a need to redefine manhood; I wonder if you might explain how or why this might be necessary? You frequently allude to men's boorish behavior toward women - to be sure, the examples you give are just ludicrously offensive. I have nothing but scorn for men who would grab a woman on a train, for example, or whistle at them. I have very rarely seen such behavior, though, and I know a large number of men who would never even consider acting so obnoxiously. I wonder if perhaps you are not projecting a couple of semi-civilized idiots' misogyny onto about half the world.
And then there are the ones from men who presume to speak for their female partners who are survivors of assault, all of whom have a sense of humor about rape, natch:
Like many women the victim of a rape, my partner has a sense of humor about rape. Not a "normal" sense of humor, often an uncomfortable sense of humor, but a sense of humor nonetheless. … We are not paternalist functionaries. We are familiar with the sacred, with reverence. We are both at the keyboard, and we know that when one loses one's sense of humor about something, when it becomes a sacred cow, then it's well on its way to becoming a dogma or a fascism.
And then there are the ones who just want me dead:
Grow the fuck up or get the hell off the Internet, because you're only going to continually get offended, be triggered, or whatever it is that you in particular do. And no one beyond your close-minded bootlicks give half a shit what you think, you ignorant bonehead. People can say what they want - shock, horror - and you need to deal. On the flip-side, I guess you can continue screeching about whatever sets you off, too, but just remember that no one with half a brain cares. Because nothing you have said in regards to this issue was at all new, insightful, meaningful, or relevant. The only thing anyone will get out of this is, "God damn there are a lot more humorless cunts in the world than I thought there were."

In short, I hope something pushes you far enough that you kill yourself. I'm tired of assholes breathing my air.
So, for those keeping score at home, the calculation appears to be:

Writing on one's personal blog an objection to a diminishment of concerns of survivors of sexual violence—overreacting.

Emailing that person to tell her you hope she has violence done to her and/or dies—sound, reasonable behavior.

(I am also enchanted by the concept of someone taking time to write to me only to tell me that "no one with half a brain cares" what I have to say. Without a trace of irony.)

Again, I will note that filling my inbox (and comments sections) with violent rhetoric, much of which includes allusions or overt references to sexual violence, merely proves my point. If it were, as my correspondents claim, so innocuous, it would hardly be the first thing for which they reach every time they want to lash out at someone.

But for every person who takes time out of their busy day to write a thousand-word thesis about how they don't care what I have to say, there are people who take time to write to me to say they value such critiques, or to say they've been given something to think about, or to tell me thank you for voicing what they don't have the security or words or platform to say. More people than ever before are showing up in my inbox to say they've begun to realize how fucked-up using rape as a punchline, or a metaphor, or a threat, really is. And a noticeably larger number of the people who are beginning to reexamine their use of violent rhetoric are men.

Among the emailers who contacted me along these lines was eBay seller thefremen10191, who has put up for auction his collection of Penny Arcade merchandise, 100% of the proceeds for which will be donated to Men Can Stop Rape.

The jack-booted defenders of the rape culture have nothing new to offer, nothing convincing in their arsenal—it's just the same yawn-inducing shit as always, intended to silence or intimidate, but ineffective at either because I'm a hard-headed, thick-skinned, determined-ass bitch.

But people who decide to take a stand against sexual violence, who expect more, never cease to surprise and delight and inspire me. They must be innovative, in opposition to such long- and deeply-entrenched malice—and so they are. Huzzah for teaspoons, and the champions who wield them.

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With Us or Against Us

In a contemptible echo of White House Press Secretary Robert Gibbs' recent comments lamenting the ingratitude of the "professional left," Deputy Director of the White House Office of Public Engagement Brian Bond used the occasion of a White House meeting with state LGBTQI equality groups to "express frustration at the often intense criticism levied, particularly by bloggers, against an administration that is '99 percent supportive of your issues'."

Says Pam: "If you're 99% supportive, that is a helluva 1% left over."

And if the president is 99% supportive, then his utter lack of leadership on LGBTQI issues is illustrative of what a craven, unprincipled, politicking jackass he is.

Meanwhile, as long as members of the Obama administration are going to sit around whinging about the lack of undiluted support from LGBTQI/lefty bloggers, journalists, commentators, and activists, I'd like them to detail how, precisely, our collective failure to sufficiently bootlick is responsible for any legislative failure they believe they've had.

Because, from where I'm sitting, the criticism is a result of the Obama administration successfully pursuing objectionable strategies and/or not pursuing progressive strategies, and even the Obama administration doesn't seem to feel like they're failing mightily on a progressive agenda. Which means the Obama administration isn't really complaining that we're tying their hands; it means they're complaining about not having enough cheerleaders baking delicious cookies for them.

And that sense of belligerent entitlement to praise and support, from people who aren't being well-served by their policies, is breathtaking in its arrogance.

[H/T to Shaker The Chemist.]

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I Write Letters

Dear Dr. Laura Schlessinger,

When you apologize for a racist rant that you claim to understand was deeply offensive to people, subsequently quitting your radio gig because "special interest groups" who have an agenda are trying to "silence" you, asserting that your "First Amendment rights have been usurped by angry, hateful groups," whining about people who won't accept your apology, and crowing that you "feel energized, actually—stronger and freer to say the things that I believe need to be said for people in this country," you pretty exhaustively undermine any possibility that your apology was sincere.

Just FYI.

Love,
Liss

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