Question of the Day

Suggested by Shaker Dreadful Invalid: "Name something that someone has told you about how you come off to others, which surprised you because you don't see it AT ALL."

I'm always surprised when someone imagines that I'm extroverted, especially people who know me in person, because I'm extremely not extroverted. But I think I understand it: Sometimes the fact that I am effervescent (as Iain describes me) with people I like and trust masks the fact that I am by nature very shy.

Just last night, Iain and I were having dinner with friends, whom we know because I met one of them when he answered my call for an Uber. We ended up chatting like old friends for the whole trip, and, uncharacteristically, I asked if we could stay in touch at the end of the ride. Like me, he is gregarious with people he knows, but tends to be very reserved with strangers, especially in group settings.

I observed that if we'd first encountered each other at a party, we might never have become friends, but because we had the good fortune of meeting one-on-one, we now have a friendship that's a year old. Yay!

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