So, in response to the ubiquitous admonishment that Adria Richards should have politely asked the men who were making a professional conference a hostile environment with sexually inappropriate jokes to please, sirs, stop being so gross, I started a hashtag: #IAskedPolitely, for people to document the responses they've gotten to politely asking for someone to stop harassing or harming them.

The point is not to start a conversation about whether we should be polite or not.

#IAskedPolitely is not about the validity of being polite. It's about the futility.

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