Telling people to "smile" and/or "laugh" is not, in fact, nice.

Telling people how to behave is an assertion of ownership; it is disdainful of individual agency, a failure to acknowledge boundaries and autonomy.

That auditing other people's emotions could be considered "nice" is absurd. But par for the course in a culture that is contemptuous of consent.

[H/T to Shaker Sophiefair.]

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