[Trigger warning for mention of suicide.]

Ugh: "Really, Man? The The 10 Biggest Myths About Guys" by Brendan Tapley, which includes such helpful insights as:
Next time you see your mate's desire for sex as chauvinistic, remember that he may be asking for proof that you and he are the team he fantasizes about.
Women, the usual victims of these limitations, most likely buy into the idea because it elevates them. The thing is, men are not limited; and if women decide to sacrifice a little superiority, they will gain better treatment by men.
While men may appear to prize freedom and independence, in their heart of hearts they truly value loyalty. In standing by her man, a woman can fill a primal absence.
Just ugh and more ugh. And the sad part is, this was one of the better male-authored articles marginally classifiable in the "Patriarchy Hurts Men, Too" genre. At least it gets the problem right. But WOMENZ NEED TO BE MOAR NURTURING!!!eleventy! is really, really not the solution.

This just about beats all in the Race to Ugh Mountain:
According to the National Institute of Mental Health, men commit suicide four times as often as women, and suicide currently ranks as the seventh leading cause of death for men. Watching for when a guy might be repressing reactions for the sake of masculine pride, and asking him to forgo that habit, is one way women can literally save a man's life.
It's like, yes, good partners, irrespective of gender, should always encourage healthy expression of negative feelings, to avoid stress and anxiety and depression and rage and the other issues that a back-up of repressed emotions can cause. But, no, that does not translate into "women need to urge men to change their behavior so they don't kill themselves."

Have I mentioned UGH? Ugh.

Btw, someone inform Mr. Tapley that "All Men Are Straight" is also a myth.

[H/T to Shaker mschicklet.]

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